Quoting Barfy McVomitron:“ Eh, thats just how I feel. I think thats too young for my kids to marry so I'd keep it. There's no ... [snip!] ... they'll be in their mid 20's, late 20's etc. If other people want to marry young, eh. But I dont want my kids marrying young.”

Yeah but just cause you keep em doesn't mean they can't get it anyway. JMO that someone who is legally an adult shouldn't be told "no" in a sense if it's something they want to do.

Quoting His Lil Nym:“ Yeah but just cause you keep em doesn't mean they can't get it anyway. JMO that someone who is legally an adult shouldn't be told "no" in a sense if it's something they want to do.”

I know, and if they wanted to get them, they could. I'm not going to help the process though. Its just way to young for me to support a marriage if it were my kids.

Quoting Barfy McVomitron:“ I know, and if they wanted to get them, they could. I'm not going to help the process though. Its just way to young for me to support a marriage if it were my kids.”

I agree with you to an extent. If I had a 15, 16, 17 year old son or daughter that asked for it and my signature then no. But 18, 19, 20 years old I would give it to them because IMO it's their life and I will support them in whatever they do.

Quoting His Lil Nym:“ I agree with you to an extent. If I had a 15, 16, 17 year old son or daughter that asked for it and ... [snip!] ... no. But 18, 19, 20 years old I would give it to them because IMO it's their life and I will support them in whatever they do.”

Thats not something I'd support. It just isnt. I think its entirely too young. I got married at 22 and think THAT was way to young.
I wish I would've waited.

Quoting Barfy McVomitron:“ Thats not something I'd support. It just isnt. I think its entirely too young. I got married at 22 and think THAT was way to young. I wish I would've waited.”

You wish you would've waited but how do you know your kids would feel the same way? You'd be making the decision for them when they're leagally old enough to make the decision on their own.

Quoting His Lil Nym:“ You wish you would've waited but how do you know your kids would feel the same way? You'd be making the decision for them when they're leagally old enough to make the decision on their own.”

and like I said, if they wanted to, they could. That doesnt mean I have to support it.

Quoting Barfy McVomitron:“ and like I said, if they wanted to, they could. That doesnt mean I have to support it.”

It really hurts when a persons parents don't support them when it's something that makes them happy, trust me I know.

Quoting His Lil Nym:“ It really hurts when a persons parents don't support them when it's something that makes them happy, trust me I know.”

I'm sure it does. But I still stand firm that I think its entirely too young.

Quoting Barfy McVomitron:“ I'm sure it does. But I still stand firm that I think its entirely too young.”

So you would miss your childs wedding because you didn't agree with it? Because attending the wedding is showing support.

Quoting His Lil Nym:“ So you would miss your childs wedding because you didn't agree with it? Because attending the wedding is showing support.”

I'm sure you want me to agree with you, but I just dont. I'm sorry.

Quoting Barfy McVomitron:“ I'm sure you want me to agree with you, but I just dont. I'm sorry.”

I know you don't. I believe everyones entitled to their opinion I was just asking a question.

Quoting His Lil Nym:“ I know you don't. I believe everyones entitled to their opinion I was just asking a question.”

Honestly, I dont know if I'd go.
Marriage (to me) is a very sacred commitment. Jumping into it makes it seem like a fad instead of a life long commitment.
If he cheats on you, will you still stay married to him? If he makes you guys bankrupt? or stays out late every night? Will you hold true to your vows to love him, be honorable and be faithful to him until the day you die?
Its a serious commitment and not one to take so lightly.
and I'm not saying that I dont believe that you guys love each other, I'm sure you do. But I see that you've been together since March of this year?
Maybe it will work out for you guys...but the odds are against you.
If its true love than letting the roots go a bit deeper and let the flower of your love bloom a bit bigger before making that jump wont hurt your relationship or make your marriage any less meaningful. I was madly in love with my husband 8 months into our relationship because we were still in the honeymoon stage of it. What seems like a tiny little pebble (like leaving crunchy socks everywhere) builds into a mountain over time....
If you feel its the best choice to make, by all means, get married.

Quoting Barfy McVomitron:“ Yea, Id still withhold it. I dont want my kids marrying young *shrugs* so thats just what I'd do in that situation. ”

I would only if it was a dangerous situation.

Quoting Barfy McVomitron:“ Honestly, I dont know if I'd go. Marriage (to me) is a very sacred commitment. Jumping into it makes ... [snip!] ... everywhere) builds into a mountain over time.... If you feel its the best choice to make, by all means, get married. ”

Just because we've only been together in a relationship sense since March doesn't mean we haven't been together longer. He's been my best friend forever. And we lived together for a while before he deployed. We're going through a deployment right now, that I have seen tear relationships apart, marriages that are years long and it's only making our relantionship stronger. It's a very sacred commitment to me and him as well. Yes I would stay with him if he bankrupts us, or stays out late every night. Cheating, I'd honestly havea hard time trusting him but I would try and work it out because I love him/

Quoting His Lil Nym:“ Just because we've only been together in a relationship sense since March doesn't mean we haven't been ... [snip!] ... out late every night. Cheating, I'd honestly havea hard time trusting him but I would try and work it out because I love him/”

if you feel its the right choice (I dont know your situation so I cant even give a good guess as to if it is a good situation or not) than by all means get married.
I just know how I'd feel in regards to my own children.