Single and Pregnant...what now?

So, here I am 30 weeks along and my boyfriend is being an ass and long story short, I'm now about to head into parenthood as a single mom. Has this or something similar happened to anyone else here? I'm sure it has. I'm just scared, because this changes everything. I'm still really excited about meeting my little Lilly and happy that things reached a conclusion with him one way or the other, I'm just not sure how I'm supposed to make things work now. When am I supposed to worry about child support and custody and all those types of things? And am I obligated to let him be in the room at delivery time? Because now that we're not together, and I can only have two people in the room, I was looking forward to it being me, my mom and grandmother. Is it wrong to do that?

No he doesn't have to be let in and don't worry about the custody/child support stuff until she's here.

Just chillax until then  

you can have who ever u want in the room with you.. he doesnt have to be in there.. and i would say file as soon as the baby is born..

you just have to go day by day, hour by hour . . it's going to be hard but you can do it

it's YOUR choice who you want to have in your delievery room, so the answer to that is no.

I would worry about that later on when you feel better. If he even wants custody at all.
For my first daughter, he biological father treated me like shit and I only had my mom, sister and grandmother in the birthing room

yeah its not wrong.. if i wasnt with my bf when we have baby i wouldnt let him in... unless i wanted him to be in there... do what you want.. its your body and baby.. his baby too but ur the mommy. mommies win =]

My daughters father left me when I was 7 months along. So, I have def been in your position. You are not obligated to have him in the room, you can chose who YOU want to be in there with you. When the baby is born is when you file for child support and custody.

There is a single mom's thread on here, if you want the link I'll get it for you  

You can have whoever YOU want in the room after all your the one pushing the baby out your vag. Don't worry about custody/ child support till after the baby is here you can't do anything before that anyway. I was single for most of my pregnancy and for two months following birth. It's a lot of work doing everything 24/7 but its totally do-able and extremely rewarding.

you can deal with all of the child support stuff after the baby arrives. you'll probably have to determine paternity by going to court.

it's your labor/delivery, you choose who you want there.

and being a single mom is a hard job, but you can do it. i actually had an easier time being a single mom than being a married mom. i made all the decisions and never had anyone second guessing me. good luck hun.

You guys are awesome. You've really helped. So, don't worry about the legal stuff until she's here. That's a relief. That stuff has been running through my head so much lately. Do i need a paternity test if we both know and acknowledge that he's the father?

Quoting Nicky1388:“ You guys are awesome. You've really helped. So, don't worry about the legal stuff until she's here. That's ... [snip!] ... been running through my head so much lately. Do i need a paternity test if we both know and acknowledge that he's the father?”

some states require it if the parents arent married.

right now, focus on your and growing a healthy baby. that's all you need to worry about right now.  

I would suggest filing for child support ASAP after your baby is born. It takes a while to process. My LO is almost 8 months and I still haven't recieved a dime, my case is still pending.

You do NOT need to feel obligated to have him in the room with you. I was in a very simular situation as you are, except my BD left me when we found out I was pregnant. BUT... I still let him be in the room, because I thought it would knock some sense into him to see his daughter being born. And well, it did. It didn't make him want to be with me, but I tell you... he loves his daughter more than anything.

Single moms, rock. It is hard, I'm not going to lie... but it is very, veryrewarding.