Quoting Mama Lizzy :]:" <blockquote><b>Quoting Chim Richalds:</b>" Quoting Mama Lizzy :]:" So were definitely ... [snip!] ... cuddle him...THEN I resort to clapping ...but like I said I think that and my SO hitting the table is making him want to hit."
I let tantrums run their course. Everyone does it differently but I don't try to stop them, I see that as encouraging them to stifle emotions instead of dealing with them.
I describe the feelings...you are so frustrated! You wanted the spoon but it is dangerous. That would make me mad too. That gives them the language to describe when they get older, so instead of getting confused and feeling something but feeling they shouldn't express, they are taught to say I am mad now! And it is so much easier to deal with a person who recognizes and appropriately expresses their emotions than it is to deal with someone who keeps it inside and seethes or has random outbursts.
There comes a point when I just sit there in silence and wait for them to come to me or calm themselves.
In public depending on the place I leave or just continue about my shopping while calmly speaking to them.
A lot of parents feel like their jib is to get kids to stop crying, when really your job is to support while they cry. Better out than in.