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I'm new here. My name is Gaby and I got pregnant early summer two years ago. I wasn't planning on getting pregnant and either did the father, so it was a shock to begin with. He left, I continued, but lost the baby at 6 weeks. I haven't told anyone about it, I didn't see why. I dealed with it myself. I would have been due February 2008.

Quoting northwind:“ Hi, I'm Melissa and I live in (blah) northern Indiana. I found out I was pregnant with my third baby ... [snip!] ... I am now about 22 weeks pregnant with another girl and so far everything looks good and the doctor thinks she is healthy. ”

Melissa, I am SO sorry for your loss. I have read Isabel's story before. I am applying to volunteer for NILMDTS and I began to research anencephaly about a year ago for my thesis. I've cried through your story, and your baby was truly beautiful. I feel truly honored to have "met" you here.

I lost a pregnancy on January 1st of this year. I still can't talk about it. Great way to start the new year though, huh?  

My name is malaya i'am 17 years old i lost my baby girl On august 15th 2009 she was born 4 months early. When i lost my child it was a down fall and i have not yet been able to pick myself up from it yet, really i dont even no where to began with something like this. Everything was planned out and her room ready. Its sad because i named her after my brother that was killed a year ago on the same day she was suppose to be born, I didnt think anything like this could happen to me. Threw my pregnancy i had alot of trouble but i never pictured What was in store for me and my child. Some days i wake up and think i still see her face some may call is selfish i knew she was suffering but i just wanted her to hold on. Maybe time wasnt on our side, It just helps me alot not to keep this inside and my heart really goes out to anybody that has experienced this type of loss as well

Quoting malaya:“ My name is malaya i'am 17 years old i lost my baby girl On august 15th 2009 she was born 4 months early. ... [snip!] ... helps me alot not to keep this inside and my heart really goes out to anybody that has experienced this type of loss as well”

I'm so sorry for your loss! I had my baby boy 3 months early on Apr 21, 2008 and he only lived 12 days. I know exactly how you feel!

Hi everyone, My name is Michelle. I am 23 years old. On August 20th I lost my baby boy. He was bron at 20 weeks, he lived for 2 mins after I gave brith. This was mine and my husbands first child. The doctors haven't really told us why. The only thing they said was the was an infection in the placenta. They still don't know if that was why I had him early or what. I am trying t keep my head up. It is just hard. I would like to talk to someone who has been through this same type of loss.
Thanks.

***All of this was copied and pasted from my profile***
My first child was due October 4th of this year, but unfortunately my boyfriend and I lost her on May 16th, just a few days before hitting the 5 month mark in my pregnancy. There was an infection that found its way into my bloodstream and being of having low iron, my blood wasn't able to keep the infection out, which caused me to miscarry. So the doctors induced labor after confirming in an ultrasound that there was no fetal heartbeat, and at 6:13 pm, Carleigh Hope was delivered. She weighed about 11 oz and was 10 inches long, there was nothing physically wrong with her as far as the doctors could tell, and shortly after delivering her they brought her back into the room so that my boyfriend and I could hold her for a few minutes. It was bittersweet really, I'm glad that I was able to hold her in my arms for those short few minutes, but it pains me that I couldn't have done anything to protect and save her. Also after we had our time with her, the nurses allowed everyone else into my room to see us and Carleigh.

I had an IV put in, which the doctors decided to put me on two really strong antibiotics to help clear out the infection, and I had a blood transfusion from the massive loss of blood. On top of having the infection, and losing alot of blood, I had severe bowel issues, along with being anemic, and having a temperature of about 103 or 104. Two days before the 16th I went to the hospital because I didn't feel well, and was really dehydrated even though I had been drinking enough fluids. They never figured it out when I was there the first time and in the back of my mind I always think about, what if they would have noticed something when I was there the first time and not the second time on the 15th; could they have done something to save both Carleigh and me? But the thing is, I'll never know now.

I don't trust the hospital in my city at all anymore, because not only did they not do what they were supposed to with me and my pregnancy, but they messed up with my mom too. Don't get me wrong, I'm thankful for my life and I'm very happy that the doctors saved me, but I'm angry that they couldn't save my daughter.

August 1, 2009 my mom passed away, and I'm almost sure that if the same hospital would have kept her longer than one night and actually tried to figure out what all was wrong with her, then she would still be here today. It irritates me that I had to lose both my daughter and my mother this year, within the time frame of 2-3 months. I never realized how much pain that one person could suffer. My doctor wanted to put me on depression medication but I refused that, and then she decided that counseling was probably the best option for me, even though I never went. As long as I have my boyfriend, my family, and my friends, I'll be okay.

My boyfriend and I have decided that we're going to go to a different hospital than the one in our area. There are at least three others that are a ton better and are within an hours drive.

Quoting meggera007:“ ***All of this was copied and pasted from my profile*** My first child was due October 4th of this ... [snip!] ... hospital than the one in our area. There are at least three others that are a ton better and are within an hours drive.”

sadly all doctors are the same..if you tell them you think something's wrong they won't listen unless they have proof or it is really severe..I know because I went thru this with my 2nd pregnancy and he ended up being delivered early cause the docs didn't listen to me and get me blood pressure meds the 6 weeks I been on them before delivery and he only lived for 12 days. My 3rd pregnancy same thing except I stayed on their butts everyday for 3 weeks until the doctor said "you win! We're having a baby!" but by then I had been in labor for 2 days and kept being sent home..she was expected to weigh 6lb. 9oz. but she was onlyy 4lb. 15oz. and I think she had a dying placenta so she didn't get all her nutrients. I am so sorry for your loss tho.

