Adoption

Have any of you ladys , ever have put up a child for adoption ? And if you could tell me the reason why you did it , reason i am asking is because i am considering putting the baby i am pregnant with up for adoption .

Thanks

I haven't BUT I tought about it. My reason am to young and am not ready for it BUT d bby didn't ask me to get preg and just give her away right?? Plus I wanted her to have better than me and another family but I figured nobody would take care of her like me and love her as much as I love her now when I haven't even met her yet. Think about it mama because it would be a hard decision mostly when you feel her or him move... Its the cutest awesomest feeling in the world. If you need to talk let me know

I haven't personally done it but my mom and best friend did. My mom did because she was like 20 (approx) and her mom was threatening to never speak to her and she couldn't support herself let alone herself and her son so she did a closed adoption and has never met the now 23 or so year old she gave up but she's had 4 children since. My best friend was a senior in high school (as was I) when she found out she was pregnant. She and the guy had already had a horrible break up and he claimed it wasn't his and she battled the decision to give her daughter up or not. Her mom finally talked her into an open adoption with family friends. So she sees her daughter and does not regret giving her a better life. She had to give her up becuase she was going to college and couldn't support the child and the family friends couldn't have kids so they did it.

Quoting SUPERHAPPY MAMMA:“ I haven't BUT I tought about it. My reason am to young and am not ready for it BUT d bby didn't ask me ... [snip!] ... decision mostly when you feel her or him move... Its the cutest awesomest feeling in the world. If you need to talk let me know”

Um, you don't even know how hard it is to be a mother yet, so please....shove it.
Babies need more than love, and they're not just cute and precious. A lot of work (emotional, physical, and financial) goes into raising a child. It's not fun and games. And adoption isn't just 'giving' the baby away, it's doing the most selfless thing you can do, for your child and another couple.


OP, think about your decision, you have a long time to do so. I wish you the best in whatever you do.

I haven't done it, but I think it's a wonderful option. I would love to adopt one day. Best of luck! There is a lady on here who put her daughter up for adoption not long ago. I will have to try and find her link, she loves telling her story in hopes of helping other women.

Quoting SUPERHAPPY MAMMA:“ I haven't BUT I tought about it. My reason am to young and am not ready for it BUT d bby didn't ask me ... [snip!] ... decision mostly when you feel her or him move... Its the cutest awesomest feeling in the world. If you need to talk let me know”

You don't have the slightest clue what you're talking about.

Babies need WAY more then love, and yes lots of people can love babies as much if not more then a biological mother.

A very good friend of mine gave her son up for adoption when she was 23. She's told me it was the hardest thing in her life, but she knows she couldn't have been the mother the woman who adopted him is. And she did an open adoption, so she still gets to see him and she says that really reinforces her decision and makes it a little easier for her. I know she sometimes cries over the thought of what she did, but she also told me she would never do anything differently.
I know I couldn't do it, but I think it's a very selfless thing to do.
Good luck with whatever you choose.

Am not saying its easy and been selfish about it but that's exactly why am bustin my ass wrkn at 5 am 8 hrs shift or ten to have everything bymyself for my bby and not asking anyone for the help. She has to not only think about money but if she loves her baby she will do anything to give her the best. Am wrking and studying to give my baby the best. Am single 20 year old mother so yall shove that because you got no idea of what am going through to give my baby the best with out having to ask for anyones opinion. I know it aint easy but I aint just gonna hand my baby like that either.

me n my so is give up our baby in april, but the reson why we are doing it because my sister n her hubby cant have any kids. So we want to bless them with a baby, between us both we got 5 kids.

I havent given a child up for adoption but I, myself, was adopted when i was a baby. I'm very grateful for what my birth mother did, it was the hardest thing im sure she ever did. Ive so far only met her once but i love her with my whole heart and plan to go back and see her (and my brothers and sisters that i have over there). She calls once a year to the woman who helped my parents adopt me and then the woman gives us a call to tell us what she said.
I'm also grateful for how my parents choose to raise me. they never tried to hide the fact that i was adopted. every since day they would always tell me 'i had another mommy who loved me and she gave me up because she wanted me to have a better life'.

think about it long and hard. it seems like you still have awhile to go so look at your options. also talk to family and friends. do your research. and i hope you pick the best decision for yourself and your child  

Quoting SUPERHAPPY MAMMA:“ Am not saying its easy and been selfish about it but that's exactly why am bustin my ass wrkn at 5 am ... [snip!] ... the best with out having to ask for anyones opinion. I know it aint easy but I aint just gonna hand my baby like that either.”

I'm just saying, I don't know what it's like to be you, but you don't know what its like to have a child. The money it costs to set up for a child is one thing, but to keep it happy and healthy, it takes more then love and it takes more then money.

op, I am going through the same thing with this pregnancy. PM me if you wanna talk  

There is a Birth Mom support thread in the pregnancy>ttc & adoption threads!!