re: When a party girl gets pregnant........

i know what you are talking about i lived the night life i was am exotic dancer i worked everynight but sunday was drunk at least 4 of those nights not to mention the "stuff" i experimented with and if i happened to not work a night of two i was out parting with my girls the still call to check on me and see how im doing i even hang out with a few of them still but i do miss going out and having a good time...

i really miss getting ready with all the girls and putting my make-up and outfit on knowing that all my haters would be there staring me down... and i really miss getting off work at three in the morning counting my bread heading to dennys with my closest girls knowing that my bills were paid and i could go out and buy whatever i wanted

I lost a lot of friends when I got pregnant. Most of them I chose to lose and others lost me, that's just what happens. 
No more partying for me either momma! 

I wouldn't say i "lost" friends while pregnant...but i can say i dont really do much with them anymore. All they do is go out to bars!!

I remember when i was still in my hardcore party stage after highschool and my friend Jess got pregnant with her son...i 1) was kinda freaked by it all..it happened fast and she wasn't really prepared for it 2) i knew she couldn't drink, or party like her and i used to so i didn't want to burden her with actually inviting her out and her not having a good time, or wishing she could. I think they are just trying to respect your decision to have a baby. I'd give them a call! im sure they would have loved for you to be there, but respecting the fact you probably wouldn't have wanted to go...

I got invited to a party on Saturday night - a friend's 30th birthday at a small night club- it was fun for like 10 minutes - after that everyone was drunk, on my nerves and stupid slutty girls in costumes just irritated me more than usual. I was there to support my friend and say happy birthday but inside i wanted to just go home.

But you life changes when you have a kid - and getting invited to parties is one of those things you give up when your prego and a mommy!  

i know how that is. my best friend, her BF, me and DH had made plans to go out and go trick or treating with DS because it was his first halloween. we made these plans months ago and for a few weeks before halloween i couldnt even get in touch with her. and come to find out she went to partys instead of hangin out with us. im pregnant again so i cant go and party and im not about to miss my DS's first halloween so i wouldnt go anyway but it still makes me feel like shit that im not invited anymore   i miss going out and having fun but you know what?i know that i had more fun with my DS and seeing his expression when people put candy into his little basket thingy   i had more fun with that then i ever could at any party....

Yeah, halloween hit me like a ton of bricks.


I was in shock the next day when I realized it was the first halloween I was not out partying since I was 16 years old. 

Not saying I didn't enjoy it, my sister-in-law (and my best friend) and I watched our niece while our husbands scared little kids at the front door and mom and older sis went out. Surprisingly I was just shocked and not upset about not getting invited. I think it helps that my SIL is going to be God Mom and is very excited about helping.

Maybe you should ask a friend to be your child's God Mother and let her be an active part of all your planning and excitement!