Quoting summerbabyX2:“ in NO way am I saying you're wrong for not CIO. I just don't think you should say that other moms are ... [snip!] ... damage to their children if they do CIO. Each mom does what she feels is right for her child and we need to support one another”
Unless I am mistaken, which is always possible, the study that stated that crying caused brain damage dealt with children who were crying so long and so hard that it was actually causing oxygen deprivation. Now, it is entirely possible that the children in this study had other medical issues as well (though if it was a well-done study, that shouldn't have been the case, or at least, there should have been no diagnosed issues that would mess up the data); however, I do not believe the OP was saying that CIO definitely causes brain damage, just simply giving some support to those who choose not to. I chose to do a variation of CIO because I knew that my mental health would decline if I were to choose to not CIO, and that would lead to being less able to care for my son. In my case, I felt that was the right decision. So if some mamas choose to not CIO for fear of brain damage occuring, no matter how likely or not, I don't think that it should be construed as bashing CIO moms; it's simply support for those mamas who chose to not CIO based on that particular fact: that crying for extended periods of time CAN cause brain damage due to oxygen deprivation.