Religion..... D&D (long but need help...)

Sooooo..... I'm Buddhist.... My husband went to Catholic school, but he grew up Mormon.. (I Guess his dad wanted him to be in private school, so he put him in a Catholic private school, even though they weren't Catholic... .)
Anyway, his parents go to church religiously and are firm in their beliefs. My husband hasn't practiced ANY sort of religion since he was a teenager, and he only did so then, because his mom required him to go to church.
So, we have been together for almost 10 years, and we haven't gone to church and we both have agreed in the past that we are "spiritual" people (like, something is out there, but we don't really have a definitive on who/what...) but haven't practiced any particular religion. We also haven't taught our children anything about religion. They are 15, 8, and 1... I do, however, allow them to go to church with my MIL and I don't undermine her religion, nor have I expressed my opinions about the existance or lack there of, regarding any type of "god" and/or religion....
I just spent 45 minutes on the phone with my husband and we got into a convo about religion.... He told me that he wants to start going to church, and exposing the kids to religion. He doesn't have a particular "faith" in mind, but it will probably be some form of Christianity, simply because he will either attend church with his BFF and his family, or our neighbor, who is a pastor at a church nearby... They are both Christian, Baptist, I think. I told him that was fine, and if the girls want to go, I have no problem with them being exposed to religion of any kind..... The thing is that I won't be going with them. Besides the fact that I work 16 hours on Sundays (so I wouldn't be able to go anyway...) but even if I was able to, I wouldn't, simply because I don't believe in "god"....
He told me that he's been wanting to start going for a while, but he hasn't because he thinks "the whole thing will be undermined by you not believing in god"....
I'm not going to try and sway my kids to NOT believe in "god", just because I don't, but I'm also not going to lie and say I believe when I don't. After having this discussion, I'm starting to feel like this may create a problem in our family.... I guess I'm just looking for advice on how I should handle what may be coming our way....Are any of you dealing with anything like this?
Anyone have different religious beliefs than your SO, and how do you deal with it? What do you tell your children? Do you make your children stick to one belief? Do you teach them both and let them decide?
Is there anyone who like me, dosn't believe in "god" and has an SO who does?
I need some guidance here.... Feel free to discuss your personal beliefs, but please don't bash anyone else's... Thanks mamas!

If you work on sundays and can't go, why even start an argument by saying that even if you could go you still wouldn't? Its a tough situation for sure, but you'll just have to come to an agreement. Tell him that you're not telling him NOT to go, so he shouldn't make you go. Maybe to please him go on when you can, holidays...whenever. Make an effort, but he has to understand this is a new thing he's throwing on you after how many years? Why the sudden change for him?

Wow that's a hard one. I'll be in a similar situationwhen my son is old enough to understand religion. I don't believe in god but our families do. but I won't hold my son back if he wants to believe. I think that if people want to believe and that helps them be a better person then go for it. I believe in the actions of most religions (don't murder, respect your parents, etc) but not in a god itself. I too will not lie to him if he asks me if I believe in god, but I'm not going to discourage him if he wants to.

Sorry if that wasn't written clearly, it's a deep topic and I can't always express myself clearly,

Well I am a believer and my fiance has a hard time with it. He sways back and forth on whether he believes or not and we were both raised catholic. Whenever our son is old enough to learn these things then I believe that well will just teach him about God, probably not in depth b/c we don't go to church and we certainly won't shove it down his throat. If I was in your situation then I would just be honest with your children if they ever ask you about your belief in God. Kids deserve the right to choose also and if your husband really has a problem with that then that's something that the two of you will have to discuss. But considering your kids have already been to church before I don't see how it would be any different now.

I'm a satanist and my SO is Catholic. We just deal with it. We know that we both have very different views on the world and what we believe spiritually, basically, we agree to disagree. Now, my son isn't his, so he won't have any say in how he is raised religiously and his real father has nothing to do with him, so I'm kind of lucky I get to choose this how I deal with this area completely on my own. In YOUR situation, I'm positive you have handled it the right way so far. I would sit down the 15 year old and ask what she believes and have a good long talk with her. If she chooses not to go, maybe encouage hher to do some soul searching and find what she DOES believe. 15 is the age when I started looking into other religoins. It took almost 5 years to figure it, but I made it. As for the younger ones, I would let him take them and just let them think you don't ge because you work, for the moment at least. Later on, they may have questions and thats when you answer honestly and tell them they are not wrong for what they believe and you don't love them any less, it's just a difference in opinion.

