Questions about Custody/Drugs

So, my BD and I recently split up...I'm living with my mom, he owns a house and has a 20 year old room mate and an 18 year old room mate. I know for a fact the 20 year old drinks, and the 18 year old (and his 16 yr old girlfriend) smoke weed and do other drugs. Also, the 18 yr olds girl friends sister hangs out at that house too and her sister has gone around saying that she pops pills and what not.

So basically, my BD lives there he will be 24 next month. And there is a 20 year old, 18 year old, 16 yr old girl friend and girl friends 19 year old sister. All in which I know for a FACT are drinking and doing drugs.

Right now we have no custody or child support figured out, but I have a feeling it might come to a custody battle...Isthere any way I could bring up the bad company that stays at that house? I DO NOT want my daughter around that.

i would think so because he has to have plenty of space for a child to stay with him not to mention that it has to be clean and safe!

Quoting ToriPaige[FFMB]:“ i would think so because he has to have plenty of space for a child to stay with him not to mention that it has to be clean and safe!”

The house is a 3 bedroom. BD has a room, the 20 yr old has a room and well...I guess the new 18 year old room mate is either sleeping in what was my daughters room, or on the couch...

You can bring it up, but unless you have proof, it wont mean much.

Yes, the you can bring it up. Someone from the courts may show up over there to check it out.

The best you can do is get a court order that will make him pay CS..but he DOES get visitation. You cant dictate anything until after the order is set but u can BRING it up to the judge but judges usually wont listen unless u have a lawyer present. Be prepared to be calling CPS all the damn time.. theres not much u can do to control what he does, who he lives with, what they do.

you can ask that custudy istaken place at a different location.. you owuld have to prove what goes on in the house.. if minors are currently drinking the best you can do is notify the poilice while they are drinking if you know they are..


my ex is a drug addict and next week im filing for full physical and legal custody of her .. willing to do supervised vistation.. he keeps thretenign to take kaylee from me but hhe lives a room and bored house with other druggies (not a clean and sober home) .. im a full time working mom with my own place where kaylee has her own room..


you can ask that an inspector goes out to the home before your child is there to make sure its a safe home enviroment...

Quoting emily*:“ The house is a 3 bedroom. BD has a room, the 20 yr old has a room and well...I guess the new 18 year old room mate is either sleeping in what was my daughters room, or on the couch...”

so are you asking how you should bring this up to your bd... or to a lawyer, etc? if it ends up going to court then your lawyer should know all of the specifics. i dont really know too much except my best friend had issues at one point with her ex keeping their girls because he lived in a small, dirty place with drugs around. i know the court can require that it's clean and meets certain requirements. or you could call dcfs and report him by saying you suspect drugs etc and they would do an investigation on him and the house.

Quoting Barfy McVomitron:“ You can bring it up, but unless you have proof, it wont mean much.”

   Yep, my sister spoke to 2 lawyers about this, and they said the same thing.

Quoting Barfy McVomitron:“ You can bring it up, but unless you have proof, it wont mean much.”

AND you need a good lawyer for the judge to even take it into consideration..drug tests so forth.

He will NOT immediately order supervised visits without evidence of it needed.

Quoting emily*:“ So, my BD and I recently split up...I'm living with my mom, he owns a house and has a 20 year old room ... [snip!] ... battle...Isthere any way I could bring up the bad company that stays at that house? I DO NOT want my daughter around that.”

you might be better off having proof of it.

ugh im sorry  
I wouldnt even want my daughter around random dude roommates.

I'd bring it up because it's important what she is exposed to. He should visit the baby at your moms or a public place. You should talk about how his life needs to change because he is a father now! He should look into getting a place on his own. It's good for you to be at home for now if your mother is supportive. Also I hope you didnt have her in that enviroment befor you split up because he may bring it up and it's not responsibile! You being at home with mom may even seem more stable from the courts point of view.. GOOD LUCK 

I'm fairly confident BD doesn't do drugs, but Iam not comfortable with my daughter being there with drug users. Especially when there are at least 15 guns in the house. Not to mention BD's new roommate is my exthat I dated when BD and I broke up for a whileearlier this year...all I can say is drunk/drugged up people with a bunch of guns and the history of 2 of those guys is NOT a good situation!

Quoting Joy.:“ ugh im sorry   I wouldnt even want my daughter around random dude roommates.”

I know. I don't want her staying ina freakin frat house!!! Especially if theyre not sober...you never know what could happen!!!