ive had it!!!! *mini vent*

Im so done with my BD!! ive been trying so hard to get him to be involved in peyton's life. id send him pictures. tell him what new things shes doing. and he never responded. he cares more about his other baby moma and their baby and IM DONE! i told him that im no longer going to text him or give him updates, or offer to bring peyton over to his house anymore. i told him that if he wants to see her, he can drive his ass down to my house and make an effort to see her! or he can txt me to know how she's doing! im so fed up with his shit!! he used to be a great person! but this bitch has changed him for the worst. AND im finally going to file for CS! he's been giving me $$ every month. but im so furious, i dont even want to talk to him to tell him to give it to me! i just think it will be better for me not talking to him at all. and it's not like im keeping him from seeing peyton. he knows damn well that if he wants to see her, all he has to do is ask. but he doesn't even do that. so im done wasting my time! if peyton hates him when she's older bc he's not around-it's not gona be my fault!

sorry i just had to vent and get that out!

Good! Im proud of you...and yes you would be better off filing for child support....

Oh it is so funny how many guys in this world are really like that. I am sorry you have to deal with it, but getting away from him is the best. Good for you and good luck!!

Quoting *Peyton's mami*:“ Im so done with my BD!! ive been trying so hard to get him to be involved in peyton's life. id send him ... [snip!] ... peyton hates him when she's older bc he's not around-it's not gona be my fault! sorry i just had to vent and get that out!”

thank god. he really doesnt even deserve to be in pey's presence. she's MUCH better off.

Quoting Laylah's Mommy:“ thank god. he really doesnt even deserve to be in pey's presence. she's MUCH better off.”

yeah after he txted me and said "please just leave me and my family alone. i wont bother you abouth anything other than pey" i pretty much flipped my lid! i mean DAMN! me and pey were his FAMILY first!!! who does he think he is?!

anyways---im excited about seeing you and laylah saturday! :]

Quoting *Peyton's mami*:“ yeah after he txted me and said "please just leave me and my family alone. i wont bother you abouth ... [snip!] ... me and pey were his FAMILY first!!! who does he think he is?! anyways---im excited about seeing you and laylah saturday! :]”

ha! i woulda txt him back and said 'no, dont even bother me bout pey anymore, you dont want to take the time to see her so you no longer need to'
i mean hell, if you get CS anyways you really dont his lame ass in her life. i hate that little man with a passion (not as much as you im sure, but still)

and yes we are SO excited about seein you both, too!

Quoting *Peyton's mami*:“ Im so done with my BD!! ive been trying so hard to get him to be involved in peyton's life. id send him ... [snip!] ... peyton hates him when she's older bc he's not around-it's not gona be my fault! sorry i just had to vent and get that out!”

How to say this nicely.  

Ok no way possible Im too much of a straight shooter
You sound like a woman scorned. And your daughter seems to be the pawn. Almost like you wish for him to choose you over his current situation. Updating him on weekly things should not be the goal nor the aim for all of your energy.You are correct in filing for support but who do you have to support you now that he has decided to go another way.
Consider him a lesson and your child a blessing and a very important lesson learned. No matter how muchyou want or dont want him in your life, thats not your decision when it comes to the child you have together. He left you but still provided for his child. So saying your child is better off without her father is a crock of bull. Your child's father is just as important as you are in raising her to be a woman. Please don't shut him out of her life. It will be one of the worse decisions you will ever make concerning your daughter's well being.

Quoting K_sam:“ How to say this nicely.   Ok no way possible Im too much of a straight shooter You sound like ... [snip!] ... don't shut him out of her life. It will be one of the worse decisions you will ever make concerning your daughter's well being.”

She will respond to this on her own time, but as one of her good friends who actually knows her situation and her BD, i know for a fact that her child is in fact better off without him. He cheated on her when she was 7 months preg, then after her LO was born said he wanted to be with her again. So she gave him a chance and got back with him. And what did he do? The same thing ALL over again. He has had NUMEROUS chances to step up and be a father yet he chooses not to. It does not take a mother and father system raise a child to be a good woman. And yea he may support his child a little bit FINANCIALLY but he is and has never shown any effort to be there for her emotionally and IMO that would make the child feel even worse when she grows up.

Quoting K_sam:“ How to say this nicely.   Ok no way possible Im too much of a straight shooter You sound like ... [snip!] ... don't shut him out of her life. It will be one of the worse decisions you will ever make concerning your daughter's well being.”

Okay. first of all, i am not a woman scorn. i have done everything possible to try and get alex to be a part of my daughter's life. but he decided to be a cheater and leave us when i was 6 1/2 months pregnant, for his now gf [who was 4 months pregnant-with his baby-when he left me] i have gotten over the fact that we are not together anymore. it's been over a year. and i quite frankly dont care that he's not with me. my whole purpose of this post was venting about how much effort i have made in trying to get him to be involved in peyton's life, and how he hasn't made any effort. the only times he has seen her was when i set up a day and brought her over to him. not once has he texted me just to see how she is doing, not once has he called to ask if he can see her. and he knows he can damn well see her anytime he wants. i am simply fed up with trying so damn hard, and getting nowhere. so now if he wants to see peyton, he will have to call and ask. or if he wants to know how she is doing, he will have to txt or call me and ask.

and as my friend stated earlier, when peyton was 2 months old, he came runing back to me. and i gave him a second chance. i gave our family a second chance bc I WANT MY DAUGHTER TO HAVE HER FATHER. but he again left me for his other bitch. but that doesn't mean that i dont want him to be in peyton's life. he will only be present now when he makes the effort to be. im not going to force him or ask him anymore to come see her. he needs to make that choice on his own!

Quoting *Peyton's mami*:“ Okay. first of all, i am not a woman scorn. i have done everything possible to try and get alex to be ... [snip!] ... makes the effort to be. im not going to force him or ask him anymore to come see her. he needs to make that choice on his own!”

  and since he obviously hasnt made the effort in the past then we pretty much kno he wont now. he's just a shitty person, period.

im in the same situation...my BD don't call me at all from day one he has disappered ... im sorry you have too go through this but it's only going to make you stronger... i havent heard from him in almost 4 months, so he never has too worry about me calling his phone about the baby....he's so busy doing nasty with nasties that his son has to come last. But i keep my head high for my baby. All i ever wanted was a phone call saying how is my son, but that call never came   .... i am so alone, and i didnt want money i just wanted some support, but guys feel like oh because they're women they can handle it, no hell ... this baby wasnt created by one person so we shouldnt have to go through this alone... at least you tried, and thats all you can do, but after a while you be like eff it, i can do bad all by myself...trust me your baby will be fine, you sound like a great mother so kudos to you  continue to pray and everything will be okay