Lost baby last week...dont know how to feel

So this baby was definatly a BIG suprise, we didnt think i could get pregnant ever again.I found out i was pregnant and miscarrying on the same day.Im sad because it brings up feelings from my previous m/c which i was a little farther along and I had known i was pregnant for a while.

So this time i feel ashamed for being sad over losing my baby that i didnt even know i was carrying.And at other times when im not quite as sad i feel guilty for not being more sad.I tried to just ignore it at first and pretend it didnt happen, but that was no use.So now im just plain sad.

And my hubby doesnt want to acknowledge that i was pregnant let alone that i lost the baby.So he wont even LISTEN when i try to explain how i feel.He barely started acknowleding the first loss and that was over 2 yrs ago, but now he listens and is supportive when i need him.SO why isnt he this time.

i know exactly how you feel. i just recently miscarried as well and found out i'd miscarried the same day i found out i was pregnant. i feel guilty for feeling relieved (i don't want more children) and then incredibly sad. it's a rough process to go through. i don't have a SO but i would assume that yours is like most males and the baby wasn't ever something he knew about or was even tangible to him so he probably isn't torn up about it and doesn't understand how you can be