re: Anyone anti-cry it out?

Quoting Am loves her sweet boy!:“ I was just wondering if anyone out there was against letting their baby cry it out. I just cannot bring ... [snip!] ... a bottle, pick him up and put him in his crib, then he is up around 3 to get in bed with me. Anyone else struggling with this?”

I think its really mean...I would NEVER do that...pure evil...I wanna cry just thinking about it.....I feel so bad for all those babies out there whose mama'a and dada'a hear them crying and do nothing about it...poor babies  

Quoting Am loves her sweet boy!:“ I was just wondering if anyone out there was against letting their baby cry it out. I just cannot bring ... [snip!] ... a bottle, pick him up and put him in his crib, then he is up around 3 to get in bed with me. Anyone else struggling with this?”

i am anti-CIO. my son as well wont sleep in his crib. he is 5 months now.

I starting letting my son CIO at 9 months. He's always slept in his crib from birth, but he would never go to sleep until I rocked, shhhh'ed, and sang to him. He doesn't have an official bed time, but he gets sleepy around 1030 (late, i know) so once I see he's getting sleepy, I would just give him a bath, then lay him in his crib w/ a bottle. Sometimes he cries, sometimes he doesn't. If he cries for too long, or too hard (screaming)then I'll get him and rock him to sleep (he goes right out). But its not a bad, it develops independence. Althought they're young, they won't be forever. And you have to help them with those skills sooner or later.

Quoting Am loves her sweet boy!:“ My son has never just went off to sleep anywhere except in the car, not even as a newborn. Now he will not even let me rock him to sleep. He thinks it is play time and bites me and jumps.”

My LO was the same way. There was no consistent way of getting her to sleep. At 7 months i was losing my sanity and, physically the pinched nerve in my neck and chronic sleep deprivation were too much. My LO was suffering as well. I was very anti-CIO and read lots of books, talked to people asked BG-mammas annd the only thing that worked was a method in a book that a neighbor gave me. It's Healthy Sleep Habits, Happy Child by Weissbluth. Literally since night 2 of the book everything got significantly better and it was great in a matter of 3-4 days. He has you look at the entire day of napping and bedtime sleep. Your LO may or may not even fuss/cry much once his/her pattern is altered. Mine cried 22 mins night 1, 28 night 2 and 10 night 3. Thereafter it was just a few mins of fuss or nothing. I cant recomment that book enough! Give it a try. All babies are different. I wish mine would have settled inot a pattern sooner or but that just didnt happen. If we are lucky enough to have another child i will use Weissbluth's method from the start and I'll prolly have a great sleeper from early on.

Quoting aberman:“ My LO was the same way. There was no consistent way of getting her to sleep. At 7 months i was losing ... [snip!] ... enough to have another child i will use Weissbluth's method from the start and I'll prolly have a great sleeper from early on.”

Funny enough I have the book. I have not had time to read it since working full time and being a mommy keeps me way to busy for book reading. I really want to read as much of it as I can. If you can give me any important reading chapters I can focus on it would be great!

Chapter 6 is the most important. I started there but liked it so much i read most other parts. It must be very hard to work FT and be a mom. Do yourself and your baby the best thing you can do and get him to have good sleep habits sooner rather than later. He needs good sleep and you need to have some time to take care of yourself and your other obligations, too. A better-rested baby will put him in a better mood and he will be easier as he will be happier.
GL and feel free to PM me.

Quoting aberman:“ My LO was the same way. There was no consistent way of getting her to sleep. At 7 months i was losing ... [snip!] ... enough to have another child i will use Weissbluth's method from the start and I'll prolly have a great sleeper from early on.”

I read that book as well.... that's what helped us get my baby on such a good sleep/nap schedule. I should have mentioned it earlier... but it really does help.

I wouldn't say I'm "anti CIO", I personally do not care what others do with their children.

HOWEVER, I *personally* would never use the method.

I allow my daughter to sleep when she is tired (no matter the time, I'll live), I can't force her.