So frustrated

I'm so overwhelmed with everything...


My son.. oh my dear son, has just been so difficult. He has always been such an easy going low mantience kind of toddler. Now all the sudden, it's EVERYTHING, I mean everything, I can't take off his shirt, he acts like that was the only shirt he ever loved and needs it on his body forever, Even if it's soaking wet... Then it's a struggle to get the next shirt on.. (same with socks, shoes, diaper pants, you get the idea) I mean come on he can't be in love with that shitty diaper? Really?

He does not want to leave the house.. Does not want to get in the car, he turns into the exorcist child, as i try to strap him in, it's like he is fighting for dear life. Now the same seat he fought so hard not to get into, he does not want to leave.. (even when we arrive at home)

You shouldn't ever turn on the tv, because turnign it off becomes world war three..

How dare you offer him something to eat... He is NOT hungry, but he would rather not tell you, you should not figure this out on your own...

Do NOT mix the toys up... No that Elmo does not match that Cookie monster didn't you know there form a different set and can't be played with together...

God forbid you invite company over, unless it's his favorite person... Then it's okay for a while until he decides otherwise...

Don't change the son, oh wait change the song.. Hello I told you NOT to change the song.... What the hell is the music on for , NO music!

You get the idea, on top of that I'm married, yes you got it and He is very upset by all this... Guess what that means,, I should fix it...

AND my house.. It simply does not listen and stay clean, why can't my washing maching and dryer learn how to work together...

Ok End Vent

That's all part of being Autistic. You should know that mama. I know it's hard but they can't help it.   I'm sure I'll be going through the same thing when we find out soon. Gotta talk to the psychologists tomorrow about Hunter. I'm scared....

 I don't have advice to offer about your son, but wanted to just say I am sorry you are having a tough time with him.  And I hope it passes soon and his current behavior is more of a phase than part of his autism.
And for your husband...he NEEDS to be more understanding that you can't "fix" someone when they are acting out.  
As for your house...mine is rude and gets messy too. There are not enough hours in the day to do all the things I want to do and all the things I need to do!

I'm sorry   Just remember YOU'RE the parent, he's the child. I'm not saying MAKE him eat but when he throws a tantrum over it, ignore it and be consistant with ignoring it. Do what needs to be done and don't give into tantrums (ie. don't change the song, keep the tv off when you turn it off, etc).

Oh Christina I am so sorry that Jamil is being such a pill.

I have heard that this is the age where they want to have some kind of control, no matter what.
When it is time to take off his shirt I would give him a choice of which one he wants to put on, either the red or the blue. That way he feels like he has a say in getting dressed.

Olivia started being a brat when I was trying to get her dressed in her jammies after her bath so I made it fun. I will put the shirt over her head and the when I put her arm in the sleeve I will say where is your hand. So she gets excited waiting for her hand to pop through.

I hope some of this is helpful... if not you always can give me a call and vent over the phone.
love you

There are days when it feel like I just went through WWIII in my household. My son also has fits when I give him something and, even if he wants it, he'll throw it at me and then scream at me to get it again. He has also started hating his car seat so it turns into a wrestling match to get him strapped in it. And, yes, keeping a clean house while dealing with a challenging toddler is nigh impossible.

We've all been there mama. Take some deep breaths and do something for yourself tonight, to help you relax. Hope you have a great day tomorrow...they're not all chaos and craziness.

i'm so sorry you are going through this....

but your husband, what do you mean he is not happy and wants you to fix it?? isn't he Jamil's father?

it is just as much his responsibility to deal with as it is yours. not that it is something that can really be dealt with mind you but how dare he make you feel like you are not handling the situation? 

Quoting Mer is a Mean Girl:“ I don't have advice to offer about your son, but wanted to just say I am sorry you are having a tough ... [snip!] ... and gets messy too. There are not enough hours in the day to do all the things I want to do and all the things I need to do!”

Not fix him, but you know handle the situation... It's a constant, Oh he needs something, he is this, can you look at this, what does that mean, will it be okay? Is this a good sign or a bad one...

Quoting Tara:Needs Sticky Dust!:“ I'm sorry   Just remember YOU'RE the parent, he's the child. I'm not saying MAKE him eat but when ... [snip!] ... Do what needs to be done and don't give into tantrums (ie. don't change the song, keep the tv off when you turn it off, etc).”

Oh I know, My life at the moment would be SO much easier if I let him have his way, but I do know it prolongs the battle, so I follow through...

I do choose my battles, but man latley even with being pretty easy on him, and giving warnings with transitions it's everything, you never know what will set it off..

and it's sooo pitiful, He'll go on on on... I don't want to car, I want house, I want happy... Stop it... Stop it it, I want it on, or I want it off.. Help me...

Quoting Liv's mama:“ Oh Christina I am so sorry that Jamil is being such a pill. I have heard that this is the age where ... [snip!] ... hand to pop through. I hope some of this is helpful... if not you always can give me a call and vent over the phone. love you”

I hope it's a stage.. Maybe a bit more intensified because of the Sensory Issues...

Quoting mamacj:“ There are days when it feel like I just went through WWIII in my household. My son also has fits when ... [snip!] ... do something for yourself tonight, to help you relax. Hope you have a great day tomorrow...they're not all chaos and craziness.”

Deep breaths... I'm taking lots of those... I do hope tomorrow is better, it's been about 3 weeks of this, and I'm sooooo done with it...

Quoting mamacj:“ There are days when it feel like I just went through WWIII in my household. My son also has fits when ... [snip!] ... do something for yourself tonight, to help you relax. Hope you have a great day tomorrow...they're not all chaos and craziness.”

and it's ridiculous huh?

Quoting jamils_mommy:“ Oh I know, My life at the moment would be SO much easier if I let him have his way, but I do know it ... [snip!] ... on on... I don't want to car, I want house, I want happy... Stop it... Stop it it, I want it on, or I want it off.. Help me...”

Duct tape and bondage rope?

I think it's something in theatmosphere LOL
my daughter gave me such a tough time over the weekend..I was soooo mad!
She gets lil taps or a pinch and man she was throwing things when she got disciplined and kicking and screaming..And EVERYTHING was a scene..
doing some of what you vented about.
My SO made me take a time out yesterday lol...he said I was starting to take out my anger on her..I felt so bad after
I guess it's a stage they go through at different stages in their development.
It is soooo frustrating though.
sigh..but i feel your pain.
Try like the previous poster said..duct tape & rope..  lol

I'm sorry you're having a rough time, Christina.

Luckily a lot of this, I mean A LOT is normal toddler behavior, possibly amplified due to his sensory issues.

I'm sure you give him verbal acknowledgements that transitions are coming, but do you give him choices or ask if he wants to do it himself? I know with Lydia choices are a BIG help!!

And I know that even if you ARE ignoring the tantrums, it's still so hard on your nerves. Lydia has been having a week on and a week off with tantrums and not sleeping, then she'll be great. It makes everything else 21789643950% harder because my nerves are FRIED!! I totally understand

I wish I had more concrete advice on getting through it, but a lot of it is that he's just being a toddler and he's always been like a little adult and so laid back.