I told him...

I got together with Jack last night, I told him I needed him to come over to talk about Lydia.. Which wasn't entirely untrue, because we did talk about Lydia too (well kinda of, he asked how she was), but it was all about the twins.. Right away when he showed up he looked at me, and blurted out, wow your so small still! I just looked at him and burst into tears.. He just stood there, he had no idea what was going on... We went over to the couch and sat down, I explained everything that happened, and how both twins were lost... He just sat there and stared at me, he kept saying, "please tell me your kidding? Please? Your kidding right, Bridget? This is not funny!" I just kept telling him I wasn't kidding, I showed him the pictures of the twins and he lost it.. He was so mad at me... I feel horrible, he asked me, why I didn't call him when I went in, why I didn't call him after the babies were born? He told me he hated me for this, and that I was wrong on so many levels...
He left pretty quickly after that.... Last thing I heard out of Jack's mouth was, "I hope you burn in hell for this Bridget.." **door slamming**

I feel horrible.. Maybe I did do the wrong thing, he told me he didn't want the twins, how was I suppose to know? I was going through a hard time by myself, I didn't need the stress of him ontop of everything else..

I'm a horrible person, and I feel so worthless again, am I ever not going to fuck up mine and Lydia's life?

Quoting Bridget&Lydia [GDS]:“ I got together with Jack last night, I told him I needed him to come over to talk about Lydia.. Which ... [snip!] ... everything else.. I'm a horrible person, and I feel so worthless again, am I ever not going to fuck up mine and Lydia's life?”

You are not a horrible person! I don't really know your situation but it sounds like you were in shock and really did not know how to handle telling him. It was horrible for him to say what he did but I think he also said it out of shock and grief.
I am so sorry for all that you are going though.

I know there is nothing that we are going to be able to say that is going to make this better for you. You are not a screw up, he just needs time to come to terms with it. Give him some time to calm down, it had to be a big shock for him. I'm so sorry mama

Wow. I can understand him being upset but what he said was uncalled for. You did nothing wrong. Im sorry  

Quoting Bridget&Lydia [GDS]:“ I got together with Jack last night, I told him I needed him to come over to talk about Lydia.. Which ... [snip!] ... everything else.. I'm a horrible person, and I feel so worthless again, am I ever not going to fuck up mine and Lydia's life?”

hes just mad. one day he will relax about it but it takes time. maybe you should have called him when it was happening; but you had MUCH more important things going on. when he cools down maybe you will get the chance to explain it but if not then i wouldnt think you fucked anything up. just made a simple mistake. i know its hard im sorry and remember on bg we love you and will be here for you. i have all the empathy in the world for you and if you need to talk please feel free to do so with me.

Quoting Bridget&Lydia [GDS]:“ I got together with Jack last night, I told him I needed him to come over to talk about Lydia.. Which ... [snip!] ... everything else.. I'm a horrible person, and I feel so worthless again, am I ever not going to fuck up mine and Lydia's life?”

No way momma, you did what you had to do and he can kiss ass. It is totally not your fault sweetheart, and dont ever let anyone tell you it is. I would like to see how they deal with what you are going though. Give Lydia extra love she deserves it and you are not a fuck up, you're just a momma trying to make it the best way she knows how.

If it were me i would of not told him either...he didn't want them so why does he care now? You did the right thing...and now u need to look into the future and take care or yourself and ur daughter.. Gd luck!

I say forget what he said, He was in shock and just found out his twins died so he's allowed to feel emotional and no doubt some major guilt on his part.

I do hope he calls and apologizes. And if not, oh well...he has to live with his guilt in not being there (because if he hadn't been such a jerk about everything he would have been there right with you all along) for the rest of his life.

You did what you needed to do, you loved and wanted those sweet babies, never let anyone tell you otherwise.

Quoting Bridget&Lydia [GDS]:“ I got together with Jack last night, I told him I needed him to come over to talk about Lydia.. Which ... [snip!] ... everything else.. I'm a horrible person, and I feel so worthless again, am I ever not going to fuck up mine and Lydia's life?”

He left you Bridget, he left you to care for Lydia on your own, as well as those twins. He said he didn't want them. Why the fuck would he think you would call him at that situation? DO NOT beat yourself up over this. You didn't do a damn thing wrong.

Sorry for the cursing, he's just a real piece of work that guy.

I don't understand how he is trying to tell you you're horrible. I could see you calling him if he hadn't told you he didn't want the babies. I don't know if I would have called him either. I think that he is so upset because he probably did want them, he just said he didn't out of anger. I wish I had the magic words to make all your pain go away, I really do. But you are not a bad person. You did what was best for you at the time. He has no right to talk to you like that. Especially after what you just went through. I hope he grows up soon for the sake of Lydia. I am so sorry hon.   *hugs*

I know why he said what he said, but Trust me, he's more angry at himself than he is at you. HE left YOU! He never asked you for updates on them, he never called to see how you were doing.......the fact that he wasn't there was his own fault, NOT YOURS! He's angry and hurting, which is natural, but deflecting that anger onto you when he should be mad at himself is not fair.....

Quoting Mrs. Desnoyers [HBC]:“ He left you Bridget, he left you to care for Lydia on your own, as well as those twins. He said he didn't ... [snip!] ... beat yourself up over this. You didn't do a damn thing wrong. Sorry for the cursing, he's just a real piece of work that guy.”

i agree with this. how in hell can he get mad at you for not telling him if he didnt want them in the first place? its not your fault bridget!

So sorry you have to deal with that. It sounds like maybe he was just in shock andprobably feeling very guilty and you happened to be the only one there for him to take it out on. What he said was awful. Your a good person, dont let him upset you.

You are not a horrible person. From what Ive read e walked away from you AND your sick baby. He walked away from his little girl in a time she needs him most. So, why would you call him? IMO I would think he didnt care about them either.

So sorry for you loss's Mama. I hope you find peace soon. <3

oh no mamma your not a horrible person. Don't listen to him he's just mad and in a state of shock. I'm so sorry mamma. going through this is bad enough you don't need him making you feel like shit too.