the drama queen is at it again..

I guess the fact that I was actually going to file for divorce got him thinking. He emailed me telling me that he loved me, and refused to divorce me.. and he'd do anything. He said he couldn't lose me or his daughter, and his life was falling apart. He suggested counseling(after just refusing it yesterday. guess it finally started sinking in that I was serious). I told him that I wasn't going to do it unless his heart was 100% in it. I wasn't going to play games. If some drastic changes didn't take place with the counseling, the divorce would. Also, I told him he had to go through with joining the army. I think the stability and responsibility from the army is what will save our marriage.. if it is at all savable.

Quoting pamela+karlie jayde♥:“ I guess the fact that I was actually going to file for divorce got him thinking. He emailed me telling ... [snip!] ... the army. I think the stability and responsibility from the army is what will save our marriage.. if it is at all savable.”

I'm glad that you guys are going to go to counseling. What is it that is wrong in your marriage? If you don't mind saying.

No, the military will not save your marriage. It will test it. If you're marriage is not already prepared for a test, then I would never reccomend it. Its a lot of seperation and a lot of you a lone and doing a lot of work by yourself and a lot of him in a bad mood bc of work, a lot of worry, and a not enough pay lamo.

But serious, in the military marriage is sink or swim. The divorce rates are high. You need a strong marriage and good communication and trust to servive. Good attitudes help as well.

Quoting Mom of 2 girls!:“ I'm glad that you guys are going to go to counseling. What is it that is wrong in your marriage? If you don't mind saying.”

Immaturity mostly. We were 17 and 18 when we got married(by choice, not because I was pregnant.) We thought we were ready for it, and it bit us in the ass. He doesn't want to change his life style, he just wants to be married..and still get to be a kid. I know it doesn't sound like much.. but it does add up to a lot of problems.

Quoting DEAA.:“ No, the military will not save your marriage. It will test it. If you're marriage is not already prepared ... [snip!] ... divorce rates are high. You need a strong marriage and good communication and trust to servive. Good attitudes help as well.”

I didn't mean the military itself would save the marriage, I meant him actually following through with a decision he's made, a long with learning responsibility and stability will.

Quoting pamela+karlie jayde♥:“ I didn't mean the military itself would save the marriage, I meant him actually following through with a decision he's made, a long with learning responsibility and stability will.”

I know what you meant. But in gaining a stable job you lose stability in life and home and family life. It can be really hard on a mrriage and usually if your marriage is on the rocks, its not good to put more stress on it was what I was meaning.

Quoting DEAA.:“ I know what you meant. But in gaining a stable job you lose stability in life and home and family life. ... [snip!] ... hard on a mrriage and usually if your marriage is on the rocks, its not good to put more stress on it was what I was meaning.”

Eh, I understand what you're saying..and I guess we'll see. We both know we didn't get married just to get divorced and both want to try. Idk, maybe testing the relationship will be good for it? I don't know, I've never been married before this lol, and never been in a situation like this..so I don't know what to expect.