I'm not really one to give too much advice here. Both my husband and I are Christians and had very strong beliefs before we got together so regardless of how much we've kind-of fallen away from going to church the way we used to and being the Christians we want to be... it's still there. We plan to raise our kids that way too.
However, I'm sure that you should both be patient and somewhat supportive of each other... and that it will kind-of fall into place. Religion can be really difficult in relationships if you don't agree so just keep the line of communication open and don't "undermine" either/or's beliefs.

All I really wanted to say though is that I think sometime, if you are home and able, you should go to church with them. Not necessarily to try to sway your opinions... but I think it'd be good for your kids to see that even if you don't believe in this, and daddy does (or daddy's curious), that you are still involved and going with the "family" thing. That you guys are still "bonded" even if you have different beliefs that that you still support each other. I just think that it'd be good and make it easier for the children to base their own opinions/beliefs one day and make for a healthier living environment. (When I was growing up, I didn't have this and wish I had).
My dad never went to church with my mom and I... and sometimes I just wish he had. Not all the time, not for him to be more involved, or to show that he was there, or to show me exactly what he believed. Just to be with us. It would've meant a lot to me. We never talked much about religion because he tends to play the Devil's Advocate regardless of what he'd actually believe. I know he went to church ALL THE TIME when he was younger and that he goes for special occasions or if his kid's were involved in a program or something of that matter... but to this day, I'm not really sure what he believes and I know this is getting off topic... but all I wanted to say is that I wish he had gone with us on occasion, just to be with us and such. Even if he disagreed. I wouldn't have been bitter, or tried to fight him on it. It just would've meant a lot to the both of us (and keep in mind... that it might mean a lot to your kids/husband one day to just go on occasion and show that you're there and supportive on what they may/or may not be involved in). Sorry to ramble, I just wanted to explain why I felt that way.

As far as if you're having two different sets of beliefs... I'd probably let them see both sides a little and let them decide but that's ultimately up to you and your SO. Whatever you do, just make sure you teach and show by example as much respect for the other you can and support.

Quoting Suzie *Diosa Venezolana*:“ Sooooo..... I'm Buddhist.... My husband went to Catholic school, but he grew up Mormon.. (I Guess his ... [snip!] ... I need some guidance here.... Feel free to discuss your personal beliefs, but please don't bash anyone else's... Thanks mamas!”

I also think then when my son is ready I would like to think that I would sit down and explain both of our beliefs and let him choose his own beliefs. Growing up my family did not go to church but my sister often went to church with her friends. both her and my mother believe in god, I just have difference beliefs and luckily my family respects that (even tho I may get an eye roll sometimes)

Quoting Britny Marie:“ If you work on sundays and can't go, why even start an argument by saying that even if you could go you ... [snip!] ... effort, but he has to understand this is a new thing he's throwing on you after how many years? Why the sudden change for him?”

Obviously, I'm not going to start an argument with my husband. ... We have a very awesome relationship. BUT, when they start going to church, and start asking me questions about god and what I think, I'm going to need answers.... "I work on Sundays" isn't gonna be an answer.... They are going to ask me things! And what if they want to go on a Wednesday, so that I can go with them?

As for the sudden change, I'm not sure.... Maybe because we are getting older and he is starting to think about what kind of morals he wants to instill in our kids. He thinks as they get older, they are going to need spiritual guidance.... So, he thinks now is a good time to start, lol....

Quoting I ♥ Anthony:“ Wow that's a hard one. I'll be in a similar situationwhen my son is old enough to understand religion. ... [snip!] ... him if he wants to. Sorry if that wasn't written clearly, it's a deep topic and I can't always express myself clearly,”

No, that was perfectly clear to me, because that's exactly the way I feel!
Who am I to say that "god" does or doesn't exist for sure, ya know? For ME, he doesn't, but if they believe he does, and it benefits them in some way, who the hell am I to stop them from believing?

Quoting Suzie *Diosa Venezolana*:“ Obviously, I'm not going to start an argument with my husband. ... We have a very awesome relationship. ... [snip!] ... He thinks as they get older, they are going to need spiritual guidance.... So, he thinks now is a good time to start, lol....”

I would just be completely honest with them about your beliefs. Explain to them that everyone has different beliefs and this is something that they are going to be able to decide to believe or not. (obviously in different wording, I'm horrible with words).