re: How to tell the parents your preggo...
posted 1st Jun '12
<blockquote><b>Quoting Lorin Elizabeff:</b>" Im 18 and i found out when i missed my period at 4 weeks as usual. i told my boyfriend right away and ... [snip!] ... in school so he asked her if i could finish school and then leave and she said yes. she hasnt said a word about it scene... "</blockquote>
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posted 2nd Jun '12
I was a to tell anyone when I first started thinking I was. OH and I had only been together 4 months, and I had just moved 400 miles away from my family, not specifically to be with him, but to get away from the town I was living in. The people around me were so bad i was suffering from cronic depression, I wouldnt eat and I was suicidal, he had offered to move me down with him and I took up the offer right away and was gone within a week. We had been together only a month at that point. All i really got to take was a couple outfits and my horse, he bought a horse trailer for me and even paid for someone to tow the trailer, horse and I the 400 miles.
After moving I called my dad almost every night, atleast a few times a week (we have been super close my whole life, and my mom passed away when I was 10) I moved in October, and started thinking I could be in November, and told a girl that OH was selling a horse to as I had no one lese to talk to and I was afraid of telling OH. We talked about it and how I was feeling every 3 days when she came to ride her new horse, I always rode with her. In late December OH made a joking comment about the possibility, and I said "well..." and left it at that. He didnt really think much of it at first.
At this point in time i was also gentling and breaking a new horse, who only I could approach (no one had touched her in 8 years, and i thought she would be a great barrel horse). I pulled her out the day after OH had made the comment about me be prego and our neighbor pulled up. I had my mare out of her pen for the first time in the 8 years she hadnt been touched, I had her broke enough to ride in her pen and she was standing nicely and seemed pretty safe. The neighbor walked over and says "oh, you got the little mare broke" well he got too close and I got thrown and drug about 60ft. At that point OH flipped. He made me sell one of the horses and told me I had to give the other back. It clicked in his head that I really was and if he didnt care, I was going to hide it from everyone and live my normal life.
After the horses were gone and new guidlines were set for the one I had before I moved in with him, I got pretty bored and started posting about it on FB and someone had told my dad about it that read it from FB, he called and asked about the rumors... I said they were true, but we dont really know anything yet.
Then in January he decided to tell his mom, as where we were living had no electricity or running water (i loved it, but he was against raising a child like that, how i was raised so i saw no problem) At first his mom flipped and wouldnt let us over for a few weeks, then one day she just changed. She made us move in with her. She gave us the back of the house, so we have 2 bedrooms, a really nice bathroom, a door to our own driveway and a door out to our animals. She bought all kinds of stuff for baby too (most that I dont like though lol) and is doing a grandma take over.
OH and I are going strong, and he fully supports me and baby in every way. I recently started stressing alot about the first few days baby is here so he bought me some baby turkies and a pheasant to keep in the bathroom... makes getting up for baby seem like nothing (I have to get up every 45mins to an hour every night because they are always crying about something and unlike baby, I have to wake up fully to figure them out.)
But aside from OH's mom freaking out because she was mad, then freaking out because shes so happy, things went pretty well.
posted 3rd Jun '12
I'm 17, and my dad doesn't know at the moment. I'm only four weeks, and my mom knows.
Kinda funny, really. we were coming back from a picnic a close friend had, and they had honeydew melon at the party. Mom watched as I ate it willingly. I hate honeydew Melon with a passion and a vengence. on our way home, i said that I wanted to get some honeydew melon, and she's like :You actually were able to eat it? I said ya, and she asked if i was sure i wasnt pregnant, and i had envisioned a completely differnet way of telling her, and so wihtout thinking, i said "no".
But the test came back positive a couple days ago, and my mom and sisters, who all know, are very excited and tease me about not being able to eat certain foods and eating thing i usually would die before eating.
