Would you say something?

So I have this friend who is Married and has 2 kids.. She recently just told me she has been cheating on her husband with his COUSIN since Febuary! also that the only reason she is staying with her husband is because she cant afford an apartment without his income... So basically while he is at work she is sleeping with his cousin. All 3 of them, (her, her husband, and his cousin) are my friends. Should I let her husband know whats up or keep my mouth shut. I promised I wouldnt say anything but its been bothering me so much i even had a dream i told him and then that was the end of our friendship.

Imagine the pain he'd be in if he found out you knew later on. He'll feel like an idiot and that you took her side.

I wouldn't tell him, but that's just the kind of a person I am...I stay out of people's relationship problems.

I would stay out of it. As much as it sucks, you'll get sucked in if you say something, and at least one person will likely end up with hurt feelings toward you, when none of it is your doing.

In your place, I'd just wait and hope it came out on its own, and be ready to console him when he finds out.

C.

Oh man. . . I would. Ask him to come fix your car or something, get him by himself - and then tell him you would appreciate if someone told you about this, so that why you need to tell him his wife and his cousin are. . . . . using him!!

That's a tough one...
I just found out my husband was having an affair and had a lot of my own friends that were keeping it secret, and a lot of his friends that also hid it to protect me.

IMO I wish someone would have told me sooner... but I understand why no one did.
It's hard since you're friends with all three.

What a fucking slut... 
And a messed up situation too.

There is also always the possibility that he won't believe you.

I would tell him. Yes your probably hate drama but would you want him to tell you if he was in your place?

Oh wow.. Sucks to be in your position.. That is just something that I would not want to know..

If I were you I would stay out of it.. It sucks but it's best to stay out of things like that.

Quoting bye bye bg.:“ That's a tough one... I just found out my husband was having an affair and had a lot of my own friends ... [snip!] ... What a fucking slut...  And a messed up situation too. There is also always the possibility that he won't believe you.”

That too.

C.

That's a tuffy! If he is truly a good friend though I think I would tell him. I don't know if there is any right answer so I would just go with your heart. Plus you shouldn't have to sit there with it bothering you because of something stupid she is choosing to do.

Also, if I did tell him she would know it was me cause apparently im the only one she has told.. which sucks.. i know i would totally wanna know but i really dont want start all the drama especially since there is a 1 and 3 year old involved  

Quoting :.Expecting a GIRL!:.:“ Also, if I did tell him she would know it was me cause apparently im the only one she has told.. which ... [snip!] ... i would totally wanna know but i really dont want start all the drama especially since there is a 1 and 3 year old involved  ”

I know the fact that my friends did not tell me has hurt me greatly.
The fact that they could be around me and be happy and not say a word just stings.
In fact, I have not spoke with any of them since I found out that they knew about it.

It really is a tough situation, and only YOU can make the decision.
Just trying to play a little devil's advocate here.

I would really think this one out before I made any hasty moves, and trust your heart.
I really, really feel his pain 

If I were you I'd focus on talking to her. See why she is doing it and what the deal is with her and the cousin. Possibly talk to the cousin too, if you're close enough to bring it up. But definitely, definitely don't be the bearer of bad news. Ever here the phrase "Don't shoot the messenger"? Yeah, thats because people tend to shoot the messenger.

Quoting bye bye bg.:“ I know the fact that my friends did not tell me has hurt me greatly. The fact that they could be around ... [snip!] ... here. I would really think this one out before I made any hasty moves, and trust your heart. I really, really feel his pain ”

I dont know though.. it's kinda like he brought it on himself though to kinda in a way.. they all had a threesome together before... apparently thats when the sleeping together behind his back started......... (a threesome with your cousin.. SICK! IMO)

Quoting [[Mandi Loves Ethan]]:“ If I were you I'd focus on talking to her. See why she is doing it and what the deal is with her and ... [snip!] ... bearer of bad news. Ever here the phrase "Don't shoot the messenger"? Yeah, thats because people tend to shoot the messenger.”

I have talk to her about it and her and the cousin want to be together but the cousin has no job and lives with his mom and she cant support herself and the kids if they got a divorce... so messed up i know