DESPERATELY NEEDS ADVICE!!!!

hey! im kind of in a very difficult situation, i just found out i am pregnant and i know that i want to keep it because i cant image having an abortion the whole scares me.. i just rather not go through with it. BUT my boyfriend doesn't think in thinking "logically" he doesn't want to have it and thinks i should have an abortion. His first argument was that we don't have the finances to have it, so i did my research and found tons of ways that can help us support the baby. When i told him that and showed him all the programs that's provided he then said he just doesn't want it were to young, were not ready for it. i honestly do agree with him and every time we try and talk about we were gonna end up fighting and i just have no idea what to do at this point.

please reply if you have any constructive advice !!! thanks xxoo

adoption!!

Well, you can't force him to feel any different. Just hope and pray that he will come around to be there for you and the baby.
If you also feel that you are too young, have you considered adoption?
Have your families offered any sort of help?

You have to decide what is best for you and your child, and honestly only you can make the decision. There are other options besides having an abortion, such as adoption. Best of luck with everything.

Honestly my advice is to do what's best for YOU and YOUR BABY.

When it comes down to it, you boyfriend can walk away at any moment. If you want this child, you can have it, and support it on your own.

I understand you want his impute but your body your decision! Do what you can live with. No matter what you have to deal with the emotions that come with either decision. I know this wont be any easy decision. Good luck!

Well Abortion isnt the only choice. There is also adoption, which is a great gift to another family. A baby is a lot of money and yeah there is government help but you still need a good amount of money to support a baby plus any surprises that come with having a child. Its best to do whats best for the babyand yourselfA baby is a lot of responsibility and just because you give the baby up for adoption doesnt mean your not a mom. You should look in the adoption group on here. You just need to weigh your optionss and think what is best for your situation. Good luck girl. Its a tough time but just remember that your now a mom and need to think about your baby first.

Do what you feel is right.
If you want to keep the baby, do so. Just remember your bf isn't going to help you with the baby. You will mostly likely end up as a single mom.
If you choose not to keep it, atleast do the adoption route.

Don't let him pressure you into a decision that you don't feel comfortable with. If you are against abortion, there is only two options left. Keep it, or adoption. Think long and hard about it. If you want to keep the baby, you have that right.

It is hard facing an unwanted pregnancy. I am not suggesting one way or the other. Just giving a few pointers subjectivly.

Those programs you speak of are not going to support this child. They will help a little but you would be suprised how much more you need. If you can't afford to live on your own right now, you can't afford a child.

An education should be first priority. You can't secure a decent job without a solid education. You need the job so that you can have insurance, money to pay bills, buy food, diapers and even the emergent items.

If you or your bf feel that you are too young for a baby, you probably are. Some teens make wonderful parents. Others resent the child for taing away their youth.

If your relationship is not solid or stable this child will not turn it so. Children are hard and stressful. They can cause termoil in even the strongest happiest marriages.

The best thing for you to do is go sit and talk to somone who is neither going to tell you Adoption, Abortion or keep it based on their beliefs. You need to decide what is best for you and your BF in this time. Abortion and Adoption aren't easy either. You have a tough decision ahead of you. Do your best to think logically when maing your final decision.

Lots of babies are not planned. Mine sure wasn't. My boyfriend and I were going through some of the hardest times and I didn't think our relationship would survive. Then I was pregnant... I was shocked and scared. BAD TIMING... but I knew abortion wasn't an option for me... Now... I couldn't imagine my life without him.

It's really your decision... If you don't want abortion then there are definitely other options. Abortion is not something you can do if you just think it may be the answer. You can't change your mind.

Good luck and best wishes!

Quoting no longer empty arms:“ It is hard facing an unwanted pregnancy. I am not suggesting one way or the other. Just giving a few ... [snip!] ... aren't easy either. You have a tough decision ahead of you. Do your best to think logically when maing your final decision.”

i would agree with all of this except for the part about taking your boyfreinds opinion into consideration....its jmo. Like its been said before he can walk away at anytime. YOU need to do whatever it is that YOUR not going to regret later.....what ever that decision may be.

I've actually brought up the whole adoption thing... i know someone who would love to have children but cant and would be a prefect fit! i have no problem with that but yet again he doesn't think its a good idea he feels that there's a lot of emotional baggage that the child will grow up feeling unloved and depressed and i understand that cause i have an adopted sister who acted out when she was younger because of that but is fine now... and i doubt that happens to everyone who's adopted but thats what he had to say about that...

Quoting Mommasuarus[NSCT]:“ i would agree with all of this except for the part about taking your boyfreinds opinion into consideration....its ... [snip!] ... can walk away at anytime. YOU need to do whatever it is that YOUR not going to regret later.....what ever that decision may be.”

Except he has a right to an opinion. Just because it is her body doesn't mean it is not just her baby. If she wanted abortion and he wanted to keep it then what would you say?

The two of them got into a very adult situation and the two of them have to come to an agreement. If she doesn't take the time to sit and talk with him and consider his feelings she can just about bet he will bounce and have nothing to do with her or baby out of resentment.

I agree w/your bf. you are too young!I wouldn't just jump into abortion, I'd look more towards adoption. this could be the perfect gift for a family who is ready and doesn't need assistance. Look into a open adoption, that way you can still have some contact w/the baby if you feel more comfortable with that. Abortion isn't the only answer but I think you need to really look into ALL of your options.