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You did the right thing.Your children HAVE to come first. If you didn't have children, you might could try and do more, but honestly not helping her out of a tough situation is helping her out more than hiding her.. I'm glad you didn't allow her anywhere near your house.

You did the right thing.
She obviously doesnot want to change yet, since she is repetedly doing stuff.
Your child comes first

You did the rightthing. theres only so much people can do before you become official enablers. I did it to my best friend once. She literally cried and hugged my leg as I dragged her outside my home and told her I was no longer available for her to take advantage of. She's clean now (not because of me, but because everyone finally rejected her) and is back to her old self. Has a daughter, one due next month and is one of my best friends still.

See thats the thing...you cant help someone who doesnt want it!
Her mother thinks im horrible for telling her to leave us alone.
She is addopted and her mum thinks she is off the rails because of that.

You were nicer than I would be I think. I probably would have told her to come stay there and had the cops waiting for her.   Though, I don't think I'd actually have the balls to do it haha. If she doesn't want the help, there isn't much you can do. It's not like she's still a little girl and can be grounded in her room. I wouldn't want her around my child either unless she got her shit together.

Your husband will eventually see, trust me. My brothers have BOTH been pretty messed up on drugs for the last 6 or so years, stealing from my parents & myself.. constantly arrested.. people knocking at my mom's door looking for them all the time and I, their only sister, continuously bailed them out, defended them and visited them in rehab (which they went to numerous times for my mom). A junkie will not stop for anyone, they do not care about anyone but themselves and neither of my brothers are ready and it doesn't sound like his sister is either. My oldest brother hasn't seen his two children since June, I get them on his weekends now and he tells me I'm siding with his ex. It was very hard but I eventually pushed them away too because I refuse to let me sons see that and I refuse to miss out on my nephews growing up because my brother wants to. My husband has been telling me for years that it's only hurting me because they could care less and eventually I realized he was right.