Why wont he stop crying?!

Hey all!

I need help with my little toddler Robert. He's two and he's usually really low maintance but lately he will throw a fit over anything!!! It's so annoying...he wont do it all the time and in fact will only do it to me, his momma (grrrr!).

He'll do something he knows he isn't supposed to do and then I'll tell him Robert, please put itback or whatever, once, ignores me or acts right down defiant, again, Robert, don't do this...throws a fit...okay maybe I'm exaggerating but starts crying and sometimes screaming and will not stop. He normally never does that. A little crying here and there but he now it takes him nearly 3-4 minutes to calm down. I'm doing everything I can think of, like putting him in time out, talking to him gently so he can calm down and listen, hugging him but I'm done.

I've lost my patience when it comes to dealing with that because that is NOT acceptable! So I've resorted the last two times, because I don't want to have to spank him since I loose my temper when he acts like this, to taking him (or dragging him since he doesn't want to walk)to the bathroom and closing the door and leaving him in there to cry until he's calmed down enough. It's usually no more than a minute or two while I take some deep breaths. I know that can't be the best way to go about it but I'm out of ideas. He's crying over any stupid little thing and only if we're together alone, if there's other people around he acts normal WTF?!

He's done this maybe twice in the past but that was it. He never used to give me problems up until he had parenting time with his dad and now all his discipline is GONE! And it's making me go bonkers too...

Hello, Terrible Twos !

That is what 2 year olds do. Locking him in the bathroom IS NOT OKAY!

You need to do calm and controlled time outs. How will he learn to control his temper when you are acting like that?

Maybebut I try not to believe that that acutally exists. To me it really has to be about discipline. He's such a smart little kid, and saying that sounds like an excuse to me. I know that he knows better..why he forgot I dunno..

You should read this

http://www.askdrsears.com/html/6/t063300.asp

Quoting amie619:“ That is what 2 year olds do. Locking him in the bathroom IS NOT OKAY! You need to do calm and controlled time outs. How will he learn to control his temper when you are acting like that?”

Woah. I didn't read that.

Yeah, I definitely don't agree with that.
Kids get mad and throw tantrums.
My son does it all the time, but I would never lock him in a room.
Whenever I tell him he can't have/ do something, I find something else that he can.
I'll give him his favorite toys, sit down and watch a movie or color with him.
He forgets why he even started crying in the first place.

Quoting Urethra Franklin:“ Woah. I didn't read that. Yeah, I definitely don't agree with that. Kids get mad and throw tantrums. My son does it all the time, but I would never lock him in a room. ”

Yeah, imagin how bad that scares him, being dragged by his angry mother and locked in a tiny room. Poor baby  

Quoting amie619:“ Yeah, imagin how bad that scares him, being dragged by his angry mother and locked in a tiny room. Poor baby  ”

   

Quoting amie619:“ Yeah, imagin how bad that scares him, being dragged by his angry mother and locked in a tiny room. Poor baby  ”

I'm almost 20 and the idea of being thrown into a room like that scares me.

Every parent gets aggravated with their kids.
but it should never resort to something like that.

Quoting amie619:“ That is what 2 year olds do. Locking him in the bathroom IS NOT OKAY! You need to do calm and controlled time outs. How will he learn to control his temper when you are acting like that?”

I know that. It's why I'm here to get ideas not ur judgement. Read the entire post so you can respond to the problem accurately. Yes, I stated that I know this and neither is me loosing my temper and spanking him like his crying really makes me want todowhich is whyI remove myself from the situation -and it's the only thing I can do to remove myself because if I walk away he will follow me. I already said I've tried time outs. They used to work great up until his parenting time with his dad, now they don't do anything except aggravate the problem. I don't really know that you're link is addressing my problem because he isn't kicking and hitting, just crying for long time period and screaming here and there...

Quoting jaki.my.ny:“ I know that. It's why I'm here to get ideas not ur judgement. Read the entire post so you can respond ... [snip!] ... is addressing my problem because he isn't kicking and hitting, just crying for long time period and screaming here and there...”

 
I did read the entire post. And responded with a very helpful link on why they happen, and how to deal with them

But locking your son in the bathroom is child abuse, even if you don't hit him. I grew up with a abusive mother, and don't take any form of abuse lighty.

Quoting Urethra Franklin:“ Woah. I didn't read that. Yeah, I definitely don't agree with that. Kids get mad and throw tantrums. ... [snip!] ... him his favorite toys, sit down and watch a movie or color with him. He forgets why he even started crying in the first place.”

It used to be as easy as that, because I've always done all of those things but now, once he starts one of his fits he wont even let me try to distract him or let me find something to substitute whatever I took away. But, the problem mostly is not that I'm taking things away but that he refuses to do things that we need to do, that we have always done, like showers, put on shoes, taking or putting on clothes. I can't just modify that since it's a day to day thing. It's like he must cry for five minutes and gets mad at me for not wanting to deal with him in those moments.

Quoting amie619:“   I did read the entire post. And responded with a very helpful link on why they happen, and ... [snip!] ... bathroom is child abuse, even if you don't hit him. I grew up with a abusive mother, and don't take any form of abuse lighty.”

Okay and I see don't judge lightly either. I'm not justifying it. I already stated that. I guess I'll go for idea elsewhere..blah..

Quoting jaki.my.ny:“ Okay and I see don't judge lightly either. I'm not justifying it. I already stated that. I guess I'll go for idea elsewhere..blah..”

Okay but that artical I linked you to is very helpful. But who wants to read all that lol  

Pretty much the best thing you can do is ignore them. Unless he is really frustrated with something...then help him and make him feel better....my daughter throws both kinds of tantrums and doing what i just told you works great

i dont know anyone who puts a toddler in time out bc of a tantrum...i reserve time out for things like hitting, throwing, etc...if you use time out on every single thing it doesnt work.....

I leanrd all this from a behaviorolist. My daughter has Sensory processing Disorder and doing what therapist told me has worked wonders.