Am I being to relaxed about this? [Longish]

Ok so my newly 7 year old likes to speak his mind. He isn't mean about it but if something is annoying him or he doesn't like something he will let you know. Personally I enjoy this trait of his.. my mother however, does not.

Yesterday she was directing him for an hour on how to pick up his room as I'd let them play and wasn't going to make them clean up until after tea. During the picking up Connor goes "Jeez". This upset my mother. [The mess was in their room only and not all over the house, it was 2 boxes of toys spread out]

Today he was trying to watch his morning show which we do every Sunday and my mother wouldn't be quiet through it. Connor turns around and says "You are really annoying me this morning Nana". I was hanging out the washing so she came and yelled at me for it. I started laughing. She didn't like that.. personally I thought it was cute.

I'm sorry but I love the fact that he will tell anyone (even me) when something is upsetting him or annoying him. I don't want to teach him to suppress how he feels (within reason of course.)

Don't get me wrong there are things that are unacceptable and he knows that but if you can't at least be honest and open with your family then who can you be like that with?

Is she over reacting or am I making light of something serious?

Depends on how he says what he says.

I wouldn't want my child being disrespectful but I will encourage her to speak her mind. Just not rudely or in a way that makes her look like a "brat"'.

I understand why she's mad... but she should be happy he didn't tell her to Eff Off... I have a 9 year old sister and a 7 year old niece, and they're both inclined to say things similar to what your son said. Kids that age are fresh... lol

Quoting Kalith:“ Ok so my newly 7 year old likes to speak his mind. He isn't mean about it but if something is annoying ... [snip!] ... and open with your family then who can you be like that with? Is she over reacting or am I making light of something serious?”

Both. It would not be acceptable for me to tell my grandparents they were annoying me, at age 23 I still don't. But its good he speaks his mind, as he gets older he will hopefully understand that sometimes, its just not appropriate. I would hate to see the day he tells his teacher something like that. IMO

it's alright he speaks his mind... but he should be more polite about it, like nicely ask her to be quiet rather than say she's annoying him LOL

Quoting Cartman:“ Depends on how he says what he says. I wouldn't want my child being disrespectful but I will encourage her to speak her mind. Just not rudely or in a way that makes her look like a "brat"'.”

Ditto

I think as long as he isn't saying it in a rude way then it's not really a big deal. I think it's cute, kids say the funniest things!

Quoting Kalith:“ Ok so my newly 7 year old likes to speak his mind. He isn't mean about it but if something is annoying ... [snip!] ... and open with your family then who can you be like that with? Is she over reacting or am I making light of something serious?”

I dont think you are AT all. Truthfully, you know that he's going to be truthful about his feelings and isn't going to take anyones crap. Now once he gets older it might become an issue but I think he'll grow out of it. My little brother went through the same thing and grew out of it by the time he hit his teenage years. Tell your mother that you will raise your child how you wish and tell her to stop trying to tell you how to raise your son 

Quoting Mrs. Conan O'Brien:“ it's alright he speaks his mind... but he should be more polite about it, like nicely ask her to be quiet rather than say she's annoying him LOL”

I think it made me giggle because I've thought that to myself soooo many times. I think she's lonely so she just talks everyone's ear off.

I'm teaching him to say things in different ways for that exact reason. I don't want him to be seen as a nasty child because he's far from it. He's always giving everything up for other people.

BUT! at the same time I've noticed he's been going through a major growth spurt and as such he's always tired and a bit more irritable than usual. I think that's the other reason I mostly brushed it off.

Quoting Ashley{{Carters mommy}}:“ I think as long as he isn't saying it in a rude way then it's not really a big deal. I think it's cute, kids say the funniest things!”

Last night he said her arms looked like burned sausages.. she laughed at it though because she'd been out in the sun and was indeed very burned, he always says the craziest things to us..

Oh oh one day I was in my underwear and he came in and went OH MUM THE BACK OF YOUR LEGS ARE SO BUMPYYYYY!!! Can I drive my car over them? Oh I laughed..

He can express his thoughts in a civil manner. Meaning, being considerate and respectful to others while getting your ideas across tastefully.

Quoting Ashley{{Carters mommy}}:“ I think as long as he isn't saying it in a rude way then it's not really a big deal. I think it's cute, kids say the funniest things!”

My little sister is eight, and her class had to watch and do a report on Charolletes Web....well a few days later we were watchign Baby Story and the commercial came on for the show Little Couple or whatever it was. And she just blurts out, NOW THOSE ARE RUNTS! It was so cute, cause she just saw them as what the runt was explained to her as. Not having a disability, just little.

Quoting Kalith:“ Last night he said her arms looked like burned sausages.. she laughed at it though because she'd been ... [snip!] ... underwear and he came in and went OH MUM THE BACK OF YOUR LEGS ARE SO BUMPYYYYY!!! Can I drive my car over them? Oh I laughed..”

You made me LOL my head off! haha
It sounds like he has an amazing personality! In one of your other posts you said you were trying to teach him how to say things in a different way, which might be just what he needs. Little kids don't know when they're being rude at first, they don't mean to be hurtful =]

Quoting Ashley{{Carters mommy}}:“ You made me LOL my head off! haha It sounds like he has an amazing personality! In one of your other ... [snip!] ... which might be just what he needs. Little kids don't know when they're being rude at first, they don't mean to be hurtful =]”

That's what my mum was saying and I was like.. yeah but he's not trying to hurt your feelings.

A kid tried to bully him at his school and the teacher told me that Connor told the kid in no uncertain terms that if he bullied him it would be the last thing he ever did ahahaa. (Meaning he would get the teacher, not violence.)

Quoting Kalith:“ That's what my mum was saying and I was like.. yeah but he's not trying to hurt your feelings. A kid ... [snip!] ... terms that if he bullied him it would be the last thing he ever did ahahaa. (Meaning he would get the teacher, not violence.)”

LMFAO!