Circumcision explanation
3061 postsposted 17th Nov
So the DH and I have decided we're not going to have our LO circumcised after being set on it all throughout my pregnancy. Both Mom's think we're chopping but, we're not now and I'm not sure how to explain my choice to them without one getting upset since they're all for it. In the end, it's OUR kid and NOT theirs so how can I keep this something low down without causing upsetment? Explaing how I feel is a good start but they'll just go back at me with their reasoning. I sure hope it'll go easy telling them our new choice.
quoteI have 1 child & live in Northglenn, Colorado
3269 postsposted 17th Nov
Just don't tell them then. It's not their concern.
quoteI have 2 kids & live in Gainesville, Virginia
15168 postsposted 17th Nov
Its not like you are opting not to have life saving surgery on them. Just tell them you dont want it done and let them react how they please.
quoteI have 1 child & live in ?
24862 postsposted 17th Nov
Quoting M♥mma:“ Its not like you are opting not to have life saving surgery on them. Just tell them you dont want it done and let them react how they please.”
I have 1 child & 2 angel babies & live in Beaufort,
posted 17th Nov
Quoting Noah and Grace Mommy:“ Just don't tell them then. It's not their concern.”
They will be babysitting him most everyday while DH and I work and I don't want to catch them by surprise. Plus, I want them to know not to retract, etc. Back in their day, I'm sure since they had circumcised son's, they weren't taught how to care for an intact penis.
I have 1 child & live in Northglenn, Colorado
7143 postsposted 17th Nov
just tell them you do not feel like getting it done. If they are upset that is their problem not yours.
quoteI have 1 child & live in Oklahoma
3004 postsposted 17th Nov
Good Luck. My family hada really hard time with our decision. I wish we had waited until he was afew months old to tell them what we decided. During my pregnancy I received at least one phone call a week from a different family member telling me i was a bad mom already for not circ'ing. I should have said that we were researching it and kept putting it off . Eventually they would have forgotten to care.
quoteI'm TTC since June '08, have 1 child & 1 angel baby & live in Illinois
posted 17th Nov
Quoting trishthedish:“ Good Luck. My family hada really hard time with our decision. I wish we had waited until he was afew ... [snip!] ... I should have said that we were researching it and kept putting it off . Eventually they would have forgotten to care.”Even though he will be in their care quite a bit, should I just let them see for themselves or what? Surely they'll ask how he is healing if they didn't know, etc. I don't want to carry on something they think has been done though I don't feel the need to explain.
I have 1 child & live in Northglenn, Colorado
71254 postsposted 17th Nov
I guess the best way is to find a resource online that gives sound reasoning for non circumcising, that doesn't attack circumcision so that they don't get their backs up about it, that you can print out and give to them.
Sorry that "it's my child" doesn't seem to be enough for them.
C.
quoteSorry that "it's my child" doesn't seem to be enough for them.
C.
I have 2 kids & live in St. Catharines, Ontario
posted 17th Nov
Quoting 15 weeks to go;;:“ They will be babysitting him most everyday while DH and I work and I don't want to catch them by surprise. ... [snip!] ... etc. Back in their day, I'm sure since they had circumcised son's, they weren't taught how to care for an intact penis.”
Ahh, ok. I would just tell them once he's born. Just be matter of fact about it and don't let them bother you.
I have 2 kids & live in Gainesville, Virginia
5600 postsposted 17th Nov
Just tell them it's your choice and it's what you decided.
Although, I decided not to get them cut and now I have to at the ages of 9 and 7 due to phimosis. Sucks.
But yes, it's your choice not theirs, tell them that you understand they are concerned but you have every intention of teaching him how to pull it back and clean underneath it.
quoteAlthough, I decided not to get them cut and now I have to at the ages of 9 and 7 due to phimosis. Sucks.
But yes, it's your choice not theirs, tell them that you understand they are concerned but you have every intention of teaching him how to pull it back and clean underneath it.
posted 17th Nov
Quoting Noah and Grace Mommy:“ Ahh, ok. I would just tell them once he's born. Just be matter of fact about it and don't let them bother you.”That's an idea...just while in hospital "Matter fact, we decided he'd stay intact"
I have 1 child & live in Northglenn, Colorado
9048 postsposted 17th Nov
I just wouldnt say anything until he was born and if they notice it be like "we decided it wasn't for us"
quoteI'm due March 24th (it's a surprise), have 2 kids & 1 angel baby & live in Washingtonville, Ohio
posted 17th Nov
Quoting JenniferSueMommaOf Two:“ I just wouldnt say anything until he was born and if they notice it be like "we decided it wasn't for us"”That's a good idea and I think that's what we'll go with that way they can't say too much to us once he's home, etc.
I have 1 child & live in Northglenn, Colorado
593 postsposted 17th Nov
We're using what our OB told us, since we're not getting it done. Not to mention where I live (same city as God) it's $400 cash, ugh no thanks, I'll put that to his university fund.
Circumcision is a “non-therapeutic” procedure, which means it is not medically necessary. Parents who decide to circumcise their newborns often do so for religious, social or cultural reasons. To help make the decision about circumcision, parents should have information about risks and benefits. It is helpful to speak with your baby’s doctor.
After reviewing the scientific evidence for and against circumcision, the CPS does not recommend routine circumcision for newborn boys. Many paediatricians no longer perform circumcisions.
-Canadian Paediatric Society
quoteCircumcision is a “non-therapeutic” procedure, which means it is not medically necessary. Parents who decide to circumcise their newborns often do so for religious, social or cultural reasons. To help make the decision about circumcision, parents should have information about risks and benefits. It is helpful to speak with your baby’s doctor.
After reviewing the scientific evidence for and against circumcision, the CPS does not recommend routine circumcision for newborn boys. Many paediatricians no longer perform circumcisions.
-Canadian Paediatric Society
I have 1 child & 2 angel babies & live in Ontario
