re: I need help understanding. I don't want to be a under-educat

Just by making this post and asking women who know more than she does and taking advice even if its critical and not screaming and ranting and cursing at you for criticizing her, shows real maturity. Even though most of you are telling her she is immature for TTC at the age 18, maybe that's true. But you won't know for sure. Basing your information on just her age, the fact that she is 18. Doesn't mean anything. Women mature faster and younger. Some people, and maybe most people don't mature and don't fully develope til their around 21 -22 yes, true, but not all.

I don't fully agree with her TTC and not being married. But that's just how i feel about that.

I was 19 whenI found I was pregnant. Yes that's a young age too, but mentally I was ready. Course Iwas married, whenI was 18. Had my fill of rampaging, drinking, parties and such a few months after my 18th. Found a good guy and married him the following June. Only known each other for a year before getting married, only engaged for about 5 months. Was really quick too but I don't regret one bit. Now going on 4 years we are still strong and looking forward to our second kid. And I'm still only 22 years old. The age that most of these women said is still not mentally ready. It's just an aproximation based upon a few, thousand maybe, individual females.

It all depends on yourself. Whether you are mentally ready or not. Youmight say you are, and that is probably the case. Just take precausions. Think it over, make a note of everything you would need tohave if you ever did fall pregnant.

These women on here, yes they have valid points. But they can't force you to change your mind. Yes you probably have already made up your mind reading most of these posts are negative and not really helpful, or what you were looking for.

But take it into consideration, they aren't really thinking about you when making these posts. Yes some are criticizing and mean towards you, but ... it ismostly for the wellbeing of your future baby if you do fall pregnant.

I understand that you and you boyfriend are ready to have a baby. Can I ask you then, if you are so ready for a baby. Are you ready for both of you to be Married to each other? Get through that first hurdle.

I have had a few friends when i was still single in my 18 year old party rampage. A few of my female friends fell pregnant with their boyfriends, both of them said they wanted it, and said theywere mentally and physically ready to have a baby. They did and got married cause their parents said they should. But the guys might have said they were ready, but in all realness, they weren't. They left their baby ridden girlfriends and moved on. I would hate to see that happen to yet another girl. You seem like a really nice girl, but run the thought of being married first to your boyfriend, and if you guys can stay married for a year without any negatives, or any hiccups. Then start TTC.

Because just cause you are mentally ready, he might not be. And it is a really tough world for young, single mothers.

Quoting Terrorbox:“ Just by making this post and asking women who know more than she does and taking advice even if its critical ... [snip!] ... TTC. Because just cause you are mentally ready, he might not be. And it is a really tough world for young, single mothers.”

This is really good advice and very thoughtfully written. Just wanted to add that I agree.  

Quoting Terrorbox:“ Just by making this post and asking women who know more than she does and taking advice even if its critical ... [snip!] ... TTC. Because just cause you are mentally ready, he might not be. And it is a really tough world for young, single mothers.”

well, im not trying to defend myself. I know i was being bitchy. I know of quite a few mature teenage moms who I have the upmost respect for. I wouldnt descriminate someone based on age had they fallen pregnant like you did. You deal with the cards life deals you and those who can shine through- I respect. I agree with what you said for the most part. but honestly it is a biological fact what 2 times a charm was saying. The brain isnt fully mature at that age. and guess what area of the brain isnt fully finished growing- the area of logic and reasoning. but yeah anyway i know that each individual is different. I know that certain things in peoples lives will make them more mature. I actually didnt want to get into the whole "your too young" thing until she started TALKING like a niave 18 year old then I got into it with her. make sense? So basically its not that shes 18. its that shes 18, TTC, and talking like shes got it all figured out. Where as IMO an adult has no problem admitting they may not have to tools for the job. So thats what irritated me. "I know im ready" doesnt cut it when you have a new life waiting in the wings, hoping you can handle everything so they can grow up and have a normal life.