My son needs me every second!!

Hey beautiful mothers, Im a 19 year old mother. Im quit great at it actually! The only problem is, is he is a mamas boy. He wont let me use the restroom,cook,clean,make him a drink ect. Its getting to the point he is driving me crazy~ And i dont want to feel thhat way about my handsom 1 and 1/2 year old son. And if I have to get something done as in cleaning or something he throws a fit, and it makes me feel bad. Is it okay to put him in his room (w/ the door open) even if hes crying?? It makes me feel so bad when he crys. But I have got to get stuff done!! I feel like I never have a second to myself. He still sleeps with me, And I like it that way because he is my cuddle buddy!! Any suggestions on how I can get a break with out him holding on my leg every second would be sooooo much appreciated!! Thanks mothers  

ps. he goes to bed at 9pm and wakes up from 6-7:30. is that normal? I know its apart of parent hood. But IM EXHAUSTED!!!!


please reply ladies : ) Breanna , Brycens Mamma

Put him in his room to play. He's old enough that he needs to start learning to play independently for a bit each day.

do u have a swing u could put him in? yes i agree he should be able to occupy himself. i put my kid on a jungle gym he is fine by himself for a long time.

Have you tried babywearing? I can't offer much advice since I don't have my boy yet but my friends who're babywearing told me it was great when they needed to have both hands free!

I have the same problem with my son too honey. He is 1 year and 3 months and still freaks out even if I just walk out of the room for a second to pee.

What I have been doing is just letting him sit and cry. I feel so bad about it and it usually makes me cry too but I just let him walk and follow me around crying (all he wants is to be held alllll the time). I also put up a gate in his room with all of his toys and make him play in there, he does cry the whole time but everyone keeps telling me he will get use to it and stop crying.

My son is getting clingy as well. I feel bad sticking him in his jumper, but you gotta do what you gotta do!

thank you all so much!! I feel that he should play independtly too! He can walk, sorta talk, SO he should be able to play by him self for a bit!! I wish I didn't feel so quitly. And it seems thaat I never have any energy. I weigh 115 and I feeel like a 1000 pounds!!!! Like i cant get off the couch!! : ( maybe depression or him taking all the energy out of me!!?!??

Quoting LilMamma6298:“ thank you all so much!! I feel that he should play independtly too! He can walk, sorta talk, SO he should ... [snip!] ... feeel like a 1000 pounds!!!! Like i cant get off the couch!! : ( maybe depression or him taking all the energy out of me!!?!??”

Maybe it's PPD? I know I suffered from it and still do at times. I noticed it when I started feeling drained and uninterested in things.

Quoting LilMamma6298

Maybe?? I dont know what to do about it. I don't have insurance to see a doctor! Im a very fun mother , because he takes all the energy out of me!! But its getting worse and worse. I feel like a coach patato!!! I just want to have good fun energy everyday for him. I want him to grow up with confidince and not feel lonley.

Hi,

DD is 18 months and is the same way. Yes, they are at the age where they should be able to occupy themselves for a little while, but they're also at that clingy stage.
I don't have her daddy here to help anymore, so it's really tough sometimes. I've also found that trying to incorporate them into what you're busy doing helps. For example, while doing laundry, I let dd play with a few towels or the baskets. Then I'll take her upstairs with me and let her play in my room or hers while I'm hanging clothes. She loves to play with momma's scarves, purses and shoes.   She'll also try to "help" me by bringing me things to put away.
Doing dishes, she loves to sit in the floor and play with pots/pans/tupperware while I get things cleaned up. The one thing I don't do is let her in the kitchen while I'm cooking; it just seems like an accident waiting to happen. When I'm making dinner, she usually ends up in her play room with the gates up.
My strategy doesn't always work, and sometimes will only occupy her for a minute or two, but I hope this helps you.

ETA: I skipped over your sleeping question, but wanted to let you know that dd goes to bed around 8pm and sleeps til around 6 or 7am; sounds like your LO is normal.

Try bringing him in the same room as you and giving him some different things to play with.For example if you are cleaning the kitchen give him a whisk and bowl all the while talking to him in a sing song voice.If you have to leave the room keep talking to him, don't sneak out, and keep your voice light while reassuring him you are coming right back.After some time he will get over this.Since you are a single Mom he is very attatched to you and he is experiencing seperation anxiety-this too will pass.gl.