In tears

Im listening to second chance by shinedown. And it really hits home.

I am without both parents. My mom kicked my family to the curb months ago. And when I was younger my father beat me everyday almost for two years. I shouldnt, but I think I am ready to forgive. I dont know. I need to let it go. Holding on to anger isnt good.

Every girl needs her parents : (

Quoting Scary Mary™:“ Im listening to second chance by shinedown. And it really hits home. I am without both parents. My mom ... [snip!] ... I am ready to forgive. I dont know. I need to let it go. Holding on to anger isnt good. Every girl needs her parents : (”

Good for you!   dont hold in that anger ..its good your wanting to let go. i'm sure once you do ..you will feel so much better.. hopfully  

Quoting Scary Mary™:“ Im listening to second chance by shinedown. And it really hits home. I am without both parents. My mom ... [snip!] ... I am ready to forgive. I dont know. I need to let it go. Holding on to anger isnt good. Every girl needs her parents : (”

you want to risk your father doing that to your children? i won't let mine near the ones who did wrong no matter how long ago. luckily i moved to another state so i don't really have to worry...

Quoting Oh Evan My Evan:“ you want to risk your father doing that to your children? i won't let mine near the ones who did wrong no matter how long ago. luckily i moved to another state so i don't really have to worry...”

Forgiving doesn't necessary mean letting them back in your life.

Quoting Scary Mary™:“ Forgiving doesn't necessary mean letting them back in your life.”

well yeah true. i wasn't really thinking that aspect it was the needing your parents part...

Quoting Scary Mary™:“ Im listening to second chance by shinedown. And it really hits home. I am without both parents. My mom ... [snip!] ... I am ready to forgive. I dont know. I need to let it go. Holding on to anger isnt good. Every girl needs her parents : (”

Sometimes just letting it go is for the best. Forgiveness only perpetuates (imo of course) further abuse and that could be any type of abuse. Please do your best to move on. I would have absolutely NO contact with them.

PM if u want. I was emotionally/mentally abused by BOTH my parents and still am to this day. They are evil people and you parents sound evil as well. There is no cure for that. It is not a mental illness. It's beyond your control in any manner..

I feel for you though bc I know exactly how it is. It's so damn painful. But look at it this way, you are not like either of them. You have alot of love and a bright happy life ahead of you with your immediate family. You are a stronger person bc of all this. If worst comes to worst, then I'd recommend seeing a psychiatrist only to let it all out, not saying you have any mental illness. But there is no shame in getting help with these issues from a professional.

Quoting Oh Evan My Evan:“ you want to risk your father doing that to your children? i won't let mine near the ones who did wrong no matter how long ago. luckily i moved to another state so i don't really have to worry...”

She never said any of the sort. Stop jumping to conclusions and if she did it's her business anyhow.

Quoting Oh Evan My Evan:“ well yeah true. i wasn't really thinking that aspect it was the needing your parents part...”

She probably means that she would LIKE to have their emotional support and would LIKE to have them in her life.

Duh.

Quoting DisturbedPlanet~Reigns~:“ Sometimes just letting it go is for the best. Forgiveness only perpetuates (imo of course) further ... [snip!] ... not saying you have any mental illness. But there is no shame in getting help with these issues from a professional. ”

Thank you. And I guess I didnt word it right...forgiving...like letting go. I'm not going to let my father back into my life because of my child. My mother, I might I dont know right now. I just know I need to stop holding onto the anger.

Quoting DisturbedPlanet~Reigns~:“ She probably means that she would LIKE to have their emotional support and would LIKE to have them in her life. Duh.”

Exactly.

Quoting Scary Mary™:“ Thank you. And I guess I didnt word it right...forgiving...like letting go. I'm not going to let my ... [snip!] ... into my life because of my child. My mother, I might I dont know right now. I just know I need to stop holding onto the anger.”

Yeah. To me they are two separate things. For me you can let go without necessarily forgiving. Just remaining indifferent. Not angry just not letting any negativity get you down. For me, consciously forgiving would mean to accept their behavior/actions that were/are unacceptable and always were and had such a powerful devastating effect on me. That'd be too much for me to forgive anyhow. Letting go, I can do.

If you are having any effects like anxiety or depression I'd definitely get some meds (I take xanax for extreme anxiety panic attacks thanx to my lovely parents) ...They do not cure-all but it does help with the intense feelings.. Makes your mind/emotions more manageable.

Let me know how you are doing periodically bc I am very worried and concerned about you

Another song that comes to mind when thinking about the fucked up things people do and just how cruel they can be is this song by Placebo called Broken Promise. It's very sad but oh so true....

Mary ((((( Big Hugs ))))


Hi DP long time no see

Quoting DisturbedPlanet~Reigns~:“ Sometimes just letting it go is for the best. Forgiveness only perpetuates (imo of course) further ... [snip!] ... not saying you have any mental illness. But there is no shame in getting help with these issues from a professional. ”

God you had it rough growning up, in ways i was wrapped in cotton wool.

You can share my mummy if you like she is lovely

Quoting DisturbedPlanet~Reigns~:“ She never said any of the sort. Stop jumping to conclusions and if she did it's her business anyhow. ”

Hi DP...
I wasn't jumping to conclussions. I was pointing something out. It could have possibly been something she hadn't thought of. I've been emotionally/physically/sexually abused by multiple different people all my life. I may have moved on, but I will never give those people a chance to do anything remotely close to my child. And for me that means to keep them FAR away from him... I was not jumping down her throat, or trying to be negative, nor anything of the sort. I was also trying to keep what I was saying short because I was feeding my son at the time and only had one hand..