Soooo you think you're a good mom?

As some of you know I was off of the site for awhile. Preterm labor, a hospitalization, having twns in nicu, you get the drift. I came back and I noticed a change amongst the bg mamas. It seems that so many of the newbies (people new to me, say from the last 9 months, and not all of them of course) are just drama queens that really offer no experience, help, advice or support to the O.P. Then I see people with post counts up the wazzzzuuuu. So I think to myself, "Self. These people obviously come on here alot. Why are they so rude, ignorant, bitchy and just otherwise nasty to others. " Not all of course, but enough that this has become a pondering thought on my mind atm.

Me thinks and wonders if the reason so many of those lovely high counted women have no advice to offer because they sit on their asses, on bg or other sites, whatever. Spending little or no time actually caring for their home, children, or relationships. Perhaps the fact that they spend so much time on here is why they have nothing to actually contribute to a conversation, question, or dilemma. I mean let's face it ladies, I haven't been on here long and seen more relationships fail then succeed. How exactly does ones child(ren) get cared for when one is always type...type...typing away. Maybe that is why they are so bitchy. Having no life, no quality love life or relationship, no clean home or quality time with my children would make me pretty cuntastic too.

Just looks for others thoughts on the subject. That is all  

I think you've hit the nail on the head.

Just saying but I spend a good amount of time here and I have a stable relationship, a clean house & my daughter is one of the happiest babies I know. Im sure there are ppl who spend alot here and they arent happy but I spent at least 2-4hrs a day here (mostly when Ella's either sleeping or otherwise engaged) and everything is fine. Oh but I am still a bitch. Thats just my charming personality tho  

i agree... when i first came on this site everybody was welcoming and friendly and had great advice to offer..

im always on BG lmao! but i see where you are coming from....some people are here 6 months and have 10000 post counts already....i could understand if you were pregnant....shit thats all i did when i was pregnant lmao! maybe they just dont know how to balance everything?!

Quoting pincklady:“ I think you've hit the nail on the head.”

   

Well i think most mom's spend their time on here while at work, during nap time, after everyone is in bed. I would not say they are not doing their motherly duties.
And for everyone being a bitch...to each their own.
I've seen noobs be attacked and vise versa.
If everyone would pick and choose their battles we wouldnt have this problem.

Life is about changes.

Quoting LovingHappyHome:“ As some of you know I was off of the site for awhile. Preterm labor, a hospitalization, having twns in ... [snip!] ... time with my children would make me pretty cuntastic too. Just looks for others thoughts on the subject. That is all  ”

I've been here for a while now, on and off, and it's always been pretty dramatic, some people I think start drama for no reason, but I think they're just highschool kids with no kids or spouse, looking for something to do. Plus we feed into them.

You know what I've noticed, a lot more people are on these "hippified" parenting kicks, it's not a bad thing, but I notice more and more people are pro-vaccinations, pro-cloth diapers, pro home made baby food, pro- baby wearing, pro-extended breastfeeding, pro baby wearing, pro co sleeping.. etc

Not that it's a bad thing, I do some of those things, I just noticed a HUGE incline.

I dunno, so according to you, high post count = bad mom?   I think this is going to create some major drama.

People start drama because there is anonymity behind a computer screen. Most of the people who stir up drama would never say half the things they do if they were to come face to face with someone despite their boasting otherwise.

It’s too much free time and trouble adapting to motherhood.

Quoting ~Baby Lover~:“ I dunno, so according to you, high post count = bad mom?   I think this is going to create some major drama.”

lmao, you just proved her point.

No one's going to get mad over what she said, because N00bs don't have high post counts and people who have been here a while learn to pick their battles and focus more on bad parenting posts rather then stuff like this.

Quoting ~Baby Lover~:“ I dunno, so according to you, high post count = bad mom?   I think this is going to create some major drama.”

If you make it into drama, then yeah.
I keep seeing people say that

People get offended if what was said is TRUE.

Quoting Amanda & Princess[CLD]:“ lmao, you just proved her point. No one's going to get mad over what she said, because N00bs don't ... [snip!] ... who have been here a while learn to pick their battles and focus more on bad parenting posts rather then stuff like this.”

How did I prove her point? I was just summing up what she wrote.

Quoting ~Baby Lover~:“ I dunno, so according to you, high post count = bad mom?   I think this is going to create some major drama.”

Nope high post count doesn't = bad mom. Like I said, it is a matter of some. If you aren't pregnant, been on here say a year have a million posts, hate on others every post, and then post wondering why your life sucks or relationship is failingis the general category i was speking of.

Quoting LovingHappyHome:“ Nope high post count doesn't = bad mom. Like I said, it is a matter of some. If you aren't pregnant, ... [snip!] ... every post, and then post wondering why your life sucks or relationship is failingis the general category i was speking of.”

and i am not saying anyone is a bad mom. i just needed a catchy title