Abusive SO?

My SO is changing, rapidly. As of lately he's been so angry, every little thing gets him aggravated and he'll instantly yell at me. He doesn't want me to get close to him but he feels i abandon him if i leave the room when he gets all heated.

Idk, i know that sometimes i can be aggravating but not 3 or 4 times a day. He's left me standing in the middle of a store cause he gets so pissed off and just walks off.


ex Halloween night we took my two younger siblings out and my best friend came along. Well he was snapping at me all day long and he snapped at me because i got onto my brother about not wanting to carry his own candy bag. I got kinda butthurt and didn't wanna trick-or-treat anymore and he BLEW UP walked off screaming that i was wasting his fucking time and mine. Walked off multiple times and basically bitched and would tell me to stay the hell away from him. I didn't really get what the issue was so not feeling comfortable or even able to enjoy myself i wanted to figure out what his issue was. I was in tears around tons of ppl in the street looking completely pathetic begging him to talk to me and he walked off as he walked off i told him that if he did it was the last time he would. Well he walked off anyway. He called one of his buddies from his unit to pick him up and just disappeared for a while. I wasn't about to just give up, i've been through hell and back for him and i won't let us just fall apart over nothing. He finally got it through his big head that it wasn't just a fight. And this is daily not the point where we question being together, that was just the breaking point.

We've been better for the last few days until tuesday night. We had a stupid argument because my cousin asked me to go with him to get tested. It got so childish and immature, we were in bed and he got on top of me held me down and covered my mouth as he yelled at me for being so aggravting. I pushed him off kicked and screamed, he told me not to kick him again but he wasn't completely off so i did and he straight punched me i turned completely so his fist landed right on my ass. This sounds way more dramatic then it really is, it know it's bad but it's not as bad as it sounds.

I just never know what's going to set him off anymore. He snapped outta whatever his issue was for the past few weeks and he obviously realized that he can't act like this, but never told me WHY or WHAT had been bothering him. Now i don't know what to do, the lines of respect have been seriously crossed and i just don't know how to fix it.

Abusive SO will only treat you as poorly as you allow them to

Is it possible he could be cheating on you? i know my friends bf was acting like that and it was cuz he was cheating.
im sorry i dont know why men act out like that sometiems.

GET THE FUCK OUT NOW!!!!!!!!!!!!

Seriously find someone you can stay with if you live together, or change your number and just stay the fuck away from him. God I would love to junk punch him

GTFO!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Question... How is it not as bad as it sounds? He put hands on you, point blank. Him being pissed off, for whatever reason, doesnt justify him laying hands on you in any way. Covering your mouth, punching you...

I wont tell you what to do and I dont know him, but from my experience, once they resort to violence, it usually doesnt stop and only gets worse.

Sorry for the tough love. Ive been there and done that too many times. Id hate to see someone go through the things I did.

We live together and we're currently staying with my parents while we're waiting to renovate the house we got together

You said that it's not as bad as it sounds, but I think that's really bad. You don't deserve that. My husband and I play around and will pin each other down, but it's all play. Not when we're arguing. If he did that and punched me, his ass would be out of here. However, you said someone from his unit picked him up. Is he in the military? Did he get home from a deployment recently?

Leave and then dont give in. He probably thinks he can treat you however he wants and you wont do anything. Leave him standing in the middle of somewhere, find a ride, then let him see how it feels to be left by himself for a while!

Quoting Julian's Wife:“ You said that it's not as bad as it sounds, but I think that's really bad. You don't deserve that. My ... [snip!] ... here. However, you said someone from his unit picked him up. Is he in the military? Did he get home from a deployment recently?”

    

Quoting Julian's Wife:“ You said that it's not as bad as it sounds, but I think that's really bad. You don't deserve that. My ... [snip!] ... here. However, you said someone from his unit picked him up. Is he in the military? Did he get home from a deployment recently?”

Yea he's a Marine, his unit is due for a deployment and they just got their orders. It's his 4th deployment and will be his 1st tour in Afghanistan

Id tell you to gtfo now but your not going to listen to anyone i bet. "thats sounds much worse than it was"... is just a protective thing to do. Any man who manhandles a woman... ESPECIALLY a pregnant woman and even goes as far as HITTING her.. is the definition of ABUSIVE. He sounds verbally and physically abusive and it will only get worse.

Do you really want your child to be raised around that?

Quoting Just Call Me Babycakes:“ Yea he's a Marine, his unit is due for a deployment and they just got their orders. It's his 4th deployment and will be his 1st tour in Afghanistan”

From my understanding, this was sudden?? Maybe you should try to get him help. He may be dealing with some deep seeded shit, but that does not make it okay to put hands on you.

Quoting MonsterBoobs:“ Id tell you to gtfo now but your not going to listen to anyone i bet. "thats sounds much worse than it ... [snip!] ... sounds verbally and physically abusive and it will only get worse. Do you really want your child to be raised around that?”

And on the note of putting hands on a pregnant woman, where would his fist have hit if you didnt turn your body for the contact to be your ass??

I am a firm believer that a woman does not realize the psychological repercussions of abuse that it has on their children until its much too late... and the child gets caught in the cycle of abuse themselves