ah i just feel annoyed.

Just needed to vent a little lol so here goes.

Last night my friend of course called to cancel plans, as usual, shes always super busy,etc. somehow it got onto the topic of the fact we think her husband is a lazzy ass. then it got into my husband talking about these 2 girls he works with (they are twin sisters, they went to his highschool and one of my best friends is also friends with them) and how they complain to him about how horrible their husbands are. It just pissed me off because i feel like, why the fuck are the talking to my husband about how bad their husbands are and that their husbands are cheaters? im sorry but i wouldnt go doing that unless i was seeking some sort of sympathy from the guy like "feel bad for me, like me, we should leave our wife/husband and be together" ugh lol im probably reading too far into this but it pisses me off. I allready didnt like one of these girls because we helped my friend move out of their house quite a while back and the place was just disgusting. couldnt believe she would have her 3 kids living in something like that. im just pregnant and maybe im jealous but blah i feel like my husband can have conversations with them on his lunch break or wtf ever but at home he sits watching tv or playing video games. ugh.

I think it's inappropriate for any woman to talk to a married man about relationship stuff. No matter what the circumstances are. That's what girl friends are for. It just can open doors to other inappropriate things.

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exactly my feelings. i would never go and complain to a guy about my marital problems unless i was trying to get down there pants or something. it feels very inappropriate to me.   unfortunately i cant bother complaining to my husband about it because his excuse will be that he is a nice person and that he doesnt mind listening to peoples problems. he just doesnt see these kind of things from my point of veiw.

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I TOTALLY AGREE!!!

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Agreed.

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i see where you're coming from, but i don't make any human relationship into a hard-fast rule that it must be one way or another based on gender.

what if they guy were gay?

what if you knew this guy from childhood and he was a psychiatrist-- or he just really "gets" you and your relationship?

it's inappropriate when you feel motivated to tell him for reasons other than sharing and discussing-- when you want his comfort and attention...

everyone who ever engages in that sort of discussion know precisely why they're doing it...

i wouldn't have an issue w/ it at all. i know my husband, i know he's good for talking about that sort of stuff from a male perspective, and i know he can field whatever inappropriateness comes his way like a grown-up.

that may not be the case here regarding the OP... which would suck, if he's actually using it as a form of flirtation-- that's not cool.