I made it official...

I took my rings off yesterday. Not that I don't want to try anymore, but because there's no point. I just wish I could trust him when he tells me that he loves me and wants to fix us... he doesn't want me. He wants the idea of me. He wants the idea of being married and having that "married" status with all the perks of being single. Which is fine. Just not for me. There is a very slim chance he will change. When I say slim, I mean slim to none. He's happy the way he is, and who am I to change that? Who am I to take that from him? He can be happy doing what he's doing. He'll just be alone... after all he's got the Army now. With all his new single buddies... all the porn, booze and free sex he can find... Just wanted to let yall know what was going on here... thanks for reading...

You can make it through this mama .

Good for you! Don't take his bullshit!

Good Luck mama... sounds like you know what you need to do and are actually doing it... Its refreshing to see stuff like this instead of all the ones who say oh man he's done me so wrong what should i do? They know what they should do, they just don't do it... ugh... Anyways... congrats on waking up and realizing how things are gonna be!

Quoting MamaCrash:“ I took my rings off yesterday. Not that I don't want to try anymore, but because there's no point. I ... [snip!] ... all the porn, booze and free sex he can find... Just wanted to let yall know what was going on here... thanks for reading...”

f*** him! thats the hardest part...and now things will get easier and easier

Im so sorry to hear that things arent working for you and your husband. I dont know what it is about the army/military, but i know at least 4 women that had their marriages break upwhile there husband was active.

Quoting amanda11987:“ Im so sorry to hear that things arent working for you and your husband. I dont know what it is about ... [snip!] ... it is about the army/military, but i know at least 4 women that had their marriages break upwhile there husband was active.”

nothing except its a bunch of dudes drinking and away from their families an SOs. a lot of guys are cheating assholes and once one does it tempts the others to. plus im sure there are women who hang out at the local bars and try to get with those guys. they know theyre away from their SOs and lonely, and they take advantage of that. i would never be able to date anyone in the forces, no offense to anyone else seriously

Seriously?

When did "cleave to your husband" mean just if he does what you think is right?

Religious differences are no reason to divorce.
Genesis 1:24.
A woman cleaves to her husband and becomes one flesh.
It does say not to yoke yourself to an unbeliever...but not if you DO yoke yourself that you can just say "Oh well...that sucks...I'm out"



And yeah...you can say it's all about porn free sex and booze...but you yourself gave the "yoking" excuse....because he's an atheist.

If you're gonna tell people that shit is wrong because of your religion...then you better be prepared to follow your Bible like WHOA.

Quoting amanda11987:“ Im so sorry to hear that things arent working for you and your husband. I dont know what it is about ... [snip!] ... it is about the army/military, but i know at least 4 women that had their marriages break upwhile there husband was active.”

He just shipped to Basic Training. Lol, he's brand fucking new. But that's not the point. The point is, all his new friends are going to be single guys who like the same things he likes, and I'm going to get pushed aside... and I just know that when he gets deployed, there's going to be some hotter piece of ass that's going to give him whatever he wants. I'm the only girl he's ever been with, so that's got a lot to do with it. He likes to fantasize about these other women... because he's only had one. I kinda feel bad for him... but at the same time, I want to be selfish and keep him all to myself. Ha, not gonna happen. Like the other lady said, it's time I woke up and saw what was really going on...

You've taken the first step so now what do you plan to do next?

Quoting Satan:“ Seriously? When did "cleave to your husband" mean just if he does what you think is right? Religious ... [snip!] ... gonna tell people that shit is wrong because of your religion...then you better be prepared to follow your Bible like WHOA.”

im so confused...

Quoting MamaCrash:“ He just shipped to Basic Training. Lol, he's brand fucking new. But that's not the point. The point ... [snip!] ... keep him all to myself. Ha, not gonna happen. Like the other lady said, it's time I woke up and saw what was really going on...”

And this is even worse.
You're divorcing him because of what he MIGHT do?
My gosh.

Quoting Satan:“ Seriously? When did "cleave to your husband" mean just if he does what you think is right? Religious ... [snip!] ... gonna tell people that shit is wrong because of your religion...then you better be prepared to follow your Bible like WHOA.”

YHVH has already given me the confirmation I need. 3 times I prayed asking Him to show me what I needed to do, and 3 times, within HOURS of praying, I was shown that Matthew was never going to change, that I needed to move on. I don't think He relishes the idea of divorce. But this marriage is clearly not of His will... If it was, it would be easier. Not that it wouldn't be hard regardless, but things done without G-d are far harder than those done with Him...

Quoting Satan:“ And this is even worse. You're divorcing him because of what he MIGHT do? My gosh.”

How about you read EVERYTHING that I write and then pass judgement. Or better yet, how about you not pass judgement at all?

is this something that has been going on for a while or did it start when he went to basic?