re: I dont know what to do.

Quoting Emma♥Ethan:“ I understand. It is scary. But in the end, it comes down to what is best for your daughter. Do you want her daddy to be drunk all the time, and emotionally abusing mommy?”

Well he doesnt really drink that much. Only every once in awhile.
Normally when he goes over to his P.O.S friends house.
But honestly... i cannot provide for us like he does.
And that scares me he is able to buy us whatever we need.
Addison is able to have a nice house to live in & nice clothes to wear & nice toys to play with.

I would be working a dead end job that would be getting me no where.
And i would still struggle. And thats what REALLY scares me.

Quoting Cartman:“ That's really sad. Not on your part, but his. He would give up his family for these losers. He has a LOT of growing up to do.”

Ive said that and his reply is...
"i work 60hrs a week"

It sounds like you would be a lot better off without your SO... the way he treats you, the things he says to you, and the fact that he refuses to stick up for you are all pretty good indications. I say leave him.

Quoting Sarah-Addisons mommy:“ Well he doesnt really drink that much. Only every once in awhile. Normally when he goes over to his ... [snip!] ... would be working a dead end job that would be getting me no where. And i would still struggle. And thats what REALLY scares me.”

Hmm... maybe just ignore him for a while? Make him miss you and realize that he's hurting you?

I always play the "I'm so sad and pitiful" role when SO & I fight, and I always win.  

Quoting Emma♥Ethan:“ Hmm... maybe just ignore him for a while? Make him miss you and realize that he's hurting you? I always play the "I'm so sad and pitiful" role when SO & I fight, and I always win.  ”

I think I may try that.
Im going to do something to really make him feel bad lol.
Ill guilt trip him  

His friend may be a total scumbag loser, but it sounds like your SO has just as many issues. He shouldn't be letting anyone, friend or not, talk shit about you, nor should he threaten to leave you. He needs to be an adult and realise he has a family.

Even if it does turn into a big fight, you need to have it out with him.

And I'm sorry to say it but leaving him is a real consideration. Maybe he can provide more for your daughter than he can but money really isn't the only thing to consider. I wouldn't want my child around that friend of his, nor would I want them to see how Daddy treats Mommy. And it's not like he won't have to pay child support, so you'd have some help. And your daughter probably wouldn't hate you, but it would just get more difficult the older she gets.

I hope it doesn't come to that, though. Yell at him if you have to, but you can't let that situation go on. Good luck mama!

o.o

My SO got into a punch up with his best friend because he talked shit about me. You deserve better than that mama. I'd make him choose and when he goes to leave don't stop him.

He'll either come back and be a decent partner or he'll leave for good and you'll be less one idiot. GL!