re: Military Wife vs Civilian Wife

Quoting BrittanieY:“ Oh, I know  . It's the stuff like: You dream of a vacation just by yourself You get upset ... [snip!] ... everything You often wonder if you're strong You let the little things get to you It reads like these weak women suck  .”

Yup, plus all these examples aren't true. Not right IMO to stereotype one group to make another feel better.

Quoting .Colleen. ***P***:“ Yup, plus all these examples aren't true. Not right IMO to stereotype one group to make another feel better.”

Exactly. It's very stereotypical.

Naw,civilian wives aren't weak and we don't suck. We are the same as military wives. BUT we are very different too. We are all as strong as our circumstances require of us. You have to admit that military wives have it a little more difficult most of the time. They learn how to deal with that,which makes them strong. Civilian wives also have difficult times,and we learn how to deal with that,and that makes us strong. I think the OP was just sharing some of the differences between us. Different circumstances,different strengths. Gosh i hope I made some sense. I know what I want to say,but it's not coming out quite right. Hope someone knows what I'm saying. I enjoyed reading the OP's post  

I whole heartedly support our military and I was a military bratt growing up, so I know how hard it can be...But honestly, for my mom, it was easier to be a military wife than it was to be a civilian wife. Since my dad has retired, she's going nuts.


1. All that security is gone. She has to live with the fact that her husband can be fired at will, for anything, and it scares her.

2. My dad's hours are WAY worse now than they were when he was in the military (excluding when he was at sea, of course). He was always home by 3:30 when I was growing up, aside from deployments at some stations that would last anywhere from 6 weeks to6 months. (The only time he was deployed during war time was during dessert storm and he was deployed right after 9-11)

3. She has no support network. Living around other military wives, you have a built in "family" and people who are there sharing similar experiences with you, good and bad. For a family who is spread out geographically, that is important, and I sometimes wish I had something similar.

4. She has to "share" her world now. When we were kids, she had all the freedom of a single mother, without the financialworries. She could do what she wanted, when she wanted when my dad was deployed, she got to make all those choices herself. When he was back, and now, they have to live with each other on a day to day basis.

Now, all of these things are minimal compared to the fear that your husband might not come home, I'm aware of that. I'm in no way saying that military wives have it easier than civillian wives, but I have to admit, when I am worried about putting food on the table and I'm paying 400 dollars a month for our health insurance and trying to decide which plan to go with, the one that costs as much as all our groceries for the month, or the one that if anything happens to any of us, we are going to be in bankruptcy territory, I kindof wish that my husband were young enough to join up!

So although military wives do have it rough, there are also definite benefits to being a military wife.

Maybe that's just my perspective because I grew up with a Dad who was a cop and a military man though, so I grew up with the knowledge that men do what they have to do to support their family and their country, regardless of the individual sacrifices that the wives and families have to make.

Im not an military wife yet, but i gotta admit, this is a bit insulting.

Quoting mrsgriff:“ Civilian Spouse: You love "American Idol" Military Spouse: You Love your American Hero Civilian ... [snip!] ... the small stuff Civilian Spouse: You often wonder if you're strong Military Spouse: You've already learned that you ar”

To all of you, I agree with this 100%.

I love this.   thanks for posting, I really needed to hear it too.

Quoting Megan Renee.:“ I love this.   thanks for posting, I really needed to hear it too.”

Same to you? Yeah I needed to hear it to.

it's a hell of alot worse being dual military. i think military wives have it pretty easy actually.