But honestly, i need advice to tell my (now ex) boyfriend's parents. he thinks that I am, but nobody has told him for sure. the bad thing, though, is that his mom hates me, and their religion is very strict on the law of chastity until marriage. he's also 15, and.... yeah. she hates me because she thinks we had sex, (which she doesnt have evidence at the moment.) she's likely to kick him out or attempt to make me miscarry, that's how horrible she is. Honestly, hitler looks like an angel compared to her. but if anybody had any advice for me, please msg me, because i could use some help with his parents.
posted 5th Jun '12
i was in hospital having my tonciles out and i ticked the form saying i was not pregnant but after i thought i would double check and the little blue line slowly came up and over a few days got brighter so in the end i sneaked down to the local shop to get a better test (clear blue) and it came up as pregnant with a little timer on it, i was hoping a not sign would apear but it told me i was 2-3weeks! i then burst into my mums room where she was painting and burst into tears! and all she could say was we better get you to see a doctor then! and that was it about a hour later i was sat on the sofa with my dad and my mum walked in and walked past us and just said oh i forgot to tell you your daughters pregnant! (my dad didnt talk to me for about 2 weeks then said it better be a boy so i can take him to football!)quote
posted 6th Jun '12
I became pregnant at 16 and my mom didn't even know I was having sex. I didn't know how to tell her as we were never really close and I thought she would kick me out. I took an at home test on a Saturday Morning. Monday before school I wrote her a 3 page note telling her I was pregnant and wanted to keep the baby. And left it on the coffee maker and went to school. I got home and she didn't say anything. Then she said "How do you know?" and I said I took a test and showed her. She then took me to the walk in clinic and they confirmed it. She was very mad and cried. I cried as well.. My daughter is now 18 months old, healthy and my mom is one of the greatest Grandmothers I've ever saw in my entire life. She was there at every appointment, ultra sound and the labor and delivery of my daughter. She also cut the cord. She loves my daughter and is so thankful for her. I would be lost without my mom. It was hard telling her but I got it over with right away.quote
posted 7th Jun '12
Quoting BrynleesMama:" i didn't know how to tell my mom at first.. but only a few days after i found out, i finally got up ... [snip!] ... parents as SOON as you find out. that way you can make sure you get the proper prenatal care. just suck it up and do it! lol"
posted 12th Jun '12
I kind of made it a joke with my mom. Like hinted around saying i felt sick and naming symptoms you would have during pregnancy. She said oh you might be pregnant and jokingly i was like yeah wouldn't doubt it!! LOL. So her and my sister made it a joke to be funny to take a test. "Oh come on, just take it." thinking it would be for fun.. come to find out, there really were 2 lines! It was awkward for a few weeks but after i started going to my appointments they were happy quote
posted 13th Jun '12
I was 18 had just started dating this guy in October, found out I was pregnant on January 7th, how did I tell my parents, I had my dad give me a ride to my appointment and asked him to just sit in the waiting room (went to a reg doc not an OB) told him it was a just a check-up from an ear infection I had just gotten over, when I came out he was sitting on the other side of the waiting room crowded with people , I came out the door and he says how'd you make out, and my exact response was "pretty good, GRANDPA"..... that was my first pregnancy, we have since then gotten married and have 2 kids and one on the way, with my second pregnancy I called my mother because i knew she was coming over that night and told her when she came over to stop in to walmart and grab a PG test... this time I found a pic of an EPT that instead of saying "pregnant" or "not pregnant" it said " LOL, ur smurfed" and posted it to her facebook wall, she thought i was jokingquotesmurfs?
posted 13th Jun '12
I feel it's best to tell your folks sooner than later. Regardless they're going to be emotional at first, but the sooner you let them know the sooner they can blow that steam and the sooner you guys can actually sit down and talk about it. Also, the longer you wait to tell them the more it hurts them. They want you to be able to tell them things. Most likely they aren't going to baby you through this, one would hope not.. Tough love is exactly what you need right now. That doesn't mean they hate you, that just means they are trying to push you to grow up and being a parent requires a lot of that.
I just straightup told my mom. She was very emotional and pissed at first so I gave her some time to be mad and upset with me. Since I gave her some space and time to rant and cry or whatever, sitting down and discussing what my plans were was a lot calmer than I thought. After a while she discussed with me that she just didn't want to see her baby grow up so fast, she wanted me to be able to enjoy all of my childhood. She believes in me and I'm sure after a while your parents will as well.
posted 14th Jun '12
I was seventeen when I found out I was pregnant with my son. I came out and was honest with my father, telling him I was certain I was pregnant but had not been to a doctor yet to confirm it. He took that news better than the confirmation. Once it was a proven fact, he went ballistic. Screaming, shouting, threatening to throw me out, threatening to have my boyfriend thrown in jail for "statutory rape" (even though we were the same age...?), and ending with me no longer being able to go anywhere or do anything that did not involve school. I was not even allowed to hang out with friends, stay the night anywhere, or anything where it was possible for me to see my boyfriend.
