everyone is a predator...

Seriously, I want to knock some sense into my mother right now.
A guy I met last week is cooking me dinner tonight at his place. I haven't been on a "date" in a loong time, and i knew telling my parents was going to be somewhat stressful (I still live with them).
I am NOT in a relationship with him, nor does this dinner mean we are heading towards a relationship. we are seriously, honestly going to get to know each other and have fun.
My son will be bathed, fed & tucked into bed.
I tell my mother and she AUTOMATICALLY assumes he is a rapist, and he is going to drug me. seriously?!? not every single person is a predator!
she thinks this "date" warrants concern from her & my father. I am 21, did they think I was NEVER going to date again??? considering I really haven't since my son was born/even before he was..maybe they thought they were in the clear. but seriously, I have never told them "I am going to abstain from men forever now that I have a child"
I feel I am 4397340978x smarter than I was 3 yrs ago when I got pregnant. Yes, I know if i were to get drugged that I would no longer be in control. but i'm not suspicious at this point and have no gut feeling telling me NOT to go. yes i know anything can happen, but I'm not going to allow my mom to scare me out of having a good time tonight.

what would your response be if I was your daughter? Believe me, I understand there is some concern on their end, but I thought it would be that I would be stupid & get pregnant again & then have TWO kids as a single mom, but no..instead she thinks he's a rapist with a stock of date rape drugs in his house.
She even suggested I bring my best friend with me. she is insane.

If you were my daughter, I would be upset that you are going to HIS house, you have only known him for a week. That worries me even for myself....

Shit I'd say you're an adult, Daughter, Go make your own decisions and have a good time!

Quoting Due with #2 in 01-2010:“ If you were my daughter, I would be upset that you are going to HIS house, you have only known him for a week. That worries me even for myself....”

i do appreciate this response, because i'm trying to see where my mom is coming from.

Quoting Due with #2 in 01-2010:“ If you were my daughter, I would be upset that you are going to HIS house, you have only known him for a week. That worries me even for myself....”

       

Quoting Fighters FIGHT:“ i do appreciate this response, because i'm trying to see where my mom is coming from.”

I mean, if it wasnt his house, I wouldnt have a problem. Maybe I have personally been in too many situations and raped one too many times. But that is just how I feel about it.

Quoting Fighters FIGHT:“ Seriously, I want to knock some sense into my mother right now. A guy I met last week is cooking me dinner ... [snip!] ... he's a rapist with a stock of date rape drugs in his house. She even suggested I bring my best friend with me. she is insane.”

be safe, have fun if anything happens call

If she is that worried you can set up a code where u can text her and then she will call u with any excuse you want then u can say you have an emergency and have to leave.

I would make sure a couple of people know where the house is located, and have a friend call with an "emergency" at a certain time so you can bail if you have to without raising suspicion. If things are going well, you can say she just needed "to talk" and that you're busy or something. But I'm a little cautious, too.

Yea I agree with the ladies, have some kind of code that would probably put your mom at ease a little...

I think your parents have reason to be concerned.

Going to dinner at the house of someone you've only known for a week isn't really the smartest move ever. I understand wanting to go out and do something fun, but this is someone you barely know. Why not just go out to dinner? Or a movie? Something where there are plenty of people.

This is a dangerous world we live in.

Quoting Superstar status:“ Yea I agree with the ladies, have some kind of code that would probably put your mom at ease a little...”

i just talked with her and that is what we are going to do. and i am going to call her about a half hour after i get there and probably a few more times & have a code set up. i don't want to make my mom nervous, but i want to allow myself to have a good time as well.