re: Non-CIO Support Thread!!!

Quoting Punk Rock Princess {EBFB}:“ My son nurses a lot at night...we're planning on night weaning him when he turns 18 months old. *sigh* I hope it's that easy. ;)”

Well, Vincent wasn't bf, but we were having that issue for a while, too (only with a bottle, obviously) and the pedi said just to try giving less every couple of nights...that way he got used to getting less and less at a time. I know that doesn't really work perfectly with bf, but maybe try letting him nurse for shorter periods of time, or perhaps only every other time he wants it?

Quoting Punk Rock Princess {EBFB}:“ The topic title says "For those who are non-CIO". Since you are not "non-CIO" why did you even come ... [snip!] ... is damaging for a child to CIO. But guess what? I don't go into pro-CIO threads because those mom's have their own ideas too.”

That sums up how I feel about it.

Quoting Punk Rock Princess {EBFB}:“ My son nurses a lot at night...we're planning on night weaning him when he turns 18 months old. *sigh* I hope it's that easy. ;)”

We did it at 21 and think I waited to long I could have been sleeping way earlier! It was clear that it was just a habit and not anecessity! With Karson he will wake multiple times an hour get my boob in his mouth and fall asleep! So I truly think he doesn't need it. I'm going to try soon, if he gets to upset then he is not ready and we will try again later 

Quoting Mommy to a Milk Monster:“ My SO and I were getting so much crap from his family about cosleeping and not letting Autumn CIO. They ... [snip!] ... she is actually crying is when i pick her up and rock her. This thread made me feel alot better about us being non-CIO parents.”

My child has always been a self-soother & he's not CIO a day in his life. I put him to bed awake, everynight & he sleeps all night.

Quoting BG Biatch {FSC}:“ My child has always been a self-soother & he's not CIO a day in his life. I put him to bed awake, everynight & he sleeps all night.”

I don't want to hear that booo lol jk I'm so jealous 

Dom slept from 9pm to 9am last night. He even put himself back to sleep a few times after just a minute of fussing.   Just another awesome night of no crying.


You know I've really never understood the thought that kids who aren't allowed to scream until they pass out will be clingy and overly dependent. My son loves attention but he's also great on his own. He's curious, loves to explore and do things on his own.
Or that they'll be sleeping in your bed at 12 and you're still nursing & rocking them to sleep. How is that exactly? You can start to talk to and reason with kids as young as 2-3 so if you wanted the child out of your bed, to wean from nursing or something else you could just talk to them about it and work on it with them.

Quoting BG Biatch {FSC}:“ My child has always been a self-soother & he's not CIO a day in his life. I put him to bed awake, everynight & he sleeps all night.”

Ah your lucky. My daughter wakes up about 2 times night to feed for a couple minutes then she rolls over and falls asleep.

Quoting Mommy to a Milk Monster:“ Ah your lucky. My daughter wakes up about 2 times night to feed for a couple minutes then she rolls over and falls asleep.”

That's whatI hear. When he was 6 weeks I started to get in a routine & putting him to bed awake.
My friend had her baby on the 24th of Sept & she asked for my best piece of advice& it was to always put them to bed awake at an early age, always tend to their needs immidiately & routine is key. She started doing it& he wakes up nurses & then she puts him back in his bed awake & he is doing well!
She said it made her husband a believer. Now anytime an issue comes up, he'll tell her to call me!

Quoting Mommy to a Milk Monster:“ My SO and I were getting so much crap from his family about cosleeping and not letting Autumn CIO. They ... [snip!] ... she is actually crying is when i pick her up and rock her. This thread made me feel alot better about us being non-CIO parents.”

And that is why I made the thread.   I'm glad it helped.

Quoting BG Biatch {FSC}:“ That's whatI hear. When he was 6 weeks I started to get in a routine & putting him to bed awake. ... [snip!] ... he is doing well! She said it made her husband a believer. Now anytime an issue comes up, he'll tell her to call me! ”

Thats awesome! We have a set routine for bed time. She sleeps the first half of the night in her crib then the other half with us. The reason we cosleep is because I'm too tired to put her back in her crib after a feeding plus she sleeps better in bed with SO and I. Next child I will be putting back in the crib becuase i cant handle a butt in my face again lol

Quoting Mommy to a Milk Monster:“ Thats awesome! We have a set routine for bed time. She sleeps the first half of the night in her crib ... [snip!] ... better in bed with SO and I. Next child I will be putting back in the crib becuase i cant handle a butt in my face again lol”

Yea, I couldn't cosleep b/c I'd never rest. I'd be worried about too many things!
My LO was in our room until he was 6 months, then I moved him to his own room.

We should just make this an Anti-CIO support chat thread! We could share ideas about sleep and vent our frustrations to like-minded mamas.  

Quoting summerbabyX2:“ CIO does not cause brain damage. Some studies suggest "letting" a child cry for more than 15 minutes ... [snip!] ... with my child, I'll comfort him. Just wondering, where will you draw the line? Will you still rock your 3 year old to sleep??”

would I rock my 3 year old to sleep? in a heartbeat. heck, I only have so much time til he just refuses lol. I cherish the moments I have now, children naturally grow up and don't need you as much, they become independent, My son didn't want to be rocked once he got to a year, but the rare occasion I can rock him and just sing to him, i cherish it and stop everything I'm doing to do so because it's just a priceless moment. I don't want, when he's 18 to wish I cuddled and spent more time with him.

Quoting Punk Rock Princess {EBFB}:“ Nope, I call that "In-Arms Crying". I think that is therapeutic actually. Like crying in the arms of any loved one.”

That's basically what I have to do to get my LO to nap, but it helps her.

Quoting Punk Rock Princess {EBFB}:“ The topic title says "For those who are non-CIO". Since you are not "non-CIO" why did you even come ... [snip!] ... is damaging for a child to CIO. But guess what? I don't go into pro-CIO threads because those mom's have their own ideas too.”

Exactly.