After the first two months he eased up though, admitting that he overreacted to the situation. I was still on lockdown for the most part, but he at least let the father be there for me. After my son was born he eased up completely. My dad always wanted a son so he kind of was more than happy I had a kid, he seriously adores his grandson. He even allowed my son's father to stay with us until we found our own place to live.
As for my mother, she was never really around throughout my life, so I didn't have anyway of telling her. Once I did get in contact with her though, she had already heard rumours about it. She was pissed I didn't tell her myself but that was completely not my fault when she up and leaves for multiple years without keeping in contact. She was "mad" about it, but I mean, she's a mother of eight children herself, most born before she was even thirty, so I don't really care as to what she thought.
posted 16th Jun '12
I'm 19 i'll turn 20 in Sept I took a test in April an it came back with a faint plus sign so I called my Mom an asked her what me an my husband should do she said call your doctor an get a pee test. Well I went to the hospital that night an I couldn't sleep at all so I woke up early an called They said she hadn't looked at it yet so I laid down an woke back up an hour an half later an Called they said the doctor says congratulations an she ordered your prenatal vitamins. I ran upstairs still on the phone making my appointment an My mom looks at me an asks Are you pregnant I just shook my head yes and couldn't stop smiling! My mom was very happy an so was my dad. quote
posted 20th Jun '12
With my first I was only 16 when I found out and one day my mom asked me to carry some cinder block to help get some stuff done and I simply told her that I couldn't and when she asked y I told her b/c I was pregnant. She FLIPPED!! My mom and I have never really been close so this didn't help at all. She asked me where I was gonna move to b/c i wasn't staying with her. I moved out and then In November of 2006 when my son was born she came to the hospital and picked us up and wanted us to move back in. And then when I was 20 and got pregnant with my 2nd I called her up and left her a voicemail.... "Hey mom it's me, I was just calling to tell you that Betty is having a birthday party for Cory this saturday at 1 and I'm pregnant, I'll talk to you later. Bye, Love ya." She called back a few hours later laughing and the way I slipped it in and was really happy for us and welcomed my second son Isiah. And now with baby number 3 on the way.... she is pissed. My SO and I are not really financially stable right now and already have 2 kids and another one every other weekend she was not happy when she heard the news. She is convinced that I am going to drop out of school due to this pregnancy and that would be dumb as I graduate 10 days after my due date....quote
posted 21st Jun '12
I'm 16 now got pregnant at 15 I'm 6months having a baby boy. My parents did not take this good at all . I basically didn't have to tell my mom I hid it for 3months until finally my mom started to get suspicious she kept asking if I had gotten my period an I kept saying yes. One day my sister came home from being out with my mom and asked me all I did was cry we went and bought a test and it came out positive right away. When we got home I started crying so my mom just knew.. She cryed for hours so did I everything went down hill after that alot of stress and questions it wasn't planned . Now we're better my mom never left my side shes normal with me she can't wait for the baby netha can all my family quote
posted 21st Jun '12
Im 17 years old, i'm currently only 5 weeks and 3 days along.
the way i told my mom was RIGHT after i took the test.. shes a million times more excited then i am, o.o not saying having a baby is horrible.. but im only 17.. but shes a good emotional support for me...
now for my dad.. i told him by investing in a smiley face balloon, and handing it to him.. with the words " im a little pregnant" i could tell he wanted to yell.. good thing it made him laugh first tho, made that situation a lot easier. :p
I have 1 angel baby & live in Maine
posted 23rd Jun '12
I went to a friends one night because I thought I was pregnant, and we took two tests. I went home the next day and sat on the couch with my mom and I just looked at her and said "you're going to be really mad at me and disappointed." She knew right away that I was pregnant. She and I started crying and she told me everything would be all right. I made her tell my dad, but he wasn't mad. My parents are very supportive and I'm very lucky to have them.quote