Military Wives and Girlfriends & PTSD

Just want to make it clear that i'm by no means excusing his behavior

I'm just as shocked and angered and just devastated as any of you ladies. I know my baby is what matters and any type of abuse isn't right. I'm the first to jump to defend and advocate for stopping violence against women.

My josh is a sweet country boy and he's never so much has hurt a fly he's been so dependable and never have we ever had such issues as the ones we're having currently and I'm just trying to get him help. I know something is seriously wrong for him to just lose it. I don't want to lose him but i'm willing to step back while getting him help.

Fucking military, civilian couples struggle enough with financial and personal issues, it just adds more shit and has completely changed him.

I don't want to abandon him, i think he'll just get worse if that happens. How can i help him while still staying safe?

Well if he's putting you in danger you should get out of the situation for the time being until he gets help for himself.

Try and see if he is willing to talk to you about anything that is bothering him.. Let him know that you're there for him!

Most importantly see if he will go see a professional for help. Tell him you'll stand by him as long as you see that he is trying to get better.

I just PMed you regarding your previous post about this.... Just so you know.

Sounds like he needs to get some PTSD counseling. I'm sure that's what's causing it, if you've exhausted all other reasons (possible cheating, etc...)

My husband went through a "phase" where he was super irritable and plain angry all the time. He became pretty verbally abusive, as well. We have a very honest relationship, and this was basically out of nowhere (besides the little things in life that tick people off). He's seen counselors about it and doing much better.
But it was a very drastic change like that in him over a short period of time. Normally, he is the most reliable, caring husband and dad. IDK what triggered it...

Anyway, it's hard to get them involved in therapy. Matt only decided to do it after he realized how messed up his actions and what not were making our marriage. Plus, he had a ton of male support in getting help. I think that mostly had to do with his friends all getting help for it, as they had PTSD from the deployments they went through with him. He was a marine, btw...

When my husband gets annoyed with me i give him some space. He always comes back to me and wants to talk later. Guys arent like us, when we get upset we want to talk to someone, we want someone to comfort us. Guys mostly just want some space and to figure things out for themselves. If i were you, this is what i would do in your situation. I would write him a letter, leave it somewhere he will find it, and tell him something like "I can tell you're having a hard time right now and i want to help you through this, and the only way i know how to help you right now is to give you some space. I'll stay a couple of nights at my friends house. Dont feel like you have to call me, i'll be fine. When you want to talk again, i'll be here. "
Its never gotten that bad with my husband as it has with yours but trust me, when he gets mad at me, i just tell him that its ok, i will give you some space, and that i will be here when he wants to talk. And when we were able to live together i would just leave for several hours and then come back home and just read a book or something and wait for him to talk to me. He always does.