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how do you know that guy wont ever treat you bad. You're husband probably wasnt mean to you while you were dating-or why would you marry him? thats not even the point really you like him and your husband pissed you off so hes looking pretty good right now. If it were me i would stop all contact with this man unless you want to ruin your marriage.

Quoting AndysWife&LillysMom:“ *sigh* Yeah. I know.”

your profile says your husband is your soulmate...is that just something for face?

I have kind of a similar situation.....I had a boyfriend in highschool (and after highschool too) We dated for about 4 yrs or so, and in the end he was starting to get into drugs -- so that basically ended that relationship pretty quickly! I have periodically kept in touch with him over the years, and I know that he has been in prison for quite a number of those years. I have always still had feelings for him, but knew that we could never be together because of his lifestyle.
It has been almost 15 years since we were together...but I still think about him all the time...even though I am HAPPILY married.
Recently, I saw pictures on Facebook of his wedding, so now he is married too. Ever since I saw the pictures, I have been wanting to talk to him -- just to say Congrats......but I know his wife is crazy jealous of me, so I don't want to rock the boat.
So, I think it is possible to have feelings for someone else...I think you just need to choose whether to listen to your head or your heart.

Quoting Rebekah *HAMMERTIME*:“     the grass isn't greener on the other side... all couples have fights... You made a lifetime ... [snip!] ... recommend cutting this ex-bf out of your life completely , do not speak with him, it will only bring trouble to your family.”

My mom always says, the grass may seem greener because theres more shit for fertilizer, lol.

it's not like i've acted on it! it's just something we have talked about, but both know will never happen. like i said, we ignore the feelings. i love my husband, but he can be a jerk. and those are the times i wonder if being with ben would be better.

Quoting Rebekah *HAMMERTIME*:“     the grass isn't greener on the other side... all couples have fights... You made a lifetime ... [snip!] ... recommend cutting this ex-bf out of your life completely , do not speak with him, it will only bring trouble to your family.”

  agreed. it may seem fun and exciting and i think thats why people get caught up in "bad situations"

Quoting Rainbow NotSoBrite★:“ your profile says your husband is your soulmate...is that just something for face?”

In highschool...I truley believed he was my soulmate, that he would always make me happy... after I got pregnant...wow, not so much.

Quoting Bryton & Keagan's Mommy:“ CM If you are in love with your ex, then I think your husband has a right to snoop.  ”

haha if i could have quoted her i would have said wonder why he likes to snoop

My ex and I still have some feelings for eachother but it is weird. We have been through a lot together and we know more about eachother then anyone else. But it is more like a really strong friendship. We were not good as a couple but amazing as friends. He is my daughters godfather and my husbands bestfriend.

Its ok to flirt with someone but if you think that you or he might act upon that I think you owe it to your husband not to see him anymore. If you do you probably know thats its heading for adiaster.If you want to know if your doing something wrong just reverse the sistuation and see how you would feel without making any excuses.

Thanks for the replies Ladies. Helps me try and sort out these feelings.

I'm going to delete this now, just so you all know.

It's normal to have feelings for someone you care about especially when your marriage isn't going well. I think you think to look deep into your feelings and stop making excuses of who would be better in your life. If you are not happy with your marriage then file for divorce. Do not leave your man for another man, leave him for yourself. Once you find yourself and give yourself time, then you can start dating again and maybe this other guy will be the one. I think your guy friend would respect that more from you then you cheating on ur husband to be with him. Be extremely careful! Good luck.

can you delete my name from the one post?

hmm... everyone wonders about that what if...and you start thinking well this guy wouldnt do that..... you and your husband live together and probably call EACHOTHER horrible names and are mean to each other--- it happens in eveyr relationship even the perfect ones....just think what if this other guy and you did end up together and after the "honeymoon phase" as they call it you two start figthing like cats and dogs..... you never really had a reason to have conflict with him so you dont know how he would act....ANYWAYS, you are married for a reason because you love eachother i am assuming and i would call my husband HORRIBLE THINGS if he let some girl he used to like rub his back or hell even give him a hug that seemed a little to long for me   i have been with my husband 6 yrs and had the some old flames come back into my life--and one kept calling me and wanted to hang out and my husband wasnt too upset until the old boyfriend said to me marriage doesnt mean shit its just a piece of paper--now this guy was a sweet as pie when we used to date, i actually broke up with him for my husband now, and there was a reason for it, i just didnt know until he showed his real colors!! and i realized my husband is the only guy that could ever put up with my shit and vis versa....i just dont think a high school crush that you arent looking at the whole picture is worth it MY OPINION but i hope everything works out for you