re: 9mos pregnant & Lost MY Family

OP, Your SO is a POS. as well as his family members. You have a lot of patience because I wouldve thrown them off the balcony.

Quoting Mommy♥Alexander:“ OP, Your SO is a POS. as well as his family members. You have a lot of patience because I wouldve thrown them off the balcony.”

agreed!
my blood pressure skyrocketed when i read what happened.
i wanted to slap my husband around; then realized he didnt do anything lol

Quoting Momma;;:“ agreed! my blood pressure skyrocketed when i read what happened. i wanted to slap my husband around; then realized he didnt do anything lol”

LOL. Thngs like this make me angry  

Like I said in the OP.. the bitch over steps her boundaries.. she has her own problems in her own little family and cant keep them straight.. what gives her the right to control mine?? none! and if she could just butt out THERE WOULD BE NO PROBLEMS!!

nothing would have taken place yesterday, i wouldnt be feeling this way if she would have just stayed out of it.

Oh the reason she brought SO's cousin is because she knew my brother was there and was "afraid" he would do something. BS! He may be 30 yrs old but his mental state is that of a 16 yr old. SERIOUSLY!



It's now 9:20am... I got a total of 3 hrs of sleep last night (including the one hr i got before writing this post..)... I feel like I could fall over....

look im ging to tell you stright..im soo sorry you had to go threw that..especially when your nine months pregant. ihave a similar problem im not prego that i know of right now but my SO mother is just a huge bitch she does the same things to me her and my SO sister..i cant stand them all they do is talk shit..and as for the kitten they seem very aggressive..look things are just oing to get worse if he did'int say anything to his mom he might be a huge momma boy and if so he wont move far away from her..trust me when the baby is born they are going to talk about the way you take care of him whether or not you feed hm well ect ect..and about you SO hitting you nine months pregnant..shit if he dont care about hitting you while your pregant he sure is gonna care much about hitting you while you not and he even might hit you worse..please dont put your baby through that..it better to raise your baby alone with out him having to see his mom getting hit my his dad..it's just gonna mess him up. it;s just and advice: 

Danielle, first off I want to say I'm very sorry you're having to go through this. But I'm going to be honest with you and I'm going to speak my mind. If it hurts you, I'm sorry, but I'm not going to sugarcoat myself to make everything seem like sunshine and rainbows, and you know me well enough to know that.

First off, you keep saying if his mom hadn't shown up none of this would have happened. That's not true. He hit you before she ever got there. Now, the fight may have started because of the shit his mom put in his head, but it was still his fault for hitting you. No one put a gun to his head and made him do it. Josh is a big guy, he could have seriously hurt you. And for the most part if a man hits you once, he'll do it again. He did it out of anger while you were fighting. He says it will never happen again, but when he's angry again and thinking/acting only in anger, he WILL do it again. And who's to say he won't hit your kid? Or hit you again after the baby gets here when you're too busy, tired, and stressed out to keep the house clean at all times?

Second off, if he can't stand up to his family for his own damn wife, then he's a pussy. OMG Mommy might get mad at me. Well whoopdeefuckingdoo. My husband's aunt (who raised him) tried pulling that shit when I found out I was pregnant and you know what he did? He acted like a real man and told her she could either accept me and get off my case and quit calling me a whore and saying this wasn't his kid, OR she could forget his name. She has since then apologized to me, but I don't associate with her because I know it wasn't sincere, and he doesn't speak to her because she has yet to apologize to him. I'm not saying Josh needs to disown his family, but damnit he needs to grow a pair and stand up to his poor little mommy. And sweetie, he's had time to do so. If he hasn't yet, he's not going to.

I'm not you, and I don't know the WHOLE story... but from my POV, honestly you and Joel are so much better off without him. He's a POS who can't even stand up to his mommy and hit his wife out of anger. I know you miss him and you want him back, but sweetie, LOVE BLINDS PEOPLE! You may not see it now, but he is currently the worst thing for you and your son. I'm a firm believer that marriage is for life, but there are certain exceptions, and abuse is one of them. He hit you out of anger when you were 9 months pregnant. No one deserves that.

Having said that, I can't text, but I can still receive calls. So if you want to talk to someone, or vent or whatever, give me a ring.

I wish you luck in whatever you do. You know I'll be there to support you emotionally to the best of my ability.

Kentucky has domestic violence laws similar to my state. You should have his ass locked up for domestic violence and get an order of protection against him AND his family! If he will hit you once, it will only escalate further. I am sure he will come back and tell you he is sorry and that he loves you. Believe me, if he loved you he wouldn't ever have hit you the first time. If you go back to him, it won't be the last.

well here is an update...

i had talked with him over the weekend since things happened on friday.. we cam to understandings on everything.. i still wasnt happy that he kept "telling me" what i had to do so i could come back.. which was do the house work... but we gave it a shot and i gave it a test run yesterday.. i went over.. and stayed the night.. if it was gonna work then i would go the next day (today) and get my stuff and move it in.. well things went great last night!!! I felt odd in my home.. it didnt feel like home anymore.. I felt like a kid in crystal shop... CANT TOUCH ANYTHING!! i couldnt even eat this morning because i didnt know where anything was... well everything was great last night and this morning (good enought that we had sex last night..) and he was all sweet and loving.. but when i started getting ready for my appt.. i felt i needed to confront him face to face about what had happened and explain how i was feeling... maybe it would have gone away.. well he got offended and started yelling.. and it got bad.. he didnt hit me or anything.. and he did apologize for that.. but it was done too late..

I went to prenatal appt.. MY BP was elevated (no surprise..) 130/84 but still concerned because I have PIH... i have lost 4 lbs. i am down to 168lbs.. i am still 50% effaced and i am 1 cm dilated.. i am measuring 2 weeks ahead now.. (i am 36 weeks measuring 38wks.. Last week, nov 3 i was 35 wks measuring 36 wks, 1 wk ahead..) so he will be here sooner than everyone thinks!! my strep b test came back negative.. YAY!!

but anyways..

i have changed my ell phone number.. i am back at my parents until i get on my feet and get my own place.. and they are going to help me get what i need, that i lost thanks to his mom.. and help me when i first come home with him.. i am pressing charges on him tomorrow.