re: Non-CIO Support Thread!!!

<blockquote><b>Quoting mommytotxa ♡:</b>" Yes   Today, she's gassy and fussy, so I've held her. My grandma put her in the swing, and then ... [snip!] ... put her down for a minute. I said SHE'S HUNGRY. Even if she was just comfort nursing, her tummy hurts, and she wants her mama."</blockquote>




Do you have local La Leche League meetings in your area? Sounds like you could use some in person supportive friends  
you're following your instincts & doing what's best for baby. Sometimes a lack of support can be the BIGGEST challenge in our parenting journey ((hugs)) you are not alone in your beliefs!

Quoting mommytotxa ♡:" Yes   Today, she's gassy and fussy, so I've held her. My grandma put her in the swing, and then ... [snip!] ... put her down for a minute. I said SHE'S HUNGRY. Even if she was just comfort nursing, her tummy hurts, and she wants her mama."

some ppl are just stupid! i dare someone to say stuff like that to me! shes YOUR baby..YOUR the momma! your doing great....dont stop ! always follow your gut and beliefs....i get criticized for co-sleeping....screw them i love it...its bonding time and comfort for baby. I made it perfectly clear i dont believe in CIO to my whole family. I have also been looked down on for not breastfeeding...when i tried and wanted to but couldnt....people judge before they know and i thought i owed an explanation...i realized i dont owe them smurf

Quoting Kara-lynn:" <blockquote><b>Quoting mommytotxa ♡:</b>" Yes   Today, she's gassy and ... [snip!] ... Sometimes a lack of support can be the BIGGEST challenge in our parenting journey ((hugs)) you are not alone in your beliefs!"

We have support groups here. I joined a crunchy group on FB, which is where I learned about a lot of my parenting methods.

<blockquote><b>Quoting mommytotxa ♡:</b>" Yes   Today, she's gassy and fussy, so I've held her. My grandma put her in the swing, and then ... [snip!] ... put her down for a minute. I said SHE'S HUNGRY. Even if she was just comfort nursing, her tummy hurts, and she wants her mama."</blockquote>



So what if you can't put your kid down? She's your kid! And she was obviously hungry if she was eating! I hate when people try to tell me what to do with my kid. Especially since they don't live with him, so they don't know how he is on a day to day basis.

I also hate when people who don't have kids tell me what to do, they don't have a kid they don't have personal experience. so they should just keep their mouth shut.

I'm glad to finally find other people against CIO. My boys are 5 months (4 adjusted since they were preemie) && sleep pretty good IMO. Generally are in bed between midnight and 3 am, just depends on how they ate throughout the day on that one and sleep till between 8 & 10, which works really well for me and DH since he works 2nd shift. That way he gets to spend some time with them before bed. We'll put on their soother, get them comfy and let them fall asleep on their own, but NEVER do we let them cry. They might get a little fussy before we get them because they don't want to or they're fighting it, but we get them as soon as they start crying. My older sister tells me all the time how I need to force a bedtime on them and get them on a stricter schedule like she had her daughter. But honestly my boys laugh and smile ALL the time during the day so I know I must be doing something right. It does get hard though with her always telling me I'm doing it wrong. They also get night terrors, so when they cry at night, I know they need to me.

The only time I really let my son cry is when I'm changing his diaper or when I'm making a bottle. I pick him up when he starts, give him a paci and then lay him down and change him or lay him next to me while I make the bottle. (I sit in bed while I make it.) He tends to spit his paci out and cry, but I can't hold him while I make a bottle. And I try to make it as fast as I possibly can.

Other time he cries is when I go to the bathroom. Which just about everytime I sit down to go, he starts crying. One time he started screaming and I felt bad cause I couldn't go get him right that second. But as soon as I picked him up he stopped.

help! my daughter is back to staying up all night! i work all night and im so tired but she wont go to bed. its 2am and she is wide awake! i have layed in the bed with her, i put her in her crib , i turned on her lullabys, i rocked her , i gave her a botte. im at a loss! im going crazy up all night with her. she didnt have a late nap or anything. Nothing about her night routine has changed. what do i do. im not going to let her cry, all she wants in to be held and walked around with.

Quoting AubriesMom:" help! my daughter is back to staying up all night! i work all night and im so tired but she wont go to ... [snip!] ... her night routine has changed. what do i do. im not going to let her cry, all she wants in to be held and walked around with. "

Have you tried a bath right before bed? They have calming baby bath thats suppose to help. Almost always does the trick with my boys

<blockquote><b>Quoting AubriesMom:</b>" help! my daughter is back to staying up all night! i work all night and im so tired but she wont go to ... [snip!] ... her night routine has changed. what do i do. im not going to let her cry, all she wants in to be held and walked around with. "</blockquote>

How old?

yes i try a bath..she loves bath time but it doesnt make her sleepy. She is 5 months almost 6 months. like the night before last....she got up at 9 am.........took one nap from 2 pm until 3 pm and then we went and saw family where she played all day...no nap. she fell asleep in the car on the ride back home which is 30 min. She should be sleepy but nope...stayed up until 2am. so its not like she sleeps all day

<blockquote><b>Quoting AubriesMom:</b>" yes i try a bath..she loves bath time but it doesnt make her sleepy. She is 5 months almost 6 months. ... [snip!] ... on the ride back home which is 30 min. She should be sleepy but nope...stayed up until 2am. so its not like she sleeps all day"</blockquote>


Sometimes not enough sleep makes it harder to sleep. So if she has no naps it can make things harder. Try giving her a nap early-mid day. My son sleeps at least two hours a day and the days he sleeps less he wakes up more often throw the night.

didnt know that .... thanks

I will NEVER let a child CIO. My son is 3 months old and goes to bed from 8:30-9 pm and wakes up at 8am.

Quoting Belle.:" I will NEVER let a child CIO. My son is 3 months old and goes to bed from 8:30-9 pm and wakes up at 8am."

Mine did that until a few weeks ago. Then he started teething. He slept thru from about 7weeks onwards, once he hit about 15 weeks he started waking up once a night, then twice, then a few days waking up every hour. It's freaking tough, especially when you're not used to having to wake up through the night anymore. Just because he sleeps thru now doesn't mean he always will.

<blockquote><b>Quoting Lucas'Mama:</b>" Mine did that until a few weeks ago. Then he started teething. He slept thru from about 7weeks onwards, ... [snip!] ... you're not used to having to wake up through the night anymore. Just because he sleeps thru now doesn't mean he always will."</blockquote>


This is true but my point was that you can get a baby to sleep through the night without the CIO method. My son is teething right now but still sleeps pretty good. Less naps during the day though.