Father in law wont respect my decision on birth!!!!

my father in law will not respect my decision to have private birth. he flat out told me... i dont care what you say im going to be in the room..... i am flat out not comfortable, i feel like i have no say and that im being guilt tripped and i dont want any drama when i need to be calm and collected...you know like him cussing me out or guilt tripping me.....im really upset that hes teying to take my decsion away, and to make matters wors he went through our personal memory card and saw some very personalVERY personal PRIVITE pics of us...and all he said was...oh well ive seen it now so you have no reason to not let me in the room to see my grandchild born.... i think that he should have minded his buisness and it wasnt my choice he saw..he took that away from me.....idk what to do!!!!  

Tell the nurses not to let him in, and they WILL NOT. They can even call security if needed.

the hospital should help you keep him out if you tell them about the situation

I'd tell him to fuck off! Really

Ewwe that's kinda gross. What kind of pictures?

It's totally your decision. You don't need to feel guilty about your decision. It's YOUR decision. What does your SO say about it?

When you go to the hospital, you tell the nurses that he is not allowed in the room while you give birth. Problem solved. They'll keep him out.

It's your choice who is or is not in the delivery room. They can't take that away from you. It doesn't matter if he's seen it or not; if you don't want him there, he shouldn't be there.

I wouldn't let him in there regardless..its your decision not his!tell him he can come in once everything is cleaned up and whatnot..

I feel like Im having deja vu.. did you not post this earlier? Im seriously curious.. want to know if Im loosing my mind lol

Make sure you let your nurse(s) know and your doc know who you want in the room with. Talk to your doc in advance and see if that something that can be worked out for you.

ew what a perv!!!

the hospital won't let in anyone that YOU don't want in. even your SO/DH won't have a say.

LMAO @ him thinking he has a say.

You posted this already.

Like they already said, tell the hospital staff you only want you and your SO in the room. They will not let your father in law in. It's YOUR child and YOUR decision. Period. It doesn't have to be complicated.

  my god.


Solution: Do not tell him when you go into labor.

That's what we did with my in-laws. It is NOT their right to be there, don't let them guilt you into doing something you don't want to do. Good luck and stay strong!

My nurses told me on the hospital tour that all you needed to do was let them know (or get hubby to tell them) that you don't want people in the room and they will be the bitches and make an excuse and make them leave. My nurse said "We don't care if they hate us!" lol

girl if you don't want him in the room all you have to do is tell your doctor that you don't want him in the room and he won't be. plain and simple.