Did i overreact ? =\

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Talk to him, tell him how you are feeling. I wouldnt want my man talking and txting his ex, if he's with you he needs to move on from that and respect your wishes.

Quoting A n n i e =):“ Okay so a while back(about a month)me and myboyfriend were just sitting around watching a movie when ... [snip!] ... I overreacting? He's coming over to talk soon and idk what to say. Idk how to feel. Im just all over the place right now.  ”

i would be honest with him.... just say that the pic, and the ringtone bother you (i wouldnt say you went through his phone and tex texts, etc), because you care about him so much that it hurts to think that he cares about someone else, and you know he did care for her a lot before. you dont mind if they talk, whatever, but to please respect that it makes you a little uncomfy.

After all of that I would think he was cheating.

Talk to him and let him know how you feel about him being in coctact with his ex so much. They only way to have a healthy relationships is to be up front and honest with each other.

Quoting A n n i e =):“ Okay so a while back(about a month)me and myboyfriend were just sitting around watching a movie when ... [snip!] ... I overreacting? He's coming over to talk soon and idk what to say. Idk how to feel. Im just all over the place right now.  ”

Yes you should talk to him.
BUT you shouldn't approach him like you are accusing him.
Which by how you sounded in your post, thats not your intention.

It might help if you write down a few things that you want to say to him.
Good and Bad.
Then when the time comes to actually talk to him, you will actually feel better and can talk without being as mad or angry.

Good Luck

I agree that you should talk to him, also don't assume he is cheating. Some people do remain friends with their ex-girlfriend/boyfriends too.

For one, I dont think you're in the wrong...because Id be the same way. Ppl may tell you that you're being insecure..but the truth is. Thats his ex. Meaning EX......also meaning he's no longer with her.

If he's with you, he shouldnt have some romantic lovey dovey song as her ringtone and pics of her still on his cell. My bf ( Newly bf Ive been dating for 5months now ) Had pics still of his ex. I said one thing and he took em down.

Turn it the other way around. Do you think hed like it if you kept pics of your ex on your cell? And had a romantic ringtone for everytime your ex called or txted you? Do you honestly think he'd like it?
its outta respect that he shouldnt do this. I dont care what no one has to say, if they say you're insecure, I bet they'd get mad too if it was them in your shoes and their bf was doing that to them.

Rather he's done something wrong or not, I dont feel either that he should still have pics and a romantic ringtone for her. And if he doesnt have kids with her, why is he still keeping in contact with her? If hes not planning on getting back with her anytime soon???Heh

Quoting A n n i e =):“ Okay so a while back(about a month)me and myboyfriend were just sitting around watching a movie when ... [snip!] ... I overreacting? He's coming over to talk soon and idk what to say. Idk how to feel. Im just all over the place right now.  ”

I don't think you're overreacting...
I don't agree with the fact that you went into his phone.. although I probably would have done the same (doesn't mean its right, but love makes you do fucked up things)

but I firmly believe that when you start dating someone you should not bring baggage of your former relationships into the new one... like if you're hurt from an ugly breakup - thats different... time heals all wounds and I think its possible to resolve your hurt and insecurity/trust issues with your new significant other.. but if you still have feelings for your old SO - I don't think its fair to start a relationship with someone new...

if it was me, I'd confront him about it.. and try to get to the root of it all. If he's not over her - he shouldn't be with you - you're only going to get hurt... just my opinion.

Thank you ladies. It's just so hard. In my past relationships there was no communication . . so im new to this. And I dont want to tell him that and he gets upset or it spiral out of control, ya know ? I'll give him the benefit of the the doubt, because I dont think he's cheating on me, she lives in a different state, and with all the time he spends with me, he wouldn't have the TIME to cheat. But it scares me that he might still have feelings for her. I just dont want to get hurt.  

Quoting Kristy Mommy to Hunter:“ Talk to him and let him know how you feel about him being in coctact with his ex so much. They only way to have a healthy relationships is to be up front and honest with each other.”

 

Quoting ♥Shay♥:“ After all of that I would think he was cheating.”

  

Aye its the CUPCAKE WOMAN!!! Ello girlfriend.

Quoting ღ Ho Basher ღ:“ For one, I dont think you're in the wrong...because Id be the same way. Ppl may tell you that you're ... [snip!] ... kids with her, why is he still keeping in contact with her? If hes not planning on getting back with her anytime soon???Heh”

Exactly ! like I dont keep in contact with my ex's. Maybe a fb message or a text once in a while, but I damn sure dont have a ringtone set for anyone. And it's like when I asked him to take the pic down on fb he should've taken the hint and got rid of it all. Did he not think I would have his phone ONE day? We dont even have pictures in his phone! =( . Ugh . I cant even begin to explain how that made me feel.

Quoting A n n i e =):“ Exactly ! like I dont keep in contact with my ex's. Maybe a fb message or a text once in a while, but ... [snip!] ... have his phone ONE day? We dont even have pictures in his phone! =( . Ugh . I cant even begin to explain how that made me feel.”

Oh yes I can!!!!! girl believe me. A EX is a EX for a reason Meaning they're not together...they're not to really talk or hangout anymore. Ex's are meant for the past. There is a reason they're an ex and they didnt make it to the future with that person.

Tell him exactly how you feel. If you dont, he'll continue to do this. And it will hurt you even more as time progresses and the more you fall for him.

And if you're open and honest about how you feel now , he can stop it....here ..early in your relationship. If you're not open and honest with him it will continue , and maybe it'll even mess you alls relationship up in the long run.

BE OPEN BE HONEST. ITs the only way!! The truth will SET YOU FREE