When and what did you do with all the things you never used

When did you start to sell, pack up, or give away the things that once belonged to your angel? What special things did you keep, or did you never get rid of any of it? I'm talking about clothes, cribs, dressers, changing tables, strollers, toys, etc. I s there a right or wrong way to deal with this?

My daughter was 2 months old and had never even slept in her crib, butI still can't imagine someone else's baby in it. It was meant for her. My mom wants me to use everything possible for my son(15 months) including the crib and dresser, and sell everything that was too girly with the exception of a few special things to keep in a box. But I don't know if I can let go..... the stuff is all I have left of her. It just doesn't seem right.

I have to make some sort of decision because at the end of this month we have to move all our stuff to relative's houses. Due to the expenses of the funeral, grave marker, etc. we can no longer live where we were. Any experience or stories would be helpful.

With the exception of Katherine's clothes size 9 months and up(yes I actually had clothes for her all the way up to size 3T), which I donated to a friend's niece(she didn't have hardly any clothes and not a single winter jacket), I haven't been able to do anything with her other belongings. It's too painful.

Our family doesn't get rid of things lol. We keep them till someone else in the family needs them and depending on how close they are it's lent, not given. My mother still has all my sister's things, waiting for me or my siblings to have a daughter.

I don't think there is any harm in holding onto things a little longer. you need time to grieve. A little more in the future maybe think of donating to someone who has nothing. Maybe to a women's shelter or a pregnancy center? It could really help out another precious baby girl.

Quoting ♥ Danielle+2 ♥:“ I don't think there is any harm in holding onto things a little longer. you need time to grieve. A little ... [snip!] ... someone who has nothing. Maybe to a women's shelter or a pregnancy center? It could really help out another precious baby girl.”

i agree. i also think when you are ready. you need to grieve first honey.

I dont know, I didnt have that much stuff for my daughter, just some clothes, the crib, and some bottles and paci's. Its been 3 years since we lost her and we still have everything that was hers. We did eventually get rid of the crib and sold the crib mattress. The other stuff, I have thought about giving it to other family members or friends thats had a girl, but I just cant. Its all I have left of her. So there is nothing wrong with keeping the stuff, and for however long you want to.

I'm so very sorry for your loss, Momma. Please take your time grieving. I eventually got rid of furniture, but everything else- clothes, toys, bottles, etc. I put away in a special toybox that I purchased especially for that purpose. I couldn't part with those things. It's difficult, and I have a hard time going through his stuff, but at least I know that I have that part of him.
My thoughts are with you. Take care

i haven't experienced this myself, and i am so sorry for what you are going through but my advice would be to take your time getting rid of the stuff. do it at your own pace. you need space since you are moving so maybe you can ask someone to store it for you. lots of people have extra basement space. i would be happy to hold things like that for a friend.

my son died at 2 months old to. He would be 2 on december 8th. i still have almost all of his stuff. the crib i took down, but its still in my room. i use his dresser as my own. all of his clothes (and i to had clothes up through 3T) are in plastic bins that have a lid on them and are stored in our shed. all of his documents are in the bottom drawer of his dresser. but other than a few onsies, i still have everything. im just getting to the point where i dont mind lending stuff to people that he never wore. some shoes that he never wore that my cousin gave me are gonna go to a friend of my cousins. but its up to you. everyone goes through things differently. DONt get rid of stuff just because your mom wants you to. things i will NEVER get rid of, or let anyone else use include his binkies, his booties, some of his clothes, and no one but my future kids will use his crib. and the only real reason i have for that is that crib was over 450 dollars and his grandma got him that. i think it would be disrespectful to never use it again. but his first christmas outfit no one will ever wear. its just small sentimental stuff and its up to you on what that is.

Quoting August momma 08' & 09':“ When did you start to sell, pack up, or give away the things that once belonged to your angel? What special ... [snip!] ... any clothes and not a single winter jacket), I haven't been able to do anything with her other belongings. It's too painful.”

I completely understand you pain on this. I refused to give away ANYTHING that belongs to my son. I tryed to give some diapers to a friend who was 38 weeks prego at the time and she refused to take them she said keep it i think you wil have another one really soon. It made me feel a little better but I think she was scared to take any of the DEAD's baby stuff.. like itsd a ginks or something 

But I kept EVERYTHING.
I am TTC again....
But I couldnt give away ANYTHING either way. I decided to not even wash the clothes that he used right beofre passing.. the onse that I didnt put thhrougha laundry yet. I kept everything just the way it is. The bassinet is still in our bedroom next to our bed. For some reason I want it there even though my son slept there only half the time....

I dont know but I am not ready to give away ANYTHING, plus I am reallly focused on trying again.... I just cant live not being a mommy.....

I am sorry for your loss mama.. if you EVER need to talk we can edxchange number and maybe help each other coop or even cry together.

If It is too painful to get rid of stuff ...please dont.

You DONT have to rush things or do things that others expect of you. Do what is right for you in the right time frame for yourself.

I lost my son in May, and the only things that I was able to part with, were the things he never used. I have a "Hunter Shelf" where I have some of his clothes, his teddy bear, his hospital braclet and pictures and some other things of his put up in the house. I see it daily and it hurts sometimes...but it also helps to see it, so I remember he is around. Im so sorry mama.   I understand your pain.