Alcoholic Dads?

I'm having alot of trouble with my boyfriend/fiance` lately.
I don't know how to cope with it, and I need help.

Before I got pregnant, I used to drink with him, and such, and we'd have a great time doing it. I used to not care in my early stages of pregnancy that he was drinking, but now that I am six months pregnant, I thinkthe drinking NEEDS to stop or atleast slow down.Am I wrong for feeling that way? And regardless what I say, or how many arguments he gets in, he still drinks? And I always feel like I don't get the attention that I want, even though I'm sure I do.

How do I confront him, so he won't get mad or think i'm bitching at him? He always thinks that i'm contantly bitching, even though I'm not. Should I threaten to leave him? I need help. :[

if he is an alcoholic and doesnt care how it affects you or the baby i would leave him.

Quoting xshorticanrockx:“ I'm having alot of trouble with my boyfriend/fiance` lately. I don't know how to cope with it, and ... [snip!] ... at him? He always thinks that i'm contantly bitching, even though I'm not. Should I threaten to leave him? I need help. :[”

This thread should help you out a lot!!

http://forum.baby-gaga.com/about511952.html

My DH is what I call a "functioning" alcoholic... and I just let it be. When I met him I accepted him as he was & loved him & drank with him ALL the time. He is a dedicated worked, doesn't get drunk and beat me or anything, is extremely trustworthy, has a good heart, is a wonderful father... why should I bitch if he drinks a few beers?

Granted, your situation may be different.. and liquor is a different story...
I struggled with this when I was about 6 months preggo, too.

My SO doesnt drink, so i dont know how it feels to be in the situation.
BUT i think he needs to grow the fuck up, i hope he realizes once the baby comes he cant be out drinking all night, that you are going to need his help and support. I would just talk it out, let him know how you feel.

My husband used to be an alcoholic. I spent years trying to break him of his bad habits, but they didn't change until he wanted to change.

Bottom line, if he doesn't want to change, he wont.

Quoting Love them:“ if he is an alcoholic and doesnt care how it affects you or the baby i would leave him.”

Exactly.

My ex got his second DUI when the baby was a month old. He went to jail, is out, and still drinks heavily. He drinks, then his new girlfriend lends him her car she he can drink and drive (he has ignition interlock in his car).

He doesn't think he has a problem.

Quoting *Heather* 25 weeks:“ My SO doesnt drink, so i dont know how it feels to be in the situation. BUT i think he needs to grow ... [snip!] ... out drinking all night, that you are going to need his help and support. I would just talk it out, let him know how you feel.”

Alcoholics don't have the option of simply "growing up".. it's an addiction that will be difficult to stop.

Quoting Suzie *Diosa Venezolana*:“ This thread should help you out a lot!! http://forum.baby-gaga.com/about511952.html”

I always have a hard time getting interested in 200 pg threads.... anything over 10 pgs really, lol

Quoting NATAL!E:“ My DH is what I call a "functioning" alcoholic... and I just let it be. When I met him I accepted him ... [snip!] ... situation may be different.. and liquor is a different story... I struggled with this when I was about 6 months preggo, too.”

Damn, I like that. It isn't liquor, it's just beer. I like how you put that..
So am I getting worked up over nothing? Like the shit that usually wouldn't bother me, is starting to. We argue more, and it is mostly about his drinking and my bitching. I can understand why he's doing it. I guess to cope with the fact that he's going to be holding alot more responsibility? He does work, and he doesn't beat more or anything like that, so I guess the situation is similar.
Money is a little tight, but should I be worried when his buddies buy it? Maybe just less stress on the money factor?

I'm dealing with this right now. My husband just turned 21 so its gotten MUCH worse. Hes always had problems with substance/alcohol abuse. He has lost jobs because of it.  Financially we are in a terrible situation because of his behavior. My son is 2 now and I don't want him around that. Right now he either has to get his shit together or get out. He has decided to seek therapy and is looking for a place right now and is looking for work. You have to decide if this guy is worth it. Do you love him so much that you are willing to let things get worse before they get better? I think its best to confront him NOW. If he doesn't change lay out consequences.

Should I start worrying when she gets here?

Quoting xshorticanrockx:“ Should I start worrying when she gets here?”

I would start worrying now -- or at least make some type of plan where you can make it on your own. Just in case...

Quoting allison [eBfB]:“ I would start worrying now -- or at least make some type of plan where you can make it on your own. Just in case...”

  This is something I didn't do. I thought he would change and grow up but he didn't. 

Quoting xshorticanrockx:“ Should I start worrying when she gets here?”

obviously you are already worrying.