re: Non-CIO Support Thread!!!

wow im glad i read this artical.
Before i never let DD CIO but only when i had to and she's 18 months now.
Ive been letting her CIO allot lately and that explains her mood now-a-days!
I always have hated doing it, and i wont be doing it any longer.
It has always felt wrong to me and made me feel like a POS.
I just had a newborn baby boy 3 days ago, and im proud to say that i will not let him CIO either!
Thanks for the info!

Thank you for posting this!

Thank you for the info!

Hi!!!!! My baby is almost 11wks old, she was never really a good sleeper, but usually after a feeding I would lay her down in her rock n play and she would sleep until the next feeding. But now every time I lay her down she cries, I put her back at the boob and she falls asleep fast. I lay her down and then it repeats. She isn't really nursing , just seems that she wants to hang out at the boob. I slept sitting up last nite because I didnt know what to do. I tried her pacifier last nite, but didnt seem to help. Please help, this has been going on for over a week, and I dont know what to do. I thought it was rough before with her waking every 1-4hrs now it's every time I lay her down. I have mixed feelings on Co-sleeping. I did try it one nite for a few minutes, but our mattress is so soft and she rolls on her side if I move and it scares me. So I am just not sure what to do. TIA

I didnt let my 6 yr old daughter CIO when she was a baby & Im not letting her 3 month old sister CIO either. Some say its spoiling them a little, but Id rather have a slightly spoiled & very snuggly baby than an upset one or one who has problems because of me letting her CIO. My husband agrees with me, neither of us can stand to hear her cry for more than a few seconds to a minute. From what I can tell, it works to avoid the CIO method. My 6 yr old is a happy healthy girl & she puts her self to bed before bed time some nights because shes tired. Other nights she just wants to snuggle all night so we snuggle for a little while before bed. So far with my 3 month old shes sleeping from 10pm til between 5 & 7 am without trouble. She will snuggle me to go to sleep sometimes & other times she will fall asleep with no complaint in her bassinette.

Quoting First Time Mama  :" Hi!!!!! My baby is almost 11wks old, she was never really a good sleeper, but usually after a feeding ... [snip!] ... but our mattress is so soft and she rolls on her side if I move and it scares me. So I am just not sure what to do. TIA"

I had that problem with my now 3 month old for a few weeks. Try laying down to give her the boob for that last feeding, so shes laying against you & already laying down when you try to take her off & put her to bed. That seemed to work with mine.

Okay so I got a copy of no cry sleep solutions. But really, I have no time to read it. My son is a year this Sunday. And it's time for him to go to his own bed for multiple reasons. I am the one who gets up at night, being the sahm, and I'm 31wk pregnant. So usually I walk him around but it's so hard. Help me on ways to get him back to sleep. I talked to SO and he said I can get a rocking chair as my early Christmas present but help me until then! What do you do? He has a twin size bed just fyi. Tia!

so glad this was posted! i have always been against CIO and now i just have a lot more reasons. thank you for the info

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This is such a great thread. When Brady was a newborn everyone would always tell me that I needed to let him CIO or he would never sleep all night. I always told them that was not something I was comfortable doing. My son is now 6 1/2 months, has NEVER CIO and has been able to fall asleep on his own since about 5 months and sleeping all night since about 3 1/2 months. He feels safe laying next to my bed in his pack n play and knows that if he needs me I am right here and will respond to his needs. Sometimes we do still cosleep so he can nurse if he needs to. He's teething now so he's been miserable, but I could not imagine letting him suffer alone.

Isn't it funny how we (non-cio moms) don't seem to have any more trouble with our babies than those who tell us to let em cry? Actually, for the most part it seems like less. Kallee does awesome sleeping through the night, her naps, quiet time, and playing alone with her toys. I truly belive its cause she knows she doesn't have to be fussy all the time, if she wants or needs me, she knows I'll be right there for her. Cause she's my baby, and I like her! ; )

oh i feel so guilty i fell asleep today accidentally with my baby (8 weeks) as she was crying and i was trying to get her to sleep. I fed her in the living room and went to bring her to bed. but she always pulls off while breastfeeding and as soon as i move her she is only quite for a few minutes. My boyfriend said she was screaming for about 45 mins. And when i asked him why he didn't help her he said cuz i saw you were with her i didn't know you were sleeping. I finally woke up when he came up to me in bed to check up on us. By the time he warmed up her milk i woke up and held her and then she fell asleep for almost 3 hours...Oh i feel so bad for my baby. And she is usually fussy 2 times around 4 am and 4 pm. At that time she is 40% consolable either with holding, rocking or sucking. I guess im just here to vent.

Ok ladies, I am back. My daughter is 4mth now and she has the paci for about a mth or so now. She wakes at least 15-20 times a nite to get it back. I am exhausted. I really dont know what to do. I dont believe in CIO, so how do you break this or help her sleep better without replacing the paci for another prop and not letting her cry. I guess she doesnt know how to put herself back to sleep.....pls help TIA

<blockquote><b>Quoting First Time Mama  :</b>" Ok ladies, I am back. My daughter is 4mth now and she has the paci for about a mth or so now. She wakes ... [snip!] ... the paci for another prop and not letting her cry. I guess she doesnt know how to put herself back to sleep.....pls help TIA"</blockquote>




While she is awake, try teaching her to put it in herself. Try putting her to sleep without.it. Rocking, singing, rubbing her back.