Depression/vent

Has anyone been through it, that can help?

I posted this last night and didnt get that many responses..

But Im at the lowest point in my life...I have no job, and I live with my SO's mom with my 2 children. I do nothing all day, but take care of them. I want to join the AirForce, but I have to get my Diploma. Which for the school, Im on the waiting list. If I had a job, things prolley would be better. I hate not doing anything. My SO is in the Army and is 1500 miles away in CO, living his life. He always say "us"... and things will get better for "us"... but most of the time he is always broke. I have no idea where his money is going, and I dont feel like its "us".

Quoting Terkisha:“ Has anyone been through it, that can help? I posted this last night and didnt get that many responses.. ... [snip!] ... for "us"... but most of the time he is always broke. I have no idea where his money is going, and I dont feel like its "us".”

Why aren't you living with your SO? And ask him where the money is going to? If hes young and in the barracks it's probably going to booze.

I went through that too. Except my husband wouldnt talk to me when he was in the Army. He would either get on the phone and hardly say a word or he would shut it off. All the money he got when he was actually on base all went to weed, tattoos alcohol and food. He stayed at a tattoo shop the majority of the time which caused him to go AWOL. Talk to him as much as you can. Tell him your concerns. If you have a bank card, check the account balances as much as you can and ask him where money is going to.

Quoting .Empty Whiskey Tits:“ I went through that too. Except my husband wouldnt talk to me when he was in the Army. He would either ... [snip!] ... him your concerns. If you have a bank card, check the account balances as much as you can and ask him where money is going to.”

whoa.

lol I'm not showing my husband this thread, he'd say no to the army for me LOL

Quoting Fierce Mama:“ Why aren't you living with your SO? And ask him where the money is going to? If hes young and in the barracks it's probably going to booze.”

Because we arent married.. yep, he is a drinker.

Sometimes I just want to join the Army as a start, but Im really wanting to shoot for the AF. Im just waiting and waiting. Im always broke and cant keep my cell phone bill paid, so I dont really stay in contact with any of my friends, except over the computer. And my dad tells me not to throw my life away, and to do something with my life... I AM going to do something with my life. But I do feel like Im getting lazy from being depressed, thinking nothing is going to work out for me. It sucks to be me for the time being.

sorry im just rambling on..

why arent yall living with him? and does his mom work? if she does on her days off why dont you go find a job that you can do at night, that way you wouldnt have to pay for daycare on 2 kids because then you would need about 3 jobs lol. Ask his mom if she would mind watching the kiddos at night when you have to work...i think you need to be able to get outta the house and feel like you are doing something to help your situation . And i would be questioning him as to why he has no money, if he isnt sending anything to help with the kiddos then he is probably drinking it away 

Quoting Terkisha:“ Because we arent married.. yep, he is a drinker. Sometimes I just want to join the Army as a start, ... [snip!] ... depressed, thinking nothing is going to work out for me. It sucks to be me for the time being. sorry im just rambling on..”

I'm in the USAF. Good luck on joining as a single parent.

Sorry for the stress  

Quoting .Empty Whiskey Tits:“ I went through that too. Except my husband wouldnt talk to me when he was in the Army. He would either ... [snip!] ... him your concerns. If you have a bank card, check the account balances as much as you can and ask him where money is going to.”

Thats how I feel sometimes. I talk to him over the phone.. but he barely has anything to say. When I get pissed, he tells me "Oh i get up early, and I work all day" blah blah blah... but when I ask him how was his day he says "Fine"  

Ugh. I feel like I want to do this by myself sometimes. buuuuuuut, I stuck. waiting.

if you have children together it doesnt matter! and if he is already in the army and yall have kids they wont let you join because someone needs to be around for the kiddos

Quoting Terkisha:“ Thats how I feel sometimes. I talk to him over the phone.. but he barely has anything to say. When ... [snip!] ... him how was his day he says "Fine"   Ugh. I feel like I want to do this by myself sometimes. buuuuuuut, I stuck. waiting.”

Is he paying you child support?

He is required to by UCMJ.

Quoting ***Steff***:“ if you have children together it doesnt matter! and if he is already in the army and yall have kids they wont let you join because someone needs to be around for the kiddos”

Not exactly true, I'm joining the Army, all I need is a dependent waiver, but it is MUCH easier since I'm married.

Quoting ***Steff***:“ why arent yall living with him? and does his mom work? if she does on her days off why dont you go find ... [snip!] ... him as to why he has no money, if he isnt sending anything to help with the kiddos then he is probably drinking it away ”

His mom is sick... kinda.. well she is on a lot of meds... that she forgets to take daily. I really dont trust her with my youngest (who is still an infant)  . But thats exactly how I feel! I just need to get out! Do something with myself... Stupid economy. But next week, Im going with my SO's mom to put my children in daycare, because of her disabilities, she thinks she can get them in under 4C. Which Im happy for that.

Quoting Fierce Mama:“ Is he paying you child support? He is required to by UCMJ.”

My oldest isnt his child.. but i get child support for her, which is my only income + my unemployment checks. which is ONLY enough. Im so tired of this life.

well if she can do that put them in and find a job...and then start demanding he sends home money for his kiddos! If he refuses you can call where he is stationed and they will help you get what you deserve for you kids! Its time to take matters into your own hands and get things moving since he obviously cant be responsible on his own.


And i thought it was almost impossible if they both joined with no one to watch the kiddos? That is what they told one of my friends who was going to join then found out she was pregnant and her boyfriend is in the air force. IM sure there are ways around it though 

Quoting ***Steff***:“ well if she can do that put them in and find a job...and then start demanding he sends home money for ... [snip!] ... going to join then found out she was pregnant and her boyfriend is in the air force. IM sure there are ways around it though ”

Yea she wasn't married, thats why its hard.
All I need is a waiver and a family care plan