re: pregnancy age.

Quoting Kaiter Schrute:“ OT, but I like that avi pic of you.”

Thanks!  

Quoting Erica (Jacob's mommy!):“ Age DOES affect the type of parent you are. It may not define if you are a good parent or not, but it ... [snip!] ... different ages is going to bring about different parenting styles, that naturally come along with where you are in your life.”

I would say that is almost totally correct there, except Ive seen my mother have a child 19 years after me, and her parenting style is the exact same.

Quoting Bitten and Smitten:“ I would say that is almost totally correct there, except Ive seen my mother have a child 19 years after me, and her parenting style is the exact same.”

lol... I had Jake at 18, and will have this one at 21. both very young, but this time around, there are so many difference that came along with my life changes like getting married, buying a car, getting our own place, etc...

it'll only be 3 years difference, but I feel like I am going to be a stronger mother, more confident. I didn't do anything terribly wrong with Jake, but it will be alot different this time around.

Quoting Erica (Jacob's mommy!):“ lol... I had Jake at 18, and will have this one at 21. both very young, but this time around, there ... [snip!] ... stronger mother, more confident. I didn't do anything terribly wrong with Jake, but it will be alot different this time around.”

I agree. My parenting knowledge is so much more vast compared to when i was 16. I always said..I would do so many things different with my second, and I did.

Quoting douche nugget.:“ hush your mouth you faker. hah. ”

hey don't blow my cover!

Quoting douche nugget.:“ I've come across a few pages with the picture that says "Age doesnt define what type of mother you are." ... [snip!] ... type of mother you are." So my question is....Do you think age has alot to do with what type of mother you are? Why/Why not?”

I can't say I would've been a "worse" mother if I had my child in my teens, but I definitely would've been a different mother simply b/c I'm NOT the same person I was when i was a teenager (or even in my early 20s for that matter)!

I think it all depends. there is a limit. I think if you can work, and drive then thats where the line is drawn. Its so much more than age.. its how mature you are! I know 15 year olds that could be better mothers than my mother ever was lol. I also know 24 year olds that are better mothers than a 17 year old. It is more of a maturity level kinda thing. I dont agree with the 12, 13 year olds trying to have babies... they cant support their babies..

Quoting douche nugget.:“ I've come across a few pages with the picture that says "Age doesnt define what type of mother you are." ... [snip!] ... type of mother you are." So my question is....Do you think age has alot to do with what type of mother you are? Why/Why not?”

No. My life experiences do, and I guess I could say having lived longer, I've had more experiences, but that doesn't mean I'm a better mother, just different - we all are, even at the same age we haven't had the same experiences.

C.

Quoting Neil & Caleb's Mommy:“ I think it does matter in some ways. Your age does not define how much you LOVE your child. Yes shitty ... [snip!] ... biology stacked against them so yes, I think age does play a role in how well a women has the potential to parent her children.”

A lot of people don't understand this:
2. Your emotional and psychological development is not fully functional until your early 20's - That's a scientific fact , so to deny that it will contribute to how a women parents and makes big life choices for her infant is ridiculous. It does effect it..... This development mostly centers around the areas of long term decision making...... it's not about discrimination - it's simple biology. It doesn't mean every young mom will make bad choices - it just means her own biology is stack against her and makes it more difficult for her to make the best long term choices.

Quoting BG Biatch {FSC}:“ A lot of people don't understand this: 2. Your emotional and psychological development is not fully ... [snip!] ... - it just means her own biology is stack against her and makes it more difficult for her to make the best long term choices.”

http://behavioralhealthcentral.com/index.php/2009092590833/Special-Features/teen-brain-development-and-decision-making-dr-ken-winters-of-the-partnership-outlines-what-providers-and-parents-need-to-know.html

here's a good read on the general principle.

Quoting Neil & Caleb's Mommy:“ I think it does matter in some ways. Your age does not define how much you LOVE your child. Yes shitty ... [snip!] ... biology stacked against them so yes, I think age does play a role in how well a women has the potential to parent her children.”

huh?
Young mothers can't provide w/ or w/out help? Where did you get this?
And it is 25 when your brain is finished developing.

No I don't think age makes a difference. I know plenty of women older and younger than me that are shitty parents. I think it depends on the person. Not money or what house they live in, etc. either.

Quoting douche nugget.:“ I've come across a few pages with the picture that says "Age doesnt define what type of mother you are." ... [snip!] ... type of mother you are." So my question is....Do you think age has alot to do with what type of mother you are? Why/Why not?”

age is important for a number of reasons.

one: brain development. a teenager doesn't have the same emotional control that a 25 year old has-- literally, their brain lacks impulse control so your ability to be patient, to not fly off the handle, to not break down in utter frustration at your child is going to be less as a teenager than as a 25 year old.

two: plain ol' fashioned experience-- the longer you live, the more you know, the more able you'll be to raise your child w/ all the possible resources you need, b/c you'll know how/where/what you need to do.

three: money, if you're a teenager, you don't have any... and babies aren't free and need quiet, safe, clean, warm places to live and sleep. and lots of diapers...

four: perspective-- this is similar to point two, but is more about how age allows you to step back and analyze yourself and your situation more effectively than it otherwise would.

now, all that said, many women never grow up, never take financial responsibility for their lives, and are as bad-- if not worse as a mother as the next under-prepared teenager.

personally, i know i'm a better mother now than i would've been had i given birth as a teenager. i am much much more patient. i have no desire to go out and experience life as a single person b/c i've already been there and done that.
i'm educated and as a result know a great deal about what max is experiencing b/c i studied the brain and developmental psychology (as well as anatomy and physiology)... i'm gentler, less impulsive, less self-centered, more tactful, more positive...

jeebus, i'd have been one of those frazzled cynical moms if i had my boy when i was a teen. it would've been much harder for all of us.

nope. all my life i wanted to be a mother, at 12 i still wanted baby dolls. i know its not even close to the real thing but i wanted to be a mom so bad. at 13 my adoptive mother had a baby and got really sick and i did everything i do now with my own kids for that baby. i raised her til she was 3. when i left. i was a damn good motherly figure. and if i would of had kids at 15,16,17 i would of been just as goodthan as i am now. but i am glad ididnt have them that young. so i dont believe agedefines what kind of mother you are.

Age absolutely has something to do with how you parent yourchild and that is not a bad thing, by any means.

We, as this generation, do things much differently than the way our parents raised us. The younger generation will do the same.

As you age, your mind changes about certain things. That isn't to say that young mothers are bad, by any means, but their brains - biologically - think differently than that of a 30 year old. AND THATS OKAY.

I think that so many teen moms go on the defensive and it makes it IMO look as though they are questioning the type of mother they are.