9mos pregnant & Lost MY Family

This is very long... and Well I already know that a lot of you ladies are not going to be happy with this post because of the things that occurred... but I really just need to get it out and talk because I feel like I am gonna lose it...


First a little background to fill you in ::
I used to keep our apt as clean as could be! you couldnt find even a spec of dust... until a month ago when I started getting complications with my pregnancy.. First I had a wonderful trip to L&D (which SO accompanied me for) and I was diagnosed with PIH and was told that EVEN THOUGH I STAY HOME AND DONT DO ANYTHING BUT HOUSEWORK I NEED TO STAY DOWNA ND IN BED AS MUCH AS POSSIBLE!!! (dr's still to this day have not taken me off bed rest) .. well last week.. 4 days ago actually.. I had a prenatal appt, where I was checked and was 0 cm Dialated but 50% effaced.. that evening i had gone to the bathroom and noticed there was quite a bit of blood in my underwear... enough to scare the shit out of me and my SO.. so i called the DR.. he said it was the start of my bloody show.. I know that if my son was born now at 36wks he would be fine.. but the longer he stays in the better... since i got the start of my bloody show, walking gives me severe cramps that eventually turn into contractions... so i had went back down into strict bedrest once again...

Now back to the point of this post ::

It's 4:20am and I have had an hour of sleep and can not sleep... here is why...

At the moment I am at my parents house because I have lost my home and my SO... yesterday about noon me and he SO got into a fight.. it was over the fact that ' i dont do anything '. Well that day i had my prenatal appt... I had done our laundry at my uncles house.. and had it folded and such.. and neatly placed in garbage bags because it had to get back to my house in the back of my brothers truck.. so they stayed neat and got home safely.. well i never got a chance to hang them up.. SO threw a fit this morning.. throwing clothes everywhere... being hormonal.. i got upset... and he playfully smacked me in the face.. but it was playful.. and i still took it offensively so i pushed him away from me.. and we had words and he ended up spitting in my face... i stormed out of the bedroom and into the kitchen and wiped my face off and stuff and was crying and SO had come out to the kitchen for something and we had words again... well he had got in my face and i started bitching and then he did smack me.. not playfully.. straight up bitch smack like you see in the movies... it hurt my feelings more than anything.. so again i stormed off and sat down at the kitchen table... and he approached me to talk and i was still upset and we started having words again.. and he tried to get in my face again so i spit in his... well needless to say he was very late for work.. because he refused to leave and kept telling me to get out... i said not without my stuff.. my name is on the lease too. among the things that were being said while the confrontation took place was things like that he didnt believe the baby was his (thanks to his mom...) and i was a piece of shit.. etc.. but anyways.. i had an appt to get our food stamp review at 3pm.. and my brother was supposed to take me since SO had to work.. well it was already 1 pm and my brother was calling me and he heard me upset on the phone and i kept telling him to hold on and asked if i could call him back but he said he could hear something in my voice and it wasnt right.. so he came over anyways... SO ended up going to work shortly after my brother arrived... after SO left I called my dad and was talking to him and he kept saying it was up to me what I did... Well SO came back home about 30 minutes later.. I got off the phone.. he said he told his boss he needed some time because shit was going on.. well SO ended up calling his mom and telling her what happened (never mentioned the physical things that took place... just that i am a POS and dont do anything and he was tired of it..) then he got off the phone.. well my brother and SO ended up going to the store.. SO was sending me texts the entire time about us working things out but I didnt get them.... and I had calmed down and was ready to talk to SO when he got back so I eagerly waited.... I never did see my brothers truck return.. I noticed some shitty blue car pull in.. and I recognized the woman driving's face.. it was SO's mom... and the passenger was his POS cousin that was always mean to me.. and has NOOO respect for women at all.. at this time my brother and SO still havent returned.. so i am polite and let them in and tell them that josh had gone to the store with my brother.. and she says "So what we are not doing this now?!" I just let her do her bitching in hopes it would end sooner if i didnt FUEL the fire.. (didnt work..) well i finally turned around and said "and you dont know the entire story.. He hit me" and she gets an attitude and challenges "He hit you?" I said "yes" she said "where, i'm not saying your lying but i dont see anything " (she totally thought I was lying) I said, "across my face" she replies "I dont see anything" I said " I guess you arent going to see a red mark from 2 hours ago now are you?" so I go off and away from them.. and she is still doing her bitching.. shortly after SO and my brother get there... and I hear her ask him "Did you hit her?" and he was honest and said "yes" and she didnt care about anything after that... she verbally abused me the entire time i was packing my things.. she packed up everything that was mine in the kitchen.. fucked it all up.. but i worked on the baby stuff.. and she comes in and hounds over me and demands all the shit she bought... even the stuff i got at my baby shower that she bought... conveniently.. all the CLOTHING/CLOTH items.. she marked with a black dot on the tag just for this occasion (can you say BITCH!) and she started bitching because I know i bought a shit load of WHITE baby hangers.. and she got blue ones.. well apparently she had ONE set of white hangers... and i had gone thru and checked EVERY piece of baby clothing to take what was mine.. and she bitched.. tore open the bags i had just to make sure i didnt steal any of her shit.. and she demanded the pack of diapers and wipes she got me.. it was ridiculous.. but said the entire time "I knew this wasnt going to work" well while i was still working in the baby's room and SO was helping me pack (we were still on a talking basis and being polite and everything!) SO's mom and cousin were out on the balcony.. and after they walked back in my brother had gone out and heard a meow of a kitten.. looks down and my 4 mo old kitten IS ON THE GROUND!!! THEY THREW HER OFF THE 2nd STORY BALCONY! (as far as i know she is ok.. im not 100% sure though... and i wasnt there to see it and didnt hear about this until after i was already gone) but thank god my brother went immediately to go get my cat.. he did get her.. thank god. and i kept her in the bathroom until i was ready to go... and people kept opening the bathroom door.. not to go to the bathroom either!!! idk why they kept doing that... trying to let her out because the front door was open.. idk! but anyways i would run after her 9 mos pregnant and catch her before she got out of the house.. well there was one time that his cousin attempted to catch her.. and said he was gonna step on her head when he caught her and i got offended "NO you will not" he finally cornered my cat and picked her up by the skin from the top of her head and down over her shoulder blades pulled very taute (and this was not the nap of the neck where the mothers carry kittens) and she tried to meow in pain and I immediately snapped " DO NOT HOLD MY CAT LIKE THAT " and snatched her away from him and he was like "Go put her in the truck" I said "no" and started walking towards the bathroom to put her back in there.. and he got cocky and said "The truck is the other way dumbass" I just rolled my eyes and continued what I was doing... and apparently the cousin had also made a comment to my brother about the cat... my brother was questioning to himself what to do with the cat while we packed and to transport her.. the cousin had chimed in and said " Put her in the microwave" WTF!!!!!!!! This guy does have a history of abusing animals.. So I continued to pack my things and So helped me.. I did everything I could to hurry up and get done because I just wanted away from his mom... she continued to verbally abuse me and my 'housework' that i havent been able to do.. talk about my POS cat and my POS son... (those are her words not mine)