My name is Jody. I am married to my wonderful husband Nathan for 7 years, and we have a beautiful almost-3-year-old son.

We waited a few years after getting married to have children, and when we did try to conceive the first time it happened easily and there were no complications throughout the pregnancy to speak of.

This time around, it took us nearly a year to conceive, and I've been having some spotting for almost a month. Today we learned that the fetus has no heartbeat, and probably died about 2 weeks ago. I am crushed, but hopeful that things will work out and we can try again soon.

Hi I'm Kacie and I have had 3 miscarriages since May 2008. My first in May 08 my second in Feb 09 and my most recent August/Sept 09...my levels are currently at 5. I am trying to find answers and have a hysterosalpingogram scheduled in a couple of weeks. My Husband and I want a baby so bad. I waited the recommended time to start TTC again (7mos. after the first and 5 mos. after the second) and still lost my babies. I have a heart shaped uterus and my Dr. seems to think that I have a uterine septum that the egg may be implanting in and that I may have to have it surgically removed. I really hope that is all that is going on and that I will have a successful pregnancy soon. My heart goes out to all of you that have lost your babies and I pray that we will all have healthy babies soon.

Hi, I'm Ashley and have had 1 m/c at 9 weeks in July 2009. It was my first and only pregnancy so far. My husband and I have been married 5 years, so obviously we waited awhile to start TTC. When we decided it was the right time, we got pregnant within 3 months of stopping BC pills after 9 years of taking them. We were so excited and on top of the world. Sadly, the baby died and I had to have a D&C at 9 weeks. If you want to know more details I have it on my profile.

As of this weekend we will be officially TTC again and I can't help but be worried that it will happen again.

Thanks for letting me share.

you will be in my prayer that everything goes well

I have posted on here b4 I just wanted to give everyone a update. I found out my baby had Trisomy 18 at 20 weeks decided to go along with the pregnancy so I wouldnt have any regrets. Sept 5 At 36 weeks I delivered my son Brayden michael Bundy he passed away at birth so we didnt hear him cry. I thought I was prepared for this but god knows I wasnt. Somedays I just dont want to get up I miss him moving inside me I just miss him so much!! I never new how much you can love someone you hardly even known. Everyone keeps saying time will heal I know its only been a week but Im hurting I have such a empty feeling that just wont go away.  we did keep him with us for about 4 hours I hated to let go but I knew i had to. I have three girls already and the 2 oldest ones held him he was my 1st boy!  we go to the Muslim  everyday to see him. Well hope to talk to someone

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Hi, I'm Suzy. I'm 24 years old & married. I've recently experienced the hardest thing that I've EVER been through. I've miscarried a baby at 6 weeks pregnant. I am trying to cope with the emotions and I'm doing better and better everyday, but I do have many questions/concerns about the future. BUT I am so blessed to already have a beautiful healthy 4 year old boy. He is the love of my life and is EVERYTHING to me! I believe in God's Grace and am HOPEFUL that I will concieve again and my little boy will someday be a big brother.

For those of you in similar situations here are a list of personal dates

OCTOBER 2008- Officially started TTC (stopped taking birth control pills)
MAY 2009- Still no luck concieving. Starting tracking ovulation.
MAY 8th 2009- 1st day of period
MAY 12th 2009- last day of period
MAY 23rd 2009- Ovulation- no conception
JUNE 19th 2009- 1st day of period
JUNE 23rd 2009- last day of period
JULY 4th- Ovultion & CONCEPTION
AUGUST 8th- went to ER for light spotting, I was 6 wks 3 days pregnant, the U/S showed the baby at 5 wks 6 days w/ no heartbeat.
AUGUST 9th- my first DR's appt. checked my HCG levels, then every wk on a Monday from then on. They kept decreasing (started at 3,700), along w/more bleeding, clots& pain. Dizzyness & weak. My Dr. had me start taking Vitamin C w/my prenatals.
AUGUST 29th- HCG 353, still bleeding, mild periodic pain
SEPTEMBER 8th- HCG 171, still bleeding, mild periodic pain

Quoting Sexy_Mexie:“ Hi everyone, My name is Michelle. I am 23 years old. On August 20th I lost my baby boy. He was bron at ... [snip!] ... t keep my head up. It is just hard. I would like to talk to someone who has been through this same type of loss. Thanks.”

i am so sorry for your loss...if you ever need someone to talk,just pm me..

I haven't been on here in a while. I lost my baby girl in the beginning of Feb at 38 weeks gestation to placenta abruption and no fluid. She had been dead before I found out for about a day. I delivered her by c-section on Feb 5, 2009at 18:21! She weighed 5lb. 10oz. and she was 18 1/2 in. long!
I got to hold her for 30 minutes after I came out of recovery. She was sooo beautiful! She hada head full of black hair!I just wish she could have came home with me! The hospital took a picture of her for me and printed it out but I don't have a scanner to upload it right now. I miss my baby girl sooo much! I don't know how I am going to deal with losing her especially being 38 weeks and expecting a healthy baby! We were so ready! I had her nursery done and all her clothes washed! I don't know if I am going to try again because I don't want to lose another baby! Thanks for reading my post and I am sorry for all the other losses!