Quoting Devil Duckie:“ depends. Is she a slut???????”

*giggles*

Quoting KARLiE'S M0MMiE [BBM]:“ When I was in school the old saying was sticks and stones may break my bones....and of course that people ... [snip!] ... def. be in trouble b cuz that only shows bad parenting on my part....middle school kids can pretty much think on their own”

i dont think it matters whether the other girl is a slut or not. I think its important to teach you child that being judgemental and throwing accusations around is wrong. I saw a couple others say "sticks and stones" but what about "do onto others"?

I hate "sticks and stones".

Words fucking hurt.
Bullying kills.

And its time parents stop taking this shit soo fucking lightly.

Quoting ☮♥♫:“ *giggles*”

well??? If she's having sex and is a loud mouth about it, she deserves to be called every name in the book.

otherwise, I'd punish them.


My 5 yo called his teacher a smelly asshole. Now, I personally wanted to give him a high 5 for it. I really can't stand the teacher at his school. However, he got his games taken away for 2 days and was made to apologize. If we're talking highschool. I'm not going to punish my kids for pointing out the facts. If the shoe fits........ If you don't want to be called a slut, don't spread your legs like one.

Quoting Morning Wood [ebfb]:“ I hate "sticks and stones". Words fucking hurt. Bullying kills. And its time parents stop taking this shit soo fucking lightly.”

   totally agree

Quoting Smashley&Laila:“    totally agree”

I had a councelor tell us how she use to hear the "sticks and stones' thing.
and her and her friends would bully this guy, and think nothing of it.
it ws just words right?
Until he hung himself.

Yah that is going to be nice.. Teaching your kids "O sticks and stones make break their bones, but words willnever hurt them".... until she hears that one of their classmates fucking hung themselves becaus they were being picked on by their child.

Quoting Smashley&Laila:“ i dont think it matters whether the other girl is a slut or not. I think its important to teach you ... [snip!] ... and throwing accusations around is wrong. I saw a couple others say "sticks and stones" but what about "do onto others"?”

Ok yea i understand....but I went half my high school years being talked about just b cuz my cheerleading team I was on were all sluts....its important to teach your child that yes I know....but not everyone is perfect...I mean the way your trying to make it seem is as if you have NEVER sed anything bad about someone else in your entire life. Middle school is a hard time for everyone....trust me I know...I was teased for being a virgin...I was teased in high school for hanging with sluts even though I didnt talk to any guys....I was bullied in elementary and middle school...but kids go through things and if you shelter your child from everything what will they be able to handle in the future??? like I sed....in middle school kids think on their own accord and its just a learning experience. I would never teach my child to judge others but I would also teach her that what others say about you is not true unless yu believe in your heart that it is.

Quoting Devil Duckie:“ well??? If she's having sex and is a loud mouth about it, she deserves to be called every name in ... [snip!] ... for pointing out the facts. If the shoe fits........ If you don't want to be called a slut, don't spread your legs like one.”

i was harassed all through middle school because i broke up with my little boyfriend and he decided to go tell everyone we had sex all the time. i definitely had not done anything other than kissing at that time. it was an awful time period for me and almost made me get into home schooling because it got so bad. just because your kid calls another student a slut or believes hearsay that she is doesn't mean she's spreading her legs - kids are mean at that age. even high schoolers, calling someone a name isn't always pointing out a fact. people will gang up and harass a girl because it's the "cool" thing to do.

i would never teach my child it's okay to verbally harass another student. bullying is bullying.

Quoting Morning Wood [ebfb]:“ I hate "sticks and stones". Words fucking hurt. Bullying kills. And its time parents stop taking this shit soo fucking lightly.”

I totally agree w/ you....but I think there is a difference between bullying and calling someone a slut. I wasn't in the other thread so I don't know the whole back story. I thought we were talking about someone getting called a slut, not a group of girls ganging up on another girl. My opinion would have probably been much different if I had the whole story.

Things are a lot different now than they were 10+ years ago when I was in school. We never did the kind of shit that kids do now to each other.

In the adult world if you are work and make that kind of remark it's considered sexual harrassement and can lead to termination.

As a world lessson there are words to be said b/w friends and words to be said in places like school and work. Regardless of age if my daughter is stupid enough to say something that would get her suspended she is going to get some response on the home front as well.

Quoting KARLiE'S M0MMiE [BBM]:“ Ok yea i understand....but I went half my high school years being talked about just b cuz my cheerleading ... [snip!] ... judge others but I would also teach her that what others say about you is not true unless yu believe in your heart that it is.”

I never said i havent talked bad about anyone. Im talking about showing your children a better way. I bullied and i was bullied depending at what point in my childhood your talking about you know? So being on the giving and recieving-end, I think there is something parents can do about it to spare a few children the anguish. Just becuase its a normal thing that we saw when we were growing up doesnt mean it should be condoned. I wish my mom knew i was bullying- I should have been punished for it.

Quoting Smashley&Laila:“ i dont think it matters whether the other girl is a slut or not. I think its important to teach you ... [snip!] ... and throwing accusations around is wrong. I saw a couple others say "sticks and stones" but what about "do onto others"?”

You have a great point, nicely said.

Quoting ♥ Shannon ♥:“ I totally agree w/ you....but I think there is a difference between bullying and calling someone a slut. ... [snip!] ... different now than they were 10+ years ago when I was in school. We never did the kind of shit that kids do now to each other.”

I say bad words.
But I have never ganged up on someone.

If someone wants to cut words with me.. let it be one on one.
But I would never group jump somone.

I have had people do that shit to me.
They ended up getting ripped a new one.
But still, some people can handle themselves.. and others cant.

Quoting Morning Wood [ebfb]:“ I had a councelor tell us how she use to hear the "sticks and stones' thing. and her and her friends ... [snip!] ... them".... until she hears that one of their classmates fucking hung themselves becaus they were being picked on by their child.”

That's very sad.  

Yes, it is harassment. Most of the time it's some bratty little girl starting a rumor about another person and ruining their reputation. If my daughter was involved in bullying that girl I would discipline her.