Needless to say nothing would have taken place if his mom could have kept her nose out of our business... She would only call to bitch at me or when she wanted me to do something for her online.. since i got internet.. like file her unemployment check so she didnt have to leave the house.. i was always polite and did it.. and when she bitched i never said anything back.. i just agreed with shit she said to keep from fueling the fire... well she has been lying to my SO about things I have said... the most recent thing he told me was that I told her all the time that I thought SO was overweight and wasnt BIG enough and thats why we had so many issues having sex.. that HIS belly got in the way.. When in fact what I said was MINE WAS GETTING IN THE WAY! and that we had problems trying doggie style because it hurt and of the gravity and weight of my belly and the fact my legs kept sliding out from under me! NOTHING TO DO WITH HIM! she also told him that she spoke with the admissions lady at my hospital.. (which i know she didnt because i did and she said none of this is true..) and they said that even though i am covered my medicaid (state) that if i list him as the father on the birth certificate then they will come back and bill him for allt he hospital charges and shit... NOT TRUE!! she didnt want to put his name on the birth certificate because she had him believing it wasnt his baby!! and to get a paternity test first!!! (and ya know i sat and thought about it since i havent been able to sleep.. for being so adamant about this not being his baby [which i do know 100% that it is] she was very bitchy about getting and having the baby stuff.) anyways... i have been talking to the SO and he thinks we do need time apart.. i dont know what will happen from here.. but i told him that there couldnt be anything between us with her involved the way she is.. she is controlling.. (was telling me what and how to do things with my son WHO ISNT EVEN HERE YET!) and i told him that what i wanted was for us to be together, be a happy family, just us again.. move away start somewhere new.. he said that was his plan the entire time.. but he cant push his mom away for someone who wont do anything.. i am willing to do things.. i have had issues the last month that have prevented me from doing so... He said we were going to talk more tomorrow because he had to go to sleep because he has to work... but I am praying very very hard that somehow things work out....

I am scared to death... I miss my SO.. My son will be here in a couple of weeks... I have lost my home... I want my bed.. I feel so lost.. I hate it.. It is taking everything I have not to just completely break down... the only thing keeping me from doing so is my son and praying and hope...

I have been cramping horribly all night.. they are so unbearable and hurt SOOO BAD!!! and i cant get comfortable.. i have no support..

I just want my family back.... :'(

Wow, they need to hear how important bedrest is. I was on bedrest for two months. They gave me steroid shots at 31wks because they didnt think I would make it, but because I listened to the doctor, I made it to 37wks when I was induced. My house was a pig sty... and you know what? Your health and the babies health is more important than a load of laundry sweetie. Dont let them get you down. Your MIL sounds like a world class POS. I didnt real the entire thing though cause its too late lol.

Stay strong! Your baby is whats important right now.

I'm sorry OP
but you shouldn't be with an SO who would smack you while you are nine months pregnant, or have to deal with his mother who is verbally abusing you

I hope things get better for you soon!

I didnt read all of that but if he hits you and lets his family treat you like shit, you're better off without him. If I were you, I'd be more worried about my child growing up around those people than missing anybody.

Quoting Danielle ((Joel)):“ This is very long... and Well I already know that a lot of you ladies are not going to be happy with ... [snip!] ... are so unbearable and hurt SOOO BAD!!! and i cant get comfortable.. i have no support.. I just want my family back.... :'(”

I'm sorry girl!!!
Feel better, I was in the same situation not to long ago.
Stay strong and stay your ground. It WILL blow over<33

Quoting {JustAG1RL}:“ I didnt read all of that but if he hits you and lets his family treat you like shit, you're better off ... [snip!] ... better off without him. If I were you, I'd be more worried about my child growing up around those people than missing anybody.”

i am concerned for that also... he is a completely different person when they are not around.. most of the time they are not... like i said unless she needs something or is calling to bitch... other than that.. you dont ever hear from her... which is why i told him i wanted to MOVE AWAY!! because i know i will never be able to get his mom out of the picture.. but we can at least get the hell away!

It's just me but I will never be with a guy who smacked me before and more if I was 9 months pregnant, But a lot of women are different. If a man really loves you he will protect you and your unborn child from anyone, Physical or mentally abuse.

I hope you called the police and stay way I had SO that choked me and beat me when I was preggers and no it never got better.Untilfinally one day he slug the baby in her bassinet... then I had to deal with a wholebunchof other things...Please Please stay Away!

Idk about anyone else but if my SO hit me (especially being pregnant) I'd leave him in the dust. You don't need someone that's gonna ABUSE you!!! You're worth so much more. And fuck him if he's gonna let his family treat you like that. You're getting no respect from you SO or them. Bedrest is hard. I was on it for the last month of my pregnancy. I advise you to stay away from them. If he trully loved you like he claims he'd stick up for you and especially for your guys' son. If I were your brother I would have knocked the shit out of his mom and his cousin.

Quoting ..::mommy::..:“ Idk about anyone else but if my SO hit me (especially being pregnant) I'd leave him in the dust. You ... [snip!] ... for you and especially for your guys' son. If I were your brother I would have knocked the shit out of his mom and his cousin.”

he couldnt.. even though my brother was there... still it was just him vs all them and it wouldnt have been fait he has a severe mental disability.. but trust me he told me he wanted too.

ok I just looked at your pics... Um he's not a small guy at all! So for him to put his hands on you is like the lamestthingever! Breaking up is hard to do but thismayhave been the first but trust me it will NOT be the last!

OMFG I AM BEYOND PISSED.
YOU ARE FUCKING READY TO GIVE BIRTH.
YOU ARE ALREADY STRESSED.
DOES YOUR SO HAVE NO BALLS?!
HE NEED TO TELL HIS COUSIN AND HIS
SAD EXCUSE FOR A MOTHER TO GO TO HELL.
POOR KITTY  
YEAH NO NO NO.
YOU DONT NEED THIS.
RELAX AND TRY NOT TO WORRY.
IM SO SORRY THEY ARE SO FUCKED UP...

wow im sorry you had to go through all of that.

but
1. if a man hits you one time he will do it again
2. if he hits you pregnant what would stop him hitting your baby
3. why the hell didnt your brother do anything other than just stand there?
4. his mother sounds like a fucking crazy lady.. id keep her away from your baby

thats a horrible story.. i dont know what advice to offer other than stay stong & your in my thoughts. my ex flatmate killed my kitten when we had a fight.   it was so sad. oh and madii her bro didnt do anything because he has a severe mental disability she said.

Quoting Danielle ((Joel)):“ he couldnt.. even though my brother was there... still it was just him vs all them and it wouldnt have been fait he has a severe mental disability.. but trust me he told me he wanted too.”

Oh. That makes sense. But anyway, I say to stay away. If he loves you but can't protect you than fuck him. You shouldn't have to deal with it while he sits there. I understand that that's his mom but that's no excuse to allow her to do that. . . Especially in YOUR house!!