I need him to get off his ass......im lost now.....help?

Im 4 months pregnant..i lve with my fiance in his FATHERS house...i hate it....i lost my job cuz my joss doesnt think prego women should go pee...he doesnt have a job...but has been kinda looking........he wants to go in the army but has to lose some weight...im going crazy i told him if he didnt get us out of his fathers house in 4 months that i would be taking the baby from the hospital to my mothers house....not his dads......help...what should i say or do other than this?????? 

i love the "im going into the military excuse" i have a gsr here that uses that all the time (she only works 3 nights a week) it makes me giggle

unfortunately you cant force him to change or do anything but you can just keep telling him how you feel and maybe even help him job search online for jobs in your area. maybe go on famiily walks to help him with his weight loss for the army.

If you lost your job because you are pregnant and had to pee, look into a lawyer and sue your former employer. It is illegal for them to fire you for that reason.

All you can do is get serious with him and explain that he really needs to go get a job. Sadly you can't force him to do anything he doesn't want to do.

I was in a situtation like that but not really like that! i was the one working and my ex wasnt, we were living with MY DAD who was taking care of my exs ass! i was taken out of work due ot high risk at 4 months and we survived solely on my 100 a week disability check! he kept saying he was looking for a job but the whole time he was screwing around with my 14 year old sister, and everytime he got a job he got fired for screwing someone there, which i didnt know of at the time! so 1000s of dollars later i realized i wasted my money, time and life on this guy! get out before it gets too late! he aint gonna get a job!

with my job its more complicated ..and i know i cant force him to do anything...i just dont want him to let me down....and to have to raise the baby on my own  

Quoting ~*PROUD MOMMI TO BE*~:“ with my job its more complicated ..and i know i cant force him to do anything...i just dont want him to let me down....and to have to raise the baby on my own  ”

Have you told him how you felt?

Quoting alisha momma:“ Have you told him how you felt?”

explicitly so....

Good luck, I had to quit my job when I got prego because I was so nauseous and I worked early mornings when it was worst   Boss was Pissed and called it breach of contract -I'm sorry that they threatened to fire me if I had to leave session to go puke, and that I lost 20 pounds in 3 months because I was so sick and the stress of working there!  
I'd say keep standing up for what you believe -Go to your mom's house before baby comes if it comes down to it -I wish you all the luck in the world   ~KP