forgiveness

do you think you can always forgive someone? for anything, i mean

i ask because i accidentally betrayed my friends trust last year and we have had serious issues since. i can say for sure that this is not the only thing bothering her but w/e.
she says she forgave me but cant build trust again. i knew there was more to it, so i finally got her to admit that she still spites me for it.

do you think this is really forgiveness? can you forgive just by saying that you forgave something or does it need to be taken to heart....i dont believe it is really forgiven if she is still spiting me.

Good question. I think some people can and others cannot truly forgive.

I've seen some people TRULY get over some hard things, but I know much of the time it's all words and deep down it is still tough.

it depends on the situation in my opinon. what did u do if you mind

I will forgive someone, but I am not able to completely forget what they did. In order for trust to happen, the person has to rebuild that trust with me.

I dont forgive much at all, especially if you do me wrong.

Holding a grudge means you truly haven't forgiven that person.

sometimes forgiveness takes along time to actually be "forgiveness"

It depends on the situation. If you betrayed her that bad shell probably never truly forgive you.

No, doesn't sound like forgiveness to me. I think you really have to take it to heart, forgiving is letting go of that spite as a current thing. I definitely think there is something to be said for forgiving but not forgetting. I still think there is a huge difference between her not forgetting what happened, and still holding ill feelings towards what happened and still reacting to it to this day. There is also a lot to be said for time healing what you want to forgive. And as far as everything being forgiven, I would guess just like anything else, it really just depends on the person who is trying to forgive.

depends on the situation. I will never ever forgive something that a supposed friend did to me. It was just too much.

I believe some people don't deserve to be forgiven depending on the matter at hand.
And I don't think she's totally forgiven you. Friendship is about trust, honesty, and enjoying eachothers company. If you can't have all 3 it's not a friendship IMO.

Quoting skramer182:“ do you think you can always forgive someone? for anything, i mean i ask because i accidentally betrayed ... [snip!] ... you forgave something or does it need to be taken to heart....i dont believe it is really forgiven if she is still spiting me.”

I think forgiveness is more for the person who was wronged. I do think you can forgive someone and still not condone their actions. Forgiveness doesn't mean you have to be the person's BFF again, it just means you won't carry the anger around anymore....

Quoting Im a MAMA:“ it depends on the situation in my opinon. what did u do if you mind”

kinda long story but cut really short i told her new bf (fling) that she had an abortion with her last bf. i thought she already told him, right before this he asked what was going on between us because she was angry at me then too. i had posted a note on fb claiming i was pro life in order to get some ass holes off my back who kept coming to me with shit, and she thought it was aimed at her.


honestly i just think she wants to hate me, and i wish she would just admit it so i can move on.

Quoting skramer182:“ kinda long story but cut really short i told her new bf (fling) that she had an abortion with her last ... [snip!] ... thought it was aimed at her. honestly i just think she wants to hate me, and i wish she would just admit it so i can move on.”

I've had a friend like that. She picked and choosed what to get mad over. The big things didn't strike anything. It was the little things that she'd get pissy for.
We tried to rekindle it back in July, but everything was too different.
If I were you, I'd be asking myself if the friendship is really worth it?

Quoting Kelly[♥ Ethan]:“ I've had a friend like that. She picked and choosed what to get mad over. The big things didn't strike ... [snip!] ... it back in July, but everything was too different. If I were you, I'd be asking myself if the friendship is really worth it?”

i just got done with my last attempt and im trying to think about how long i should wait.
i dont think its worth it, but my friends mean a lot to me, i dont have many and im pretty picky about it. she says she considers me family, im about to be like, no were not family and i dont deserve this...bye.

shes the kind of person to put on a fake smile you can tell so bad its fake. you feel sorry for her, she has this way of just making you feel like shit forever.

she calls me her fucking family...how am i supposed to walk away from that?