He's making things really difficult. (Vent)

Haylen's father and I decided to end our relationship last week after we both had realized that we weren't happy together. We're still getting along, and he's currently still living with me. Last night, though, we talked and thought it'd be best he moved out within the next few weeks.

He's such a complicated person though, and acts like working out custody and visitation and money is so difficult.He works nights at UPS, sohe says he'll never be able to take her then, because no one will watch her for four hours while he works in the middle of the night. Andthen he says he won't want to take her too much on the weekends, becauseit's the only time he doesn't work.

WOW. Seriously? It'll be so easy to work this stuff out. Especially considering we're getting along. He's acting as if he's going to die. Watching his daughter and working 4 hours a night, 5 days a week. I work, go to school, AND amher sole care keeper.I don't complain nearly as much as he does.

It's just so irritating. How did you mama's work out custody and visitation with your child(ren)'s father?

He doesn't want to take her on weekends because that's his only days off are you fucking kidding me?!?! Holy shit.

What hours is he working?
Where does your daughter go while you are at school and working?

Standard visitation is every other weekend and one overnight, or dinner visit per week as well as split holidays.

My ex and I used to have joint custody (2 days per week and every other weekend each), but since he moved we've gone to an every other weekend model...when he bothers to pick her up.

Quoting Meep:“ He doesn't want to take her on weekends because that's his only days off are you fucking kidding me?!?! Holy shit.”

My thoughts exactly..

I even offered alternating weekends. But oh no. He's on an entirely different sleep schedule. He goes to bed at 10 AM and gets up at 7 or 8 PM. So, he'd "never be able to take her. "

Quoting speaktruth2powr:“ What hours is he working? Where does your daughter go while you are at school and working? Standard ... [snip!] ... and every other weekend each), but since he moved we've gone to an every other weekend model...when he bothers to pick her up.”

He works from 10 PM until 3 or 4 AM..

I pay for a sitter while I work, and my sitter and father alternate my school hours watching her.

He doesn't pay for a sitter, because I'm obviously home when he works.. But, once he leaves, he won't have me.

So, he is having visitation with her technically...

My advice would be to tell him that he either watches her every time you go to school, or he pays for a sitter himself.

I would work a visitation order around his hours. He has the child for visits while you are at school, then the child comes home. Then you alternate weekends.

Quoting k.vail:“ My thoughts exactly.. I even offered alternating weekends. But oh no. He's on an entirely different ... [snip!] ... an entirely different sleep schedule. He goes to bed at 10 AM and gets up at 7 or 8 PM. So, he'd "never be able to take her. "”

Does he even want to see his child? Sounds like he's making excuses.

Quoting Meep:“ Does he even want to see his child? Sounds like he's making excuses.”

Errrg, that's what i thought. I just don't know what to do.. .

Quoting speaktruth2powr:“ So, he is having visitation with her technically... My advice would be to tell him that he either watches ... [snip!] ... around his hours. He has the child for visits while you are at school, then the child comes home. Then you alternate weekends.”

That's a great idea. It'll take a lot of convincing though..

Quoting k.vail:“ That's a great idea. It'll take a lot of convincing though..”

Tell him he either does it, or you go to court and force him to pay half of your daycare as well as child support.

Quoting speaktruth2powr:“ Tell him he either does it, or you go to court and force him to pay half of your daycare as well as child support.”

I'm real bad at being stern :/ Ha