Finally Turned On My Phone!

So I've had my phone off all day, trying to avoid my family, and everyone else who's been trying to get ahold of me, I just haven't been in the mood to talk, my sister left multiple messages about the twins, and at this point I just want to kill her because I don't want to talk to her about them.. I mean for goodness sakes, she doesn't even know their names, she keeps calling them the babies, it's like they have names! Heath and Christina!!!! Other then her calling, my mom and dad both called multiple times saying Lydia is bawling jsut screaming mamamamamama.... I don't want to deal with Lydia right now, and maybe that's wrong, sue me.. I'm so sad, right now that I just wouldn't be a good for me to be around her... But tomorrow she will be home.. I had multiple calls from friends and a various amount of other people.. But the one that I got, that shocked the hell outta me, was Jack.. He called and left 16 messages.. He was crying and kept saying I'm sorry, I'm so sorry for you, for the babies.. He kept saying he loved me and he missed us.. He wants to get together and talk and see Lydia and spend some time with us... I haven't called him back and I don't know if I should.. I don't know what to do.. I want Jack so badly in my life, but at the same time i don't want to go through what happened already again.. Everytime things don't go as planned he bails, and I can't deal with that anymore.. I'm so confused, and I just don't want to deal with this!!!!

im glad he called you love :/
yall really should get together
lah yooh<3

You are an incredibly strong woman; I can't believe what happened and I am so sorry you lost Heath and Christina. There is nothing wrong with taking time to grieve because you definitely need to have that chance. As far as Jack, I totally get where you are coming from about how he bailed when things got rough. It is nice to have someone's shoulder to cry on though just to sit there, especially when things are really rough. I think you were smart to turn your phone off so you could have some time all to yourself no interruptions..you need a little break to yourself. I hope things get easier for you and I know that me saying that doesn't help but you are all in my prayers.   I would call Jack though at least to have someone there to help me through this time..just because he helps you through a hard time does not mean you let him completely back in and everything is all back to normal..take it one day at a time!

So sorry hun, I would talk to him, I think you need to cry and talk to someone right now and let it all out and he can at least listen, just because you call doesn't mean you are taking him back. He has a lot to make up for.

I think you should call him back. Maybe patch things up. It sounds like you really need to talk to him. But don't rush into things if it looks like he wants to get back together. Express your feelings that he'll leave you again in a time of need. I hope things get better for you sweetie. You of all people deserve happiness.

I'm so sorry that you are going through all of this Bridget.. Try to be strong for Lydia.. She deserves nothing but the best.
If Jack seems sincere, then try to talk to him, but if you think he is just going to bail again if something doesn't go his way, then maybe it is best for both you and lydia to stay out of that situation.

RIP Heath and Christina

Quoting Bridget&Lydia:“ So I've had my phone off all day, trying to avoid my family, and everyone else who's been trying to get ... [snip!] ... don't go as planned he bails, and I can't deal with that anymore.. I'm so confused, and I just don't want to deal with this!!!!”

you just recently lost twins? im sorry, i lost g/btwins at 17 wks preg and it tore me up im so sorry for your loss ............im here if u wanna talk

When you are ready, call him.......but don't call him until you are ready.

call and get him over to talk...itd be good

Quoting Belly Full Of Sunshine:“ When you are ready, call him.......but don't call him until you are ready.”

I agree. Be strong and don't allow yourself to fall into his 'trap'. You know how hurt you were before. It's fine to talk and cry and hug and whatnot, but just know what he did to you before and be very, very cautious. YOu're right, you don't deserve to go through it again.

Bridget, I know this is late, but there is nothing wrong with calling him and having someone to cry with. He may have been cold and bailed, but in the end (at least to him I'm sure) those are his babies too (whether he liked it or not). If what you need is Jack back in your life (not even as your husband, but as Christina and Heath's father) then so be it. It doesn't matter what everyone in your life thinks you should do... right now it's about